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  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
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    I don't mind either. If someone doesn't comment, I don't really care. I'm not doing this for the comments. If someone comments I just thank them, regardless of the comment. I generally tend to not over-analyze what people say because they most likely did not mean it in a bad way and just happen to have a "foot in mouth" issue.

    Maybe it's just me, because I have a very high offense threshold and it takes more than most people are capable of to offend me.
  • MimiOfTheLusciousLawn
    MimiOfTheLusciousLawn Posts: 2,212 Member
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    Back in the day, I hated the attention and comments and they would derail me. Every time. This time around, I was armed and ready - and it seemed like they never came! Finally, 100# down and people began to comment. I thanked them and moved on.

    Weirdly, now 165# down, EVERYONE comments. Worse yet, I've gotten four "omg, I didn't recognize you"s in the past 2 weeks. Comments I can handle, compliments are great, but the inevitable "how much have you lost" really, really plays in my head. I still, obviously, have more to lose (about 60-70#). I abhor the idea of people doing the math and realizing I was over 400#. I feel like lying and saying 65#, but I just blow past the answer with "a lot." How would you answer that?

    "I have no idea, I never used to weigh myself"

    Great answer!!
  • Triplestep
    Triplestep Posts: 239 Member
    edited February 2016
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    I feel like lying and saying 65#, but I just blow past the answer with "a lot." How would you answer that?
    I tell people that I've lost some, but mostly "rearranged" it with resistance training. You can always tell them you don't know exactly how much you've lost - that you stopped weighing yourself at 50# lost (or whatever number you pick.). Not exactly true, but it subtly tells people not to be concerned with the exact number because you're not.
  • Mavrick_RN
    Mavrick_RN Posts: 439 Member
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    Back in the day, I hated the attention and comments and they would derail me. Every time. This time around, I was armed and ready - and it seemed like they never came! Finally, 100# down and people began to comment. I thanked them and moved on.

    Weirdly, now 165# down, EVERYONE comments. Worse yet, I've gotten four "omg, I didn't recognize you"s in the past 2 weeks. Comments I can handle, compliments are great, but the inevitable "how much have you lost" really, really plays in my head. I still, obviously, have more to lose (about 60-70#). I abhor the idea of people doing the math and realizing I was over 400#. I feel like lying and saying 65#, but I just blow past the answer with "a lot." How would you answer that?

    "Let's just say over 100 and leave it at that, shall we? and thank you very much"
  • amusedmonkey
    amusedmonkey Posts: 10,330 Member
    edited February 2016
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    I don't know, when I'm asked how much weight I lost I reply with the exact number. Just like I answered with my real weight back at my highest if asked without even blinking. People aren't blind. They have seen me at my heaviest. That was ME, not some kind of distant alternate universe version I talk about in 3rd person. I wasn't ashamed of being fat back then and I don't personally see the point of being ashamed of how fat I used to be now.

    Now there is the "none of their business" perspective if I want to play the devil's advocate, so I do understand it. It's just not a big deal for me personally.
  • RedLipsRedDress
    RedLipsRedDress Posts: 125 Member
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    I don't know, when I'm asked how much weight I lost I reply with the exact number. Just like I answered with my real weight back at my highest if asked without even blinking. People aren't blind. They have seen me at my heaviest. That was ME, not some kind of distant alternate universe version I talk about in 3rd person. I wasn't ashamed of being fat back then and I don't personally see the point of being ashamed of how fat I used to be now.

    Now there is the "none of their business" perspective if I want to play the devil's advocate, so I do understand it. It's just not a big deal for me personally.

    I agree. I used to dislike the idea of sharing the exact numbers with people but honestly, it's so much easier to just say it and let go. For me it's a part of the process- I don't want to hate my body or be ashamed of anything about it.
  • Osiris275
    Osiris275 Posts: 228 Member
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    I don't mind people noticing but I'd rather they didn't make a big deal of it. I find it embarrassing that I had to lose weight and don't particularly like to talk about it.

    Maybe that will change once I reach my goal weight :)
  • bisky
    bisky Posts: 1,040 Member
    edited February 2016
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    I would rather people say oh you look healthy....not skinny or focus on the weight loss itself but on making healthy lifestyle changes. Hate it when people say oh you can ......(cookies, cakes, desserts, blah, blah blah) because no I can't...l don't want to be Type 2 diabetes or pre diabetes or heavy. I want to stay out of hospitals, dR offices, be strong and healthy.

    If it is someone with a weight problem and struggling then I am more than happy to share more info.
  • Triplestep
    Triplestep Posts: 239 Member
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    ... I don't want to hate my body or be ashamed of anything about it.

    Well, I don't WANT to be ashamed over anything about my body, either ... but I am :wink: so I'll just try to focus the attention on something else when someone comments
  • mistress8956
    mistress8956 Posts: 265 Member
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    I don't really care either way. If someone mentions it it makes me feel good that it's noticeable, but at the same point if they don't say anything that's fine too because it's not about them it's about me. I'm pretty open with it with friends/family and even coworkers who see me/ and what I eat every day. I wouldn't go posting it or bragging about it all over Facebook/Twitter or something though
  • CoffeeNCardio
    CoffeeNCardio Posts: 1,847 Member
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    Honestly I get more annoyed when people lie to me than anything. Yes, I WAS fat before. And you claiming otherwise is both absurd and irritating. I get equally upset when people say "oh but you've lost so much weight you can quit now!" I really can't. I'm still in the top of the overweight bmi, and that's not even to mention the fact that I made this goal for myself and it's none of your dam business what I do with my body.
  • gandssmith
    gandssmith Posts: 67 Member
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    Honestly I get more annoyed when people lie to me than anything. Yes, I WAS fat before. And you claiming otherwise is both absurd and irritating. I get equally upset when people say "oh but you've lost so much weight you can quit now!" I really can't. I'm still in the top of the overweight bmi, and that's not even to mention the fact that I made this goal for myself and it's none of your dam business what I do with my body.

    I had the same problem. People asking me how much I've lost and then telling me I don't need to lose anymore. I'm like really???? I'm still technically considered overweight. At that point I was probably still 3 or 4 pounds from a "healthy bmi". I've gained some back since then and am working to get it back off but the point is I felt so proud of myself for working hard and getting to where I was and then ppl have to come along and plant a seed of doubt. I just wish ppl would think before they speak. Because of this I've tried to never tell somebody "they don't need to lose anymore". Just bc I think you look fine, doesn't mean that person is where they want to be.
  • dutchandkiwi
    dutchandkiwi Posts: 1,389 Member
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    gandssmith wrote: »
    Honestly I get more annoyed when people lie to me than anything. Yes, I WAS fat before. And you claiming otherwise is both absurd and irritating. I get equally upset when people say "oh but you've lost so much weight you can quit now!" I really can't. I'm still in the top of the overweight bmi, and that's not even to mention the fact that I made this goal for myself and it's none of your dam business what I do with my body.

    I had the same problem. People asking me how much I've lost and then telling me I don't need to lose anymore. I'm like really???? I'm still technically considered overweight. At that point I was probably still 3 or 4 pounds from a "healthy bmi". I've gained some back since then and am working to get it back off but the point is I felt so proud of myself for working hard and getting to where I was and then ppl have to come along and plant a seed of doubt. I just wish ppl would think before they speak. Because of this I've tried to never tell somebody "they don't need to lose anymore". Just bc I think you look fine, doesn't mean that person is where they want to be.

    I had this yesterday again. In the end I was in the middle between three ladies 1. asking me how much I'd lost, 2. what I weighed now - When I answered I do not know as I don't weigh myself one insisted on caclulated it on average sizes and loss charts totally ignoring my I don't care and not interested, plus continuing to tell me I should eat the big chocoalte easter egg as I as way to strict on myself - which made me bite my tongue not to respond back as to why I am loosing an you are not. I managed to extract myself from the quite intimidating circle they had formed around me. It felt really as if my personal space was invaded

    I know I have lost a lot of weight and if asked at the start I would have been more than happy to be here. But my goals have changed and it is none of their business. Even wearing a wide skirt could not hide it anymore. but I get sooo tired of this type of third degree. I am so much more than just a number on a scale and damn it I loath being the centre of attention and put into a spotlight that I did not seek (I am an introvert, my personal space may be a bit larger than of some) all these three ladies have known that about me for years. I hate to say it but it is at time like that when people are gloating over me, people that had nothing to do with what I achieved that I get so incredible sad and self consious. I really need to focus then that I do this for me, myself and I. If not focussing on that all I want to do after such an episode is run off to my own little cave, hide and yes eat that huge easter egg, just te be rid of these comments.

    I did not but I did get away from them and sat on the couch on my own for a little to recuperate.
  • 47Jacqueline
    47Jacqueline Posts: 6,993 Member
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    No one says anything and I don't want to hear about it anyway.
  • Snipsa
    Snipsa Posts: 172 Member
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    During the last two weeks I have had a number of people noticing/commenting. I didn't mind telling them how much I've lost thus far, but I made the mistake of telling one of these people that I still have as much left to lose as I've lost thus far (about 12Kg) and got the inevitable comments about where I think that weight could possibly come off - even though I'm still technically overweight by 6Kg and thus aiming for a relatively modest BMI of around 21 to 22 as my ultimate goal weight...

    Now I just don't mention the fact that I'm still looking to lose weight, but rather focus their attention on my fitness goals (which are more important to me in anycase...)
  • amyn73
    amyn73 Posts: 241 Member
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    I've been up and down so much that people don't even comment anymore. I'm thankful for that this time because I am really focusing on long term success.
  • bketchum1981
    bketchum1981 Posts: 130 Member
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    I'm about the here and now. I don't want to go back. Comment away!
  • TxTiffani
    TxTiffani Posts: 798 Member
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    I can't wait for someone to comment...it means they can tell a difference from all my hard work. I'm not a super private person though so I don't mind discussing just about anything;)
  • dramaqueen45
    dramaqueen45 Posts: 1,009 Member
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    I don't mind compliments and brief comments from people who I know casually, and my closer friends I don't mind telling them more details if they ask. I don't like people gushing over me and going on and on about how "you look so much younger!" and "I can't get over it, you're so thin!" It's like- okay new topic. Luckily I don't have many that do that.
  • Rocknut53
    Rocknut53 Posts: 1,794 Member
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    amyn73 wrote: »
    I've been up and down so much that people don't even comment anymore. I'm thankful for that this time because I am really focusing on long term success.

    Same here. If you mention the weight loss they might just roll their eyes and think to themselves, "yea, right, seen this before." I am, like you, focusing on long term success.
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