where does fitness lie on your list of priorities??
skazzmatter
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reading over the comments in someone's post about wanting to end their walks with a friend, i saw replies that varied in intensity from completely dismissing lunchtime exercise, to ones encouraging her to completely get out of the friendship if her friend doesn't have the same fitness goals as she does. i think both of those replies are probably unhealthy, but i also know my personal standards for what's disordered and not disordered thinking is different because i've struggled with eating disorders and compulsive behaviors.
how important is "fitness" to you? and why?
because of my personal history, i have to make sure to put fitness at a semi-low priority for myself. i can't focus too much on it or i hyper-focus. it's a struggle. i know compulsive overeaters from my treatment center that have to hyperfocus though, or they'll slip up and their health is legitimately in danger. and at that point, they're kind of at the point where loved ones and hobbies and career all fall UNDER fitness, coz they cant have the former without it.
my goal is to one day be able to wake up, walk directly into the kitchen and mindlessly fix myself breakfast before going for a walk. i want to eat at least three meals a day just because i'm hungry and make my body sweat at least a few times a week, but because im doing fun activities. intuitive fitness, i guess.
what about you?
how important is "fitness" to you? and why?
because of my personal history, i have to make sure to put fitness at a semi-low priority for myself. i can't focus too much on it or i hyper-focus. it's a struggle. i know compulsive overeaters from my treatment center that have to hyperfocus though, or they'll slip up and their health is legitimately in danger. and at that point, they're kind of at the point where loved ones and hobbies and career all fall UNDER fitness, coz they cant have the former without it.
my goal is to one day be able to wake up, walk directly into the kitchen and mindlessly fix myself breakfast before going for a walk. i want to eat at least three meals a day just because i'm hungry and make my body sweat at least a few times a week, but because im doing fun activities. intuitive fitness, i guess.
what about you?
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My highest priority isn't exercise , it's counting calories0
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Its number one, its a must, i do anything to stay active, i cant catch myself doing nothing unless im laying down for a nap or sleeping.0
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Ranked below health, below happiness, above weight, above strength.
But they are all linked.0 -
It's very high on my list because it helps immensely with my anxiety and depression. If I go too long without exercise, my mood suffers and my husband will tell me to go for a run
I am also setting a good example for my young son, in the hopes that he won't struggle with his weight like I have. 0 -
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Today? Probably like 31st.
Tomorrow? 2nd0 -
Water, food, clothing, security, 4G/LTE/DATA access, kid, wife, fish in my ponds, fitness.0
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like roof over my head...considering my other thread, didn't want to give off the gun nut impression...sunn_lighter wrote: »
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It's high on my list but for me alone. I don't judge my friendships based on it. It isn't number one though, that'd be family.0
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Fitness is my first priority, however I take a broad view of fitness that includes emotional health and social connections.0
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#10
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SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage wrote: »It's very high on my list because it helps immensely with my anxiety and depression.
Same.0 -
sunn_lighter wrote: »#1
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Family (kids and my fiancée)--part of this is work of course, getting up and going to work everyday but I'm the type that works because I have to, not the type that lives to work-- are first then fitness and then the rest.0
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Under family but above absolutely everything else ... without my run, I can't "adult" with grace, kindness, and effectiveness0
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I've always been active. I just feel better about life in general when I'm in a good workout flow. If I'm happy, others around me are too. Family and golf always trumps when needed.0
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I am a personal trainer so i'd say pretty high on my list of priorities.
HOWEVER, I have a very different approach to fitness and lifestyle then i did when i first started about 5 years ago. When i first started working out, eating better, counting cals, etc. It was because i hated myself for being fat, allowing myself to get fat, and i was therefore determined to lose weight but also punishing myself for allowing it to happen in the first place.
I punished myself by applying a thick layer of guilt which allowed me to stick to my goals. On one hand, i'm grateful i went through this process, on the other, i wish i hadn't treated myself that way.
This guilt that was self-imposed made me stick to my calorie goal EVERY SINGLE DAY. I never "cheated" or went over in calories, EVER. This guilt kept me going to the gym 3 days a week without fail. If i didn't have enough calories left over for dinner this guilt had me in the gym burning extra cals so i could eat what i wanted.
well... i never ate too little calories, lost too much weight, etc. It was just the breaking point for me which i think i had to cross in order to get serious and actually make a change. If i hadn't gone through this period i would never be where i am today.
Now though? I have a completely different approach to myself. i don't use guilt and hatred to fuel my workouts and eating. I don't use the added pressure from my accomplishments to keep me on track. I now try and walk the middle path and i make it very important for me to NEVER try and be the "best". I recognize that i am not and will never be perfect. I used to have the mental response "well, that can't keep me from trying and punishing myself for never reaching it".
I tell all my clients that I don't compete, that i don't have the best physique in the gym, that i'm not perfect, but that i'm healthy happy and content and that it good enough for me. It involved dropping the motivation i had to be the "best" version of myself, that i had to be my "best" looking at all times, etc. In all actuality i'm probably 5-10 pounds from the weight needed to compete in bikini/bodybuilding, but if that 5-10 pounds means i can eat what i want, workout because it makes me happy and makes me feel good, and i can maintain this lifestyle without hating myself? It's all good. 0 -
The bottom, due to medical issues.1
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AskTracyAnnK28 wrote: »
I'm confused, tbh. You're saying counting calories is your highest priority in life right now? And you think that's healthy?? Why??? Im just honestly confused not judging at all.0 -
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meganridenour wrote: »SarcasmIsMyLoveLanguage wrote: »It's very high on my list because it helps immensely with my anxiety and depression.
Same.
Yeah that's where I'm at too! Someday I hope that it becomes second-nature so I can focus more on other goals that aren't completely achievable before I center my being, if that makes sense.0 -
rainbowbow wrote: »I am a personal trainer so i'd say pretty high on my list of priorities.
HOWEVER, I have a very different approach to fitness and lifestyle then i did when i first started about 5 years ago. When i first started working out, eating better, counting cals, etc. It was because i hated myself for being fat, allowing myself to get fat, and i was therefore determined to lose weight but also punishing myself for allowing it to happen in the first place.
I punished myself by applying a thick layer of guilt which allowed me to stick to my goals. On one hand, i'm grateful i went through this process, on the other, i wish i hadn't treated myself that way.
This guilt that was self-imposed made me stick to my calorie goal EVERY SINGLE DAY. I never "cheated" or went over in calories, EVER. This guilt kept me going to the gym 3 days a week without fail. If i didn't have enough calories left over for dinner this guilt had me in the gym burning extra cals so i could eat what i wanted.
well... i never ate too little calories, lost too much weight, etc. It was just the breaking point for me which i think i had to cross in order to get serious and actually make a change. If i hadn't gone through this period i would never be where i am today.
Now though? I have a completely different approach to myself. i don't use guilt and hatred to fuel my workouts and eating. I don't use the added pressure from my accomplishments to keep me on track. I now try and walk the middle path and i make it very important for me to NEVER try and be the "best". I recognize that i am not and will never be perfect. I used to have the mental response "well, that can't keep me from trying and punishing myself for never reaching it".
I tell all my clients that I don't compete, that i don't have the best physique in the gym, that i'm not perfect, but that i'm healthy happy and content and that it good enough for me. It involved dropping the motivation i had to be the "best" version of myself, that i had to be my "best" looking at all times, etc. In all actuality i'm probably 5-10 pounds from the weight needed to compete in bikini/bodybuilding, but if that 5-10 pounds means i can eat what i want, workout because it makes me happy and makes me feel good, and i can maintain this lifestyle without hating myself? It's all good.
This makes me so happy
Youre a strong person!!!! Congratulations on reaching your goals xx 0 -
sunn_lighter wrote: »
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I'm going to say it's just a part of my life because my favourite things to do involve fitness. Of course my family is top priority but after that it's figure skating which is my fitness so I guess it's pretty near the top but in a somewhat unconventional way. I'm not a gym goer, I will run when it's nice out so I can be outside, I'm about to walk to to the grocery store because why would I drive when I can walk so it's just part of life0
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Pretty much number 1 for me. Getting in shape (or at least trying to) is the only thing in my life that really grants me any self worth.0
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skazzmatter wrote: »reading over the comments in someone's post about wanting to end their walks with a friend, i saw replies that varied in intensity from completely dismissing lunchtime exercise, to ones encouraging her to completely get out of the friendship if her friend doesn't have the same fitness goals as she does. i think both of those replies are probably unhealthy, but i also know my personal standards for what's disordered and not disordered thinking is different because i've struggled with eating disorders and compulsive behaviors.
how important is "fitness" to you? and why?
because of my personal history, i have to make sure to put fitness at a semi-low priority for myself. i can't focus too much on it or i hyper-focus. it's a struggle. i know compulsive overeaters from my treatment center that have to hyperfocus though, or they'll slip up and their health is legitimately in danger. and at that point, they're kind of at the point where loved ones and hobbies and career all fall UNDER fitness, coz they cant have the former without it.
my goal is to one day be able to wake up, walk directly into the kitchen and mindlessly fix myself breakfast before going for a walk. i want to eat at least three meals a day just because i'm hungry and make my body sweat at least a few times a week, but because im doing fun activities. intuitive fitness, i guess.
what about you?
This is what I've gotten to. And it does help with my anxiety to the point that I miss it when I don't exercise. I'd say in my list of priorities it's ranked high. Husband comes first, my mental and physical health are interchangeable for second, everything else is after that.0 -
Well, I like being active. It's pretty high on my list because it helps me fight my anxiety and depression as well. I'm happier when I get out and do stuff, and then of course it helps me lose weight.0
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