why is losing weight so hard
boyter77
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41 and struggling to lose weight. I am thinking so hard about the gastro bypass.
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Why is it so hard? Being patient is hard.0
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Getting up early is hard/getting motivated when you come home is hard. Saying no to delicious food is hard. Logging your food is hard. Working out is hard. Really hard. Not wanting seconds, or thirds, or fourths, is hard. Seeing others eat what they want and look skinnier than you - it's hard. Feeling bad about yourself, sometimes depressed, and not associating it with food - it's hard. It's all so tough. But something clicks and you say, I can do a little today. Then you can do a little more tomorrow. Habits are hard to change. But so many great people are testament to it here - you can change. You can move a little more. You can eat a little less. By the time you feel good about that, you feel a stronger and healthier and sleep better and notice that the stairs aren't so hard, you move even MORE. You can do this.0
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Agree with queenliz99!! Also, it is counter-cultural to delay self-gratification. Human eating habits are heard to break!! We have so much food available, that there are countless decisions to be made about what we eat each day!! You have to really really commit to the process to make it work.0
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Read the success stories and you will see that there are a lot of people on here who have been where you are but have pushed on to success with just adjusting their diet and lifestyle rather than having surgery. I can understand why you are contemplating it but it is a big step and does have some risk. I am sure if you are determined enough you can succeed. Take heart and don't give up.0
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Losing weight is a simple process of eating less than you burn. All surgery will do for you, is to force that to happen. You will have to be more specific with what you are struggling with.0
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anything worth having in life is hard0
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Because the calorie deficit is hard. It is corrective action to fix a health problem we all got into. This is why they say if it was easy everyone would do it. Sometimes it's because people focus too much on the results and not enough on the process or the healthy lifestyle and all the NSV's.
“You would only fail to accomplish something if you were focused on the outcome.” If you continue to focus on the outcome and results, it may not be what you expected. Once you let go of that, you have accomplishment.
You have passion.
You will go do great things.
Every day.
You will have a PRIZEFIGHTER VICTORY day every day.
-Tips from “Own Your Success” by Ben Newman
It is hard because we have an overabundance of food. Humans were meant to eat when stressed and when food was available, well that is all the time now in the last 100 years of modern society, so obesity climbs.
So we have to find ways to get comfort from things other than food. We have to retrain ourselves. Sometimes when we think we are hungry we really need some other primal comfort; warmth, coolness, human touch, sleep. A hot bath, a cool dip in the pool, a nap or just go to bed, a hot cup of tea, a big drink of water, a massage, a hug, talking to someone who cares and listens, writing in a journal.
Next time you think you are hungry, try one of those other things. You might learn something about your hunger, if you just listen.
gastro bypass does not help you train yourself in these things, so it might not end up helping you in the end. I know several who have it permanently and they gained all their weight back and then some. It does not really fix the problem.
The problem is there is too much food available. You can fix it by going somewhere in the world where you won't have all the food and living there. Or, you can learn to navigate all the too much food - which is essentially like swimming up stream for our lives, but you can adapt and relax about it and retrain yourself.0 -
I went into this on a very strict high protein low carb diet and only lasted a month with it. I loved that I was shedding the pounds but I hated the same foods day in and day out. I'm glad I started out that way because it opened my eyes to a new way of eating. I look at the protein, fat and the fiber to help me stay satisfied longer. I do eat my allowance of carbs and I weigh all my food with a digital scale. I love my scale! Numbers make sense to me and I like that I can weigh food to the gram. You fall off the wagon, you jump back on it the next day and hit it hard with a vengeance. Show who the boss is! Once you start getting deep into a weight loss journey, the plus side is that you have gained so much knowledge that will stay with you. Yes, I'll have the lasagna but I'll skip the dessert and can I substitute the garlic bread for a salad? Lol It becomes a lifestyle change in a therapeutic kind of way. I wish you the best of luck! Stay true and kick some butt!!0
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I have a friend who had gastric bypass and gained lots of weight back. Her and I are part of a health plan that has created health in all aspects of our lives she lost 70lbs and I lost 117. The first thing you have to change is not what you eat but your mindset. There is a solution that doesn't include surgery!!!0
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41 and struggling to lose weight. I am thinking so hard about the gastro bypass.
Now THAT would be hard, it would change your life forever to have surgical procedure. It's not magical from what ppl have shared that have talked about it. I don't know anyone that has been able to keep the weight off a year. Now I'm not saying there aren't ppl out there in the world but I think by changing your eating habits and changing the way you think about food will give you far better results than a knife in the surgeons hand.
Think long and hard... some ppl have absolutely no choice they must do surgery or they'll die... but even to do the surgery don't ppl have to lose a chunk of weight first?
Hope you give MFP a try first
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I agree, it's in the head, not the stomach. And it's hard because, if you had had ancestors who could easily pass up food when it was over-available, they'd have starved to death in the next famine and you would never have been born. This business of everyone having lots and lots more food than they need all the time is brand-new to your body. Your mind, however, is a lot more adaptable: it can learn in one lifetime how to deal with conditions that human beings have never experienced before. Put your head in charge!0
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I totally agree. I haven't lose weight at all.... It passing almost two weeks.....bleh0
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Because if it were easy, there wouldn't be people that are overweight. The body is great at storage and not at releasing it. It takes commitment and discipline for it to happen.
As for gastric bypass, that may not solve your issue. Your issue is control of your calories. Getting a procedure done rarely addresses the problem of CONTROL and it's NOT uncommon for people who do GB to not lose weight after 6 months or so.
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Don't worry about eating "clean" or sticking to any resolutions or diet plans.
Just worry about eating under your calorie limit.
You can make room for what you desire the most with a little planning.
This doesn't all have to be too complicated.0 -
You didn't get to this point overnight - so with that in mind - it does take time to turn that station wagon back into a sports car. Keep after it!0
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Life is hard in general. But you have to stand strong and fight back, to get your health back. Gastric bypass will not teach you to exercise nor good eating habits. I'm struggling with my weight as well but be persistent, DON'T ever give up, and push through those mental road blocks that keep telling you that you can't. My aunt had the bypass, and gained 150 lbs after having it done because she didn't improve on anything.
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Biologically you are basically wired up to resist weight loss and promote weight regain.
That and changing behaviors permanently is really, really hard.
And maintaining weight loss appears to be even harder than losing it in the first place.
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The good news is, once you do manage to change your behavior, it wants to stick, not revert.0
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Nothing about weight loss makes sense. I can stick to my program for weeks or even months and barely lose anything. Then, I'll have cake and ice cream at a party and boom, 5lbs literally overnight. There goes months of progress for nothing. It's total crap. Meanwhile every ab-hole on planet gets to brag about how they eat pizza and ice cream constantly. It's garbage.0
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I totally agree. I haven't lose weight at all.... It passing almost two weeks.....bleh
See this is the issue^^^^ Almost 2 weeks? PATIENCE. You can't expect things to happen instantaneously.
@boyter77 It's a process...it takes time is the bottom line and the first step is learning Calories In/Calories Out. Give this site a try. Log everything. Be honest when you have bad days as well as good. Seek help from the MFP community. Read the Success Stories. It can be done. This is your first step. I wish you well. You can do this!0 -
You've gotta really want it, keep going forward, and doing give up so easily! I used to give up when I didnt lose after a month or so, dont do it!0
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Not to put this particular guy on the spot but this is how he started. he is one of my MFP friends so I see him constantly putting in the effort, blogging, updating, and he is yielding results....the healthy way through the ups and downs of trying to figure this new way of life. You should message him and follow his progress. It may give you a little motivation. This was his initial post when he started 2 months ago.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10317755/560lbs-long-way-to-go-who-has-my-back/p10 -
surgery isn't easy. If you don't have the willpower now to resist temptation, then surgery will be a nightmare for you. I have a friend going through it and I honestly couldn't live like that post op. I can be honest with myself.
Just be patient. I have to tell myself that I have to repeat good days more than twice to see results.0 -
Losing weight is hard because good is good! But staying overweight is even harder, because of the pain, medical conditions, lethargy, difficulty moving, and poor self image that often accompany it.0
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Losing weight is actually easy. It's the maintaining that's hard - at least, that's been my experience.0
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socioseguro wrote: »anything worth having in life is hard
this is something I always remind myself of. If it's easy it's nothing special or worth it.0 -
Think long and hard before surgery. I've seen videos on youtube and there have been people who had a lot of problems post-surgery such as, diarrhea and basically felt I'll when overeating or eating a high fat meal. I personally would prefer to learn new healthy eating/lifestyle, than put myself at risk for future lifelong complications, not to mention some people come out of surgery don't know proper eating habits and don't even lose much because they end up stretching out their stomachs again from overeating.0
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