Do you "hide" your dieting in public/with friends?

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  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    I refuse to tell anyone IRL when I'm cutting. No one wants to hear about anyone else's diet and everyone wants to simply enjoy a good time around food. The trick there is portion control, and no, one slice of pizza absolutely will not kill your diet. When I'm out with the guys, I'll still eat what everyone else is eating and enjoy a couple of beers. I just keep it down and prepare for it earlier in the day. Maybe go for a run first for extra calories and/or have a protein shake or meal before going out so I'm not hungry.
  • mjrkearney
    mjrkearney Posts: 408 Member
    Nope. Nada. Not at all. I am out loud and proud with my weight loss. I'm not going to pack my own lunch if I know we're going out, but I will stick with moderation and try to find something delicious and healthy on the menu. I don't always go with the perfect option, but I've also been known to forget to eat or to be too busy, in my own mind.

    Besides, eating off the wagon once in a while is better than starving your body and risk eating the entire wagon later.
  • xinit0
    xinit0 Posts: 310 Member
    Told hubby and he said I'm insane, like anyone cares if I'm on a diet! But I know women and women talk!! And you always get the comments "one slice of pizza isn't going to kill you" from the skinniest person there.
    Even I think I'm crazy but I would like to know if I'm the only one who doesn't like to say I'm dieting to people outside my close family and friends?

    If you want to fit in, there's NOTHING WRONG with having a slice of pizza. Are you going to avoid pizza forever in the future? Maybe skip the chips, but your hypothetical people are right - one slice won't kill you. Get a veggie or mushroom slice and it doesn't have to be the greasy filled calorie bomb. Go for an extra 30 minute walk...

    To your other question, I don't tell co-workers that I'm a food martyr... I still eat with them if we go out, and I find something that fits my plan... This is how I plan to survive this weight loss long-term, by making better choices and changing the way I do things. You can't always have dry chunks of pita to choke down instead of pizza...
  • mazdauk
    mazdauk Posts: 1,380 Member
    I don't mention dieting with my friends, because I usually get, "Oh one cookie won't hurt!" or "You're so tiny already!" If it's a matter of eating what you packed or buying something, budget can be a good excuse. "I packed my lunch, trying to cut down on money spent eating out." That should be a pretty acceptable reason to anyone you're with and leaves out the word "diet".

    This is a good way out! I bring my own food into work so I'm not tempted by the yummy cakes in the canteen, but if someone brings round cake at work I usually say "I'm really trying to be good, but if there's some left later I might cave in!" (I'm completely safe here -ever seen a bunch of teachers round food?:bigsmile: :laugh: By the end of break there's only crumbs left).
  • xinit0
    xinit0 Posts: 310 Member
    I refuse to tell anyone IRL when I'm cutting. No one wants to hear about anyone else's diet and everyone wants to simply enjoy a good time around food.

    OR they all have tips about what they heard Dr. Oz say... and they have a friend who swears by green coffee pills... Who needs to have that conversation in real life?
  • KANGOOJUMPS
    KANGOOJUMPS Posts: 6,474 Member
    no
  • Marigoldie
    Marigoldie Posts: 15 Member
    Next time tell them you're in training and eat your own, healthy lunch. You can be training for anything, a 5k, a half marathon, a century ride, or a healthy old age. I don't ever say I'm dieting. To me it's just the way I choose to live my life.

    I really like this. I have to watch what I eat because of a thyroid issue, I gain very easy. I am also training for a half marathon so this works well for me!
  • lripson28
    lripson28 Posts: 213 Member
    If I felt that I had to hide that from my "friends", then they wouldn't be my friends. I share everything with them, including my trying to eat healthy. So much more support that way also, as many are also trying to eat better and be healthier. I also wouldn't deprive myself of something if I really wanted it. I would plan my day in a different way then.
  • weightlossforbrian
    weightlossforbrian Posts: 38 Member
    I don't hide that I am on a diet. I also do not go around and tell everyone I know though either. If someone happens to see that I am eating healthier than I used to eat and they ask I just tell them yes I am on a diet.
  • MercenaryNoetic26
    MercenaryNoetic26 Posts: 2,747 Member
    Lol, if I'm gonna prepare a lunch and go as far as taking it to the party, I'm going to eat it regardless of the looks and talk. That said, I'll also eat some of the party food so as not to be a total outcast and because it doesn't hurt every now and then. Eating is a social thing sometimes and if it makes me antisocial, then it's not so fun. Anyway, you could've ate BEFORE attending the party and that would avoid the whole 'embarrassment' issue and you could've honestly told them you're not hungry.
  • kganc001
    kganc001 Posts: 317
    I'm super guilty of this. I used to avoid going out, and I realized that was unhealthy. So, my fiance and I compromised and I usually eat something filling before I go, and once I'm there I'm happy ordering a salad or something small.
  • AJinBirmingham
    AJinBirmingham Posts: 497
    Nope. I'm surrounded by "feeders," family and friends, including my other half, who think I'd look BETTER a few pounds heavier, but most of them have given up on trying to get me to eat more.

    I'm 5'5'' and a very healthy (gym rat) 128lbs, so they can all go bounce, which I tell them . . . nicely. Like Roadhouse Patrick Swayze, I'm always nice . . . until it's time to not be nice:

    FAT AUNTIE's 5th ATTEMPT AT FEEDING: Aren't you going to enjoy even one slice of pie?
    ME: No, you go ahead. I'm enjoying being a size 4.

    (I was nice the first four times.)
  • kelsully
    kelsully Posts: 1,008 Member
    I tend to keep my perspective on food and dieting private in most situations and I still get comments when I munch on carrots instead of chips. I still get comments when I eat one cookie instead of ten.

    My response is usually " I don't eat meat and I absolutely love these carrots, the crunch is awesome" or " man, these are super fresh strawberries, I am totally addicted" therefore it doesn't sound like I am sacrificing. If people question my food I also tend to go with the "I am training" response. People see dedication then, not sacrifice

    When people say things like "eat a cookie lady you are skinny enough" or " omg are you anorexic that you won't eat the cake" in front of my beautiful daughters then all bets are off at how I will respond...I am very careful to eat right and have the treats I WANT...I will not be forced fed to make you happy...but if you say nasty things to me about my diet in front of my kids you will be dressed down publically.
  • Koldnomore
    Koldnomore Posts: 1,613 Member
    Nope, I'm not ON a diet.

    If I am out, I am ordering food like everyone else. If there is nothing healthy I'll eat a reasonable portion of whatever there is. I log everything and IF I knew before hand then I will normally have eaten a little less during the rest of my day or gone for a walk to bank some extra calories. If it was a 'surprise' and I can't get in a little extra activity then I will log the meal and move on with my life the next day..

    Honestly, life happens... I am not about to stop enjoying life, birthdays, surprise dinners, events and all that other stuff because I am losing weight. One day of eating bad food isn't going to ruin my life, or cause me to gain back all the weight that I have lost (or even 1 pound of it).

    As long as you aren't going overboard every day it's not a big deal to have ONE big meal occasionally. If you don't want to eat the treats that people bring just say 'no' - I don't feel the need to provide an excuse to people about why I don't feel like having whatever it is at the time. Everyone around me knows I'm losing weight - they all have eyes but most of them don't notice what I eat because I eat exactly what they eat - just less of it ;)
  • PhattiPhat
    PhattiPhat Posts: 349 Member
    I refuse to tell anyone IRL when I'm cutting. No one wants to hear about anyone else's diet and everyone wants to simply enjoy a good time around food.

    OR they all have tips about what they heard Dr. Oz say... and they have a friend who swears by green coffee pills... Who needs to have that conversation in real life?

    All of this.
  • kelsully
    kelsully Posts: 1,008 Member
    If you don't want to listen to the nonsense you could always just say you've been having some sort of digestive health issue- acid reflux or something like that. For some reason people are more able to MYOB with those things than a simple I watch what I eat.


    ^^^^ this....if you say...oh my I am just getting over diarrhea and I brought food that won't upset my tummy people will back away quickly...diarrhea is the one word that essentially says "MYOB"
  • Shawshankcan
    Shawshankcan Posts: 900 Member
    I don't hide it, and at the same time I don't advertise it. As well, pending on where you are with your goals, a slight variance won't matter. If anyone ever questions you though, be honest. "I feel better when I eat this way." And it is true. I feel better when I eat salmon and asparagus than I do when I eat pizza.
  • erinnpinky
    erinnpinky Posts: 80 Member
    Hi all! A couple of quick thoughts (just had a coffee) so am feeling energized to respond.

    Is it a DIET or is it just your way of "clean eating" or "healthy living for life".

    I have been at my goal weight for 2 years now and people still ask me, when are you going to stop dieting. I keep trying to tell them that I was never on a diet and that this is my new way of living for the rest of my life.

    I have a busy job where I am constantly going to catered meetings and organized dinners. I started bringing my own food to the catered lunch meetings and after taking some flack for it for a couple of weeks, nobody says anything anymore as they have come to realize that it wasn't just a fad and I'm not going to not eat or eat food that is fatty, or in most cases just plain boring catered food!

    I am going to a BBQ tomorrow night where I will be bringing my own salad as I don't want burgers and buns and hotdogs. As long as I am bringing my own food and not complaining about what others serve I still don't understand why everyone has to comment and make me feel bad for bringing my own food. I have had serious conversations with close friends about saying I have a sever allergy to certain foods as then it wouldn't be an issue. If I say I am training for a half marathon or something then the comments go away. Its a strange world out there.......

    Keep up the good work and do what works best for you. Everything in moderation and once and awhile you just have to go with the flow and eat whats around you; however, I do support that if you can choose what you want to eat then go for it!

    I also have a section on my blog called "good intentions", which is my humorous attempts to eat healthy at restaurants. If you want to read some of those they are on this page: http://www.pinkspantry.com/p/good-intentions.html

    Everyone have a wonderful day!
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,996 Member
    People hide what they are ashamed of or what they don't want confrontation with.

    IMO, you don't need to diet to lose weight. You just need to ensure you get in your correct macro/micro nutrients and be in moderate calorie deficit.

    Nothing to hide if done that way.

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