Bad weekend...stop the madness
75poundgoal
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So I had a very high calorie weekend because I had a lot of stuff going on and I didn't stay focused on eating right. The worst was Saturday night at a function for my daughters school where they served lots of food, dessert and booze. I overindulged to say the least. Today I feel sluggish and tired but I am going to make myself accountable and get back on track. I need to lose 5 lbs in order to break into the 230's which is a short term goal for me. I am going to do it over the next 2 weeks. I haven't been that light since I was in high school 20+ years ago. I am posting this so it will be out there and I will be accountable. No more weekend slacking!!!
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We all have our cheat moments... But if I do then I get straight back on track and push even harder at the gym! I have lost 5lb in the last 2 weeks ... If I can do it, I'm sure you can0
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You can do it!!!!.... Weekends are my downfall as well.0
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My weekend is almost never easy with eating. My wife sort of needs to go out so it's difficult to control it.
However it seems ok when I pay close attention to what my body wants. Like, last weekend I realized I just craved, wanted to eat fat, protein. I was surprised that I ate soooo much and only beef and chicken dishes (El Torito lunch buffet) and felt really stuffed and satiated but the scale only move up half a pound next day!
This fits with my philosophy. I don't eat indiscriminately. I don't like moderation that is a bit of this and that. This helps with satisfaction and craving control.
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I ate two boxes of frozen white castle burgers and copious amounts of booze over the weekend. It happens but one or two bad days is not going to hurt in the long run. Just keep doing what you do.0
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dopeheathen wrote: »I ate two boxes of frozen white castle burgers and copious amounts of booze over the weekend.
You. I like you.0 -
charglamour wrote: »We all have our cheat human moments...
Fixed that for you. I ate a big breakfast and then went out to eat last night, on top of a hockey game on Saturday. Life happens.0 -
I always seem to slack on the weekends. For some reason, Friday night rolls around and I am like, "Screw it, I need a beer and some tacos!" And then that attitude persists throughout the weekend and I wake up Monday morning feeling horrible and having regrets. So I start all over. It's a never ending cycle that I can't seem to get out of.0
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75poundgoal wrote: »So I had a very high calorie weekend because I had a lot of stuff going on and I didn't stay focused on eating right. The worst was Saturday night at a function for my daughters school where they served lots of food, dessert and booze. I overindulged to say the least. Today I feel sluggish and tired but I am going to make myself accountable and get back on track. I need to lose 5 lbs in order to break into the 230's which is a short term goal for me. I am going to do it over the next 2 weeks. I haven't been that light since I was in high school 20+ years ago. I am posting this so it will be out there and I will be accountable. No more weekend slacking!!!
It's really difficult to undo a whole week's deficit in just one day/weekend. If you overate, don't stress over it! Just pick back up and keep on trucking. As long as you don't do it every single weekend, you will do just fine.endlessfall16 wrote: »My weekend is almost never easy with eating. My wife sort of needs to go out so it's difficult to control it.
Not your wife's fault that you overeat or find it hard to stay within your goals. You have total control over what goes into your mouth, no matter if you're at home or eating out. It's up to you to practice mindful eating and to learn how to live your life while still doing things, like dining out or going to parties.
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I'm going to try reducing my weekday calories by 200 so I can eat a bit more on the weekends.0
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Good luck!0
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@Alyssa,
No one said about anyone's fault in my post
Something is difficult is difficult. (I don't know if that's correct English or not but sure does sound right)
Other than that thanks for your sage advice.
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endlessfall16 wrote: »@Alyssa,
No one said about anyone's fault in my post
Something is difficult is difficult. (I don't know if that's correct English or not but sure does sound right)
Other than that thanks for your sage advice.
Saying that it's difficult to stay within your goal because "your wife needs to go out" is placing blame on her rather than yourself, whether that was how you intended it or not.
I just think that it's healthier to recognize that the responsibility is always on yourself to not overeat. There's nothing morally wrong with overeating from time to time, and it shouldn't be something that you feel like you have to make an excuse for. Hell, I overate this past Saturday, too. I was at my mother's house, but I wouldn't say something like, "My mother always has her pantry stocked with treats, making it easier to overeat." It's not the treats in my mother's pantry that are to blame, it was only myself because I chose to eat them.
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Don't beat yourself up! It happened, your human, and move on! Nobody is paying you to lose weight so if it takes an extra week to drop the splurge pounds who cares!0
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I will just be glad when Girl Scout Cookie sells come to an end...."DAMN YOU THIN MINTS!" One box gone while watching House Wives of Atlanta. It happens. But I got right back on track today. The problems comes when it happens everyday.0
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Log it, learn from it, and move on. If you and your wife go out to eat on weekends, do a little research ahead of time. Find out which restaurants you like that have online menus and plan what you're getting BEFORE you get there. That way, you're not tempted as much by everything else and can still stay within where you should be. Might also consider getting a dish to split between the two of you. Most restaurants tend to serve big meals that are really two-three servings, not one, so splitting something is a good way to go if you can.0
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Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »endlessfall16 wrote: »@Alyssa,
No one said about anyone's fault in my post
Something is difficult is difficult. (I don't know if that's correct English or not but sure does sound right)
Other than that thanks for your sage advice.
Saying that it's difficult to stay within your goal because "your wife needs to go out" is placing blame on her rather than yourself, whether that was how you intended it or not.
I just think that it's healthier to recognize that the responsibility is always on yourself to not overeat. There's nothing morally wrong with overeating from time to time, and it shouldn't be something that you feel like you have to make an excuse for. Hell, I overate this past Saturday, too. I was at my mother's house, but I wouldn't say something like, "My mother always has her pantry stocked with treats, making it easier to overeat." It's not the treats in my mother's pantry that are to blame, it was only myself because I chose to eat them.
I see what you mean. In that case I also blame weekend for its existence, my genetic makeup for not letting me be discipline, not being able to burn calories by lots, the foods for being too good and too cheap, my sin of gluttony, anything but myself, me and I.
(Way to twist a simple situation)
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endlessfall16 wrote: »Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »endlessfall16 wrote: »@Alyssa,
No one said about anyone's fault in my post
Something is difficult is difficult. (I don't know if that's correct English or not but sure does sound right)
Other than that thanks for your sage advice.
Saying that it's difficult to stay within your goal because "your wife needs to go out" is placing blame on her rather than yourself, whether that was how you intended it or not.
I just think that it's healthier to recognize that the responsibility is always on yourself to not overeat. There's nothing morally wrong with overeating from time to time, and it shouldn't be something that you feel like you have to make an excuse for. Hell, I overate this past Saturday, too. I was at my mother's house, but I wouldn't say something like, "My mother always has her pantry stocked with treats, making it easier to overeat." It's not the treats in my mother's pantry that are to blame, it was only myself because I chose to eat them.
I see what you mean. In that case I also blame weekend for its existence, my genetic makeup for not letting me be discipline, not being able to burn calories by lots, the foods for being too good and too cheap, my sin of gluttony, anything but myself, me and I.
(Way to twist a simple situation)
eh, no. Your original post saying "my wife needs to go out," is what's termed passive-aggressive speech. It's laying blame for a situation without actively saying it. You could have just not mentioned your wife at all and said you went out over the weekend, but by mentioning that your wife wanted to go out, you're handing off the culpability in your own mind.
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Dont ask me how much home made chicken and dumplings I had last night.
Just. Dont.
It was enough that I skipped weigh in today. lol.0 -
@mccindy,
If I said there was a wedding party over the weekend and I binge ate and drank, would any reasonable person start to question me: are you blaming the wedding party?
I would think that would be very strange thinking on the part of the person that asked that.
I thought I was describing a challenging situation. My wife's going out is just one link in the long chain of events. There are also my uncontrol of the situation, my eating, but the point isn't about laying blames. If I weren't taking responsibility for myself as Alyssa was suggesting I wouldn't be in a self help fitness forum. You would find me in ControlYourWife.com or BlameYourWife.com
Look, we're not in a self improvement or couple relationship forums. Keep your unsolicited advices on that part to yourself.0 -
endlessfall16 wrote: »@mccindy,
If I said there was a wedding party over the weekend and I binge ate and drank, would any reasonable person start to question me: are you blaming the wedding party?
I would think that would be very strange thinking on the part of the person that asked that.
I thought I was describing a challenging situation. My wife's going out is just one link in the long chain of events. There are also my uncontrol of the situation, my eating, but the point isn't about laying blames. If I weren't taking responsibility for myself as Alyssa was suggesting I wouldn't be in a self help fitness forum. You would find me in ControlYourWife.com or BlameYourWife.com
Look, we're not in a self improvement or couple relationship forums. Keep your unsolicited advices on that part to yourself.
Good point using the wedding party example.0 -
endlessfall16 wrote: »@mccindy,
If I said there was a wedding party over the weekend and I binge ate and drank, would any reasonable person start to question me: are you blaming the wedding party?
I would think that would be very strange thinking on the part of the person that asked that.
I thought I was describing a challenging situation. My wife's going out is just one link in the long chain of events. There are also my uncontrol of the situation, my eating, but the point isn't about laying blames. If I weren't taking responsibility for myself as Alyssa was suggesting I wouldn't be in a self help fitness forum. You would find me in ControlYourWife.com or BlameYourWife.com
Look, we're not in a self improvement or couple relationship forums. Keep your unsolicited advices on that part to yourself.
I'll respond, only because you asked me a direct question.
It's not blaming the wedding party if you said there was a wedding party. If you said 'my dad wanted to go a wedding party', and then said you overate at the wedding party, now you are passively blaming your dad for your overeating at the wedding party.
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endlessfall16 wrote: »@mccindy,
If I said there was a wedding party over the weekend and I binge ate and drank, would any reasonable person start to question me: are you blaming the wedding party?
I would think that would be very strange thinking on the part of the person that asked that.
I thought I was describing a challenging situation. My wife's going out is just one link in the long chain of events. There are also my uncontrol of the situation, my eating, but the point isn't about laying blames. If I weren't taking responsibility for myself as Alyssa was suggesting I wouldn't be in a self help fitness forum. You would find me in ControlYourWife.com or BlameYourWife.com
Look, we're not in a self improvement or couple relationship forums. Keep your unsolicited advices on that part to yourself.
I'll respond, only because you asked me a direct question.
It's not blaming the wedding party if you said there was a wedding party. If you said 'my dad wanted to go a wedding party', and then said you overate at the wedding party, now you are passively blaming your dad for your overeating at the wedding party.
See the difference?
That's because you didn't ask and I didn't volunteer that info., there's always a reason. If I (innocently) gave you the reason why I went, I guess you would use the reason (any reason) to argue your point anyway.
Let's see if your logic works:
I went to this wedding, on behalf of my dad, who was ill and couldn't bring the gift to the couple (kinda stupid, irrelevant way to describe a wedding trip on a wt loss forum but whatever), and I binge ate and drank like crazy.
You: are you blaming your dad, or the wedding?
Me: What the...
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The real difference here is if someone has a negative mind they'll see negativity. If you want to argue, there are million reasons to argue.
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75poundgoal wrote: »So I had a very high calorie weekend because I had a lot of stuff going on and I didn't stay focused on eating right. The worst was Saturday night at a function for my daughters school where they served lots of food, dessert and booze. I overindulged to say the least. Today I feel sluggish and tired but I am going to make myself accountable and get back on track. I need to lose 5 lbs in order to break into the 230's which is a short term goal for me. I am going to do it over the next 2 weeks. I haven't been that light since I was in high school 20+ years ago. I am posting this so it will be out there and I will be accountable. No more weekend slacking!!!
Sorry that your thread got derailed by the blame game. I think you are exactly right! Everyone has the occasional day where we go quite a bit over our calorie goals, but that's okay. You've got the right mindset with your goal to get right back on track, set reasonable goals, and you're very close to a sweet new victory! Good job!0 -
Been there! Just got to get back on track.0
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75poundgoal wrote: »So I had a very high calorie weekend because I had a lot of stuff going on and I didn't stay focused on eating right. The worst was Saturday night at a function for my daughters school where they served lots of food, dessert and booze. I overindulged to say the least. Today I feel sluggish and tired but I am going to make myself accountable and get back on track. I need to lose 5 lbs in order to break into the 230's which is a short term goal for me. I am going to do it over the next 2 weeks. I haven't been that light since I was in high school 20+ years ago. I am posting this so it will be out there and I will be accountable. No more weekend slacking!!!
It's March madness baby!!0 -
endlessfall16 wrote: »Alyssa_Is_LosingIt wrote: »endlessfall16 wrote: »@Alyssa,
No one said about anyone's fault in my post
Something is difficult is difficult. (I don't know if that's correct English or not but sure does sound right)
Other than that thanks for your sage advice.
Saying that it's difficult to stay within your goal because "your wife needs to go out" is placing blame on her rather than yourself, whether that was how you intended it or not.
I just think that it's healthier to recognize that the responsibility is always on yourself to not overeat. There's nothing morally wrong with overeating from time to time, and it shouldn't be something that you feel like you have to make an excuse for. Hell, I overate this past Saturday, too. I was at my mother's house, but I wouldn't say something like, "My mother always has her pantry stocked with treats, making it easier to overeat." It's not the treats in my mother's pantry that are to blame, it was only myself because I chose to eat them.
I see what you mean. In that case I also blame weekend for its existence, my genetic makeup for not letting me be discipline, not being able to burn calories by lots, the foods for being too good and too cheap, my sin of gluttony, anything but myself, me and I.
(Way to twist a simple situation)
Well that was unnecessary. I was only pointing out something simple and it is an important point to make when it comes to weight loss - you have to take responsibility for yourself or you will never be successful. But since that seems to be a difficult concept for you to grasp, I won't argue with you any further. I just hope the lurkers got some useful info from it.0 -
I didn't think you were blaming your wife at all, but yeah...I feel you. I have to ask my husband that we only go out once or twice a week or I will overindulge because I have a hard time controlling myself. It's not his fault I LOVE food, and the small town we live in has a wealth of local fine dining establishments with amazing wines, beers, cheeses, and wowza foods...if we go out, I'll have a glass of wine. But I have a hard time with one glass. So I'll have two glasses. But before we go out, I'll say, "One or two glasses, then home for dinner!" Two glasses later, I'm hungry and it's going to be another hour before we're doing socializing with friends and get home and get to cooking and it's really just easier to order a cheese plate or a few appetizers and, hey, ANOTHER GLASS OF WINE WHOOOOOO!!!!
Then I'm over my calorie budget by 4 digits. Yikes.
It's not my husband's fault that I can't control myself when we go out. We both need to go out. We both need to socialize. We both need a night off of cooking and being home. But I can ask him nicely to help me by limiting how much we go out together so that I can limit how much I overindulge, and since he's wonderful, we only go out around once a week 0 -
worknprogress7 wrote: »I always seem to slack on the weekends. For some reason, Friday night rolls around and I am like, "Screw it, I need a beer and some tacos!" And then that attitude persists throughout the weekend and I wake up Monday morning feeling horrible and having regrets. So I start all over. It's a never ending cycle that I can't seem to get out of.
The all or nothing mentality is what results in "starting over"...you don't have to "start over"...you're never, ever, ever going to be 100% bang on all of the time and you have to lose that mentality of "oh *kitten*..gotta start over"...it's all a continuum.
I've been at all this stuff for going on 4 years...I'm always loser on the weekends and that never prevented me from dropping the weight I needed to drop and it hasn't prevented me from maintaining for nearly 3 years...enjoying myself on a Saturday is pretty irrelevant to the whole...and sometimes it's a Friday and a Saturday...and sometimes it's a Friday, Saturday, and Sunday...but really, it's all pretty irrelevant when I'm doing what I need to be doing most of the time. I've never "started over"...I've just continued on.0 -
MommyMeggo wrote: »Dont ask me how much home made chicken and dumplings I had last night.
Just. Dont.
It was enough that I skipped weigh in today. lol.
Sounds yummy!
I had pizza yesterday and skipped weigh in today as well.0 -
MommyMeggo wrote: »Dont ask me how much home made chicken and dumplings I had last night.
Just. Dont.
It was enough that I skipped weigh in today. lol.
I can definitely overeat some chicken and dumplin's.0
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