Lack of support

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  • Obnoxa
    Obnoxa Posts: 187 Member
    ... And not sure who I offended with my first choice of words to describe my 'person' who birthed me but I honestly apologize.
    I carry a lot of residual animosity towards my mother and am quick to get carried away in my emotional hurricane on all things related to her.
    No excuse for random potty mouth, but it is what it is :/
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    First of all, big cheers for your NSV (Non-scale victory)! Your on campus support group sounds perfect for the validation you need.

    You now have fair warning not to seek validation from your mother, so you can stop that. My mother was similar.
  • sanfromny
    sanfromny Posts: 770 Member
    1st- Anyone saying move out must understand that being a broke college student makes that sentiment very difficult.

    Here's the thing @jessicaallen1996 , When I was your age my mother used to do the same thing bc frankly, she didn't believe me. It's the old saying "talk is cheap". I'd lose weight, be excited, then put it right back on, sometimes plus more. So don't do this for your mother's approval. Do it for yourself. Stick to it, MFP is great for keeping you on track as long as you use it. Don't mention anything to her anymore. Every small victory, look in the mirror and congratulate yourself. The only way you'll prove it to her is to do it. When I finally figured it out I was much older, now she has nothing to really say. She's amazed. She told me she never thought I'd do it but I did and you can do. I wish you wellness!!
  • dawniemate
    dawniemate Posts: 395 Member
    jessicaallen1996 wrote: »
    So I'm 20 years old, a full time student as well as working 24/36 hours a week.... I still live at home to save money. I was super happy because I lost weight this week( down 1.8 pounds!!). As well as that I tried on my favorite pair of jeans that I've had to use the rubber band trick on for 9 months, and they fit perfectly! So I went out and told my parents how ecstatic I was, and my mom totally pooped on my parade. She not picked that I had a muffin top( news flash I'm making my way down from 295 I'm going to have a muffin top for a while!). And also that my *kitten* was showing , which it wasn't. My jeans go up to my belly button , front and back.

    It's really frustrating because I'm working so hard and she's trying to pull me down like always. My question is how do you deal with situations like this. Today I brought it to her attention that she was hurting my feelings, and that I've worked extremely hard but she just doesn't stop. She just kept not picking.

    We support you. ....well done keep going :wink:
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,738 Member
    Obnoxa wrote: »
    ... And not sure who I offended with my first choice of words to describe my 'person' who birthed me but I honestly apologize.
    I carry a lot of residual animosity towards my mother and am quick to get carried away in my emotional hurricane on all things related to her.
    No excuse for random potty mouth, but it is what it is :/

    Yeah, I was wondering what was edited from your post and why, but good for you for posting this follow-up. We all have our "things" and our hot buttons. I cut my mom out of my life for many years. Well, initially it was her choice due to a religious difference, but once we had zero contact my life was so much easier! That lasted for about 8 years. Now she wants to be back in my life, but I'm hesitant and careful. No need to deal with the negativity and the drama.
  • jessicaallen1996
    jessicaallen1996 Posts: 50 Member
    It said MFP staff removed it for language. I have no issue with it. I kinda filled in the blanks. Thank you all for support! It means so much!
  • cross2bear
    cross2bear Posts: 1,106 Member
    When I read some of these posts, I feel very lucky that my mother and I have a relationship that recognizes the adults that we are, and that we are able to share stuff with each other and not worry about judgement (if she judges me, she doesnt let on!). Congrats on your weight loss and learn from these experiences with your mother - now you know how NOT to speak when you have your own kids!!

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