To sleeve or not to sleeve. That is the question

Pinkylee77

You have made a big step as some one else said don't let anyone talk you into or out of surgery. I live with someone who has had a lap band it is a tool and he still struggles with his issues as will you. I would do it if my weight becomes uncontrollable. I have a friend who did and she looks amazing and is happy but for some women the attention they attract is scary and they gain weight back. Empower yourself to get healthy by however you have to. Good luck you can do it.

kommodevaran

Pinkylee77 wrote: »

You have made a big step as some one else said don't let anyone talk you into or out of surgery. I live with someone who has had a lap band it is a tool and he still struggles with his issues as will you. I would do it if my weight becomes uncontrollable. I have a friend who did and she looks amazing and is happy but for some women the attention they attract is scary and they gain weight back. Empower yourself to get healthy by however you have to. Good luck you can do it.

To the first bolded part - overweight is caused by overeating that is out of control; and it can be controlled.

To the second part - what?

disasterman

The only person I know who has done it seems to have gained most of the weight back after a couple years. Personally, I'd rather do just about anything to avoid surgery of any kind.

stealthq

kommodevaran wrote: »

Pinkylee77 wrote: »

You have made a big step as some one else said don't let anyone talk you into or out of surgery. I live with someone who has had a lap band it is a tool and he still struggles with his issues as will you. I would do it if my weight becomes uncontrollable. I have a friend who did and she looks amazing and is happy but for some women the attention they attract is scary and they gain weight back. Empower yourself to get healthy by however you have to. Good luck you can do it.

To the first bolded part - overweight is caused by overeating that is out of control; and it can be controlled.

To the second part - what?

It's not a terribly uncommon reaction to weight loss. Some women either became fat in order to 'hide' (think sexual assault victims) or became used to being kind of part of the background as a consequence of being fat. They lose weight, suddenly get attention they don't want and/or aren't used to and they start gaining again. Some because it hurts their confidence and they turn to food, some because they're just that uncomfortable being approached that way that they deliberately start eating to gain.

kimny72

KrysKiss87 wrote: »

senecarr wrote: »

kommodevaran wrote: »

KrysKiss87 wrote: »

Just to clarify, I do not view the surgery as a "quick fix" I'm aware that it will take diet and exercise no matter what I decide and I know my lifestyle has to change for long term results. This is something I am working on and have been for the last year. Believe me Surgery is my last resort option. I'm not looking at it as a magic pill that will make the weight just fall off. I've done mountains of research and lots of soul searching to even come to the conclusion that it MIGHT be an option. (which is why I pulled the trigger on starting the process) I'm having second thoughts because I know that lifestyle changes have to occur no matter what, and they have, but my weight keeps fluctuating. I would come up with some brilliant excuse as to why I haven't been logging, but the truth is I got lazy and complacent. I taught myself not to justify or make excuses a long time ago. Many a time I have kicked my own *kitten* into gear and scolded myself for my " I don't have time to work out" or my "one more cookie won't hurt me" excuses. I don't make those excuses anymore and I do eat well, which is why I am concerned about not losing the way I should. I'm leaning toward cancelling the surgery and giving myself more time. I'm doing this weight loss thing for my son. He needs me, so maybe it's a better example for him to do things the long and more difficult way. It would be a hell of a victory story to tell him when hes older.

What do you mean by eating well, and losing the way you should? If you eat less than you burn, you will lose weight, and that's how WLS works too, just by forcing you to eat less. Are you losing weight? You can expect to lose 1% of your body weight per week if you stick to your allotted calories. But you have to do it consistently. Maybe you could find another method than calorie counting, if it's the logging that wears you out. You can use the plate model or the No S Diet, which are just structured ways of eating normally. But no matter which method you choose, you have to commit to it, and if you cheat, it's not going to work.

This is what I'm seeing. No actual measurement of anything.

If nothing of the process is being measured or controlled (food, exercise) how can one expect to measure a change in results (weight)?

You two are absolutely right. I think the problem I am having is mostly misjudging what I am really putting into my body and not keeping a good enough record. I also need to tighten up my exercise routine to more than just walking. I'm pretty active, but obviously not active enough if I'm not seeing the scale move.

OP, if you are having doubts, and you aren't currently experiencing a health issue that requires you to lose the weight as quickly as possible, it seems like you have one more option to try. If you don't have one, buy a food scale and commit to logging accurately and consistently for some realistic period of time. Not when you feel like it, not when it's convenient, but every bite, and for long enough to make it just another habit in your day, like brushing your teeth. Do you have someone in your life who you trust to not judge you but to hold you accountable? Ask them to check in with you, see if you are sticking to the plan, and remind you why you are doing it. Pick a time every week when you prep food for the week. Try pre-logging your food for the day, then you don't have to struggle with choices all day, just eat what you logged. And if you have a day that you eat too much, learn from it. Really figure out WHY it happened and what you can do to avoid that same situation or deal with it better in the future.

WLS certainly has its place, but if you aren't sure, it is a big decision and maybe doing the day-to-day work will be easier to commit to if it will keep you from the last resort. Whatever you decide, best of luck!

Pinkylee77

stealthq wrote: »

kommodevaran wrote: »

Pinkylee77 wrote: »

You have made a big step as some one else said don't let anyone talk you into or out of surgery. I live with someone who has had a lap band it is a tool and he still struggles with his issues as will you. I would do it if my weight becomes uncontrollable. I have a friend who did and she looks amazing and is happy but for some women the attention they attract is scary and they gain weight back. Empower yourself to get healthy by however you have to. Good luck you can do it.

To the first bolded part - overweight is caused by overeating that is out of control; and it can be controlled.

To the second part - what?

It's not a terribly uncommon reaction to weight loss. Some women either became fat in order to 'hide' (think sexual assault victims) or became used to being kind of part of the background as a consequence of being fat. They lose weight, suddenly get attention they don't want and/or aren't used to and they start gaining again. Some because it hurts their confidence and they turn to food, some because they're just that uncomfortable being approached that way that they deliberately start eating to gain.

Exactly! It is very common in women that experienced childhood sexual abuse too. Obesity is sometimes about what goes on in the head as much as what goes in the mouth.