It's pink shirt day. Were you bullied at school?

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  • RedLipsRedDress
    RedLipsRedDress Posts: 125 Member
    @brb_2013 I also had problems with boys mostly. Sometimes girls mocked my clothes but were never that aggressive.
    I find the "slut" shaming strange because I have never ever seen anyone at school mock a girl for sleeping with someone or posting pics in underwear. Kids in my country tend to be cruel to virgins more often than not.
    @backontheattack As a person who works in oncology , I can't believe what you said! Now i remembered one of the meanest boys in my class got sick when we were 17, he had Ewing sarcoma and needed palliative surgeries. Everyone in the class donated money, even me. We all cried and went to church when he passed away. How could anyone laugh at cancer?!
  • backontheattack
    backontheattack Posts: 3,178 Member
    @helenapanda

    it was the early 90s, and there wasn't very many cases of ALL around. So I like to believe it was the fear of not knowing what it was exactly or understanding it.
  • GrooveMerchant
    GrooveMerchant Posts: 44 Member
    Mercilessly. Although there was a day when my big brother pinned the head *kitten* against the hood of his own car and told him to leave me alone, which was pretty rad.
    One of my biggest regrets though was just taking it, and feeling ashamed/embarrassed by it. I should have fought back. But I've thought on it as an adult, and it just doesn't really matter to me anymore. If face to face with any of those people now, I wouldn't even bring it up. They hold no power over me.
  • Char231023
    Char231023 Posts: 700 Member
    Girls are much more vicious when it comes to bulling other girls. They know exactly what insecurities all girls face and they have no trouble exploiting those insecurities in other girls. In some cases for their own amusement.
  • blues4miles
    blues4miles Posts: 1,481 Member
    Char231023 wrote: »
    Girls are much more vicious when it comes to bulling other girls. They know exactly what insecurities all girls face and they have no trouble exploiting those insecurities in other girls. In some cases for their own amusement.

    Yeah. I feel like the boys would call me a b- or call me fat and I could just shrug it off. But somehow with the girls...a lot of them were my friends first, or so I thought, and that made it hard. I struggled all the way from about 4th grade through high school not really having too many close friends who I could trust. Or those that did were outside my classes. So going to my classes was like a nightmare of being alone and feeling ostracized. I got my curves a lot sooner than a lot of my fellow classmates and felt fat and clumsy. Looking back I wasn't even overweight but I remember really resenting my chest. It never really "got" me boys, all the thinner girls were considered much more conventionally attractive. It just felt like something in my way that drew more attention to me, and like other women here I just wanted to hide and blend in.

    It's crazy what growing up did. It probably wasn't until after college when I got married and started working full time that I really stopped caring what other people thought of me, especially in regards to appearance. Not to say I don't get self conscious or have anxiety but I wish teenage me had HALF the confidence I have today.
  • shrinkingletters
    shrinkingletters Posts: 1,008 Member
    I was definitely bullied as a kid. I was an ugly duckling: small, tubby, braces, frizzy hair, unibrow, and a total teachers pet and bookworm. The bullying only got worse because I would always talk back and be a smartass in self-defense. I've been beat up by several girls at a time, had things stolen from me, some boys once held me and punched me in the gut, and a kid smashed my face into a tree and broke my nose.

    It definitely messed with me for years and to this day, I think it has shaped a lot of my personality. I'm very self-assured and intelligent and own my personality and make lots of friends and when I was single, never had trouble getting dates, so people maybe don't perceive me as someone who was bullied. I am still very much a bookworm and am most comfortable being a loner where it feels safest, I suppose. I still am very skeptical of new people, especially if they take a liking to me, and I definitely put up a lot of walls.

    I did eventually strike back and when I did, I wailed on a girl who tried to knock me over a bench. Guess you could say I had a lot of pent up aggression. I ended up taking karate as a kid and excelling at it, and enjoyed solo sports like running and now I enjoy archery.

    I'd gladly give up a little of knowing I could take a punch and dole it back out, physically and verbally if it meant I didn't have to go through half of what I did as a kid.
  • azulvioleta6
    azulvioleta6 Posts: 4,195 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    Yep. I was a full head taller than everyone in the class starting in Kindergarten. The teachers wouldn't accept me in the class on the first day. They tried to send me to the second floor to the fifth grade classrooms. It took some convincing, but they finally believed I was who I said I was and accepted that my name was on the Kindergarten roster. Not a good start.

    This sounds familiar. :) I started school a year early, but was still far bigger than everyone else until I skipped 8th grade. At that point everybody had 2 years on me and some of the boys were taller.

    The other annoying problem that I had was that the ladies in the office would never believe that my sister was related to me as we give the impression of being different races. Nope--full siblings! They would never let me pick up her school pictures, etc.

    I was definitely teased, especially when I was very young...but I don't know if I would call it bullying. I have always been big, strong and clever, so I'm not a great target in any way. I never actually had to beat anyone up...but looking like I could was helpful.

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