Would you take a vacation without your S.O.?

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  • hdatres
    hdatres Posts: 635 Member
    Not I.......... I do not go on vacation or to bars without my husband and he doesn't go without me either
  • 2snakeswoman
    2snakeswoman Posts: 655 Member
    I would love to! Last vacation, he got hammered almost every day, and I hate being around drunk people. I spent days sitting on the beach alone, crying, and writing in my journal about how he was ruining my vacation.

    All things considered, though, he's a pretty good guy. He doesn't drink that much at home.
  • kristen6350
    kristen6350 Posts: 1,094 Member
    Yep. At least 1x a year. We don't share money, so other than not cheating on each other there are no parameters.

    Other than maybe "if you have 1 call from jail, you shouldn't call me". LOL
  • Countryboy_83
    Countryboy_83 Posts: 946 Member
    synchkat wrote: »
    We have no desire to be apart. Been 3 years and still feel lost without her

    this is sweet and also terrifyingly clingy

    Not clingy when your lover is your best friend. I have more fun with her then with anyone else so that's how we choose to spend our time. Haters going to hate

    i'm not a hater i'm a loner

    If you find me wanting to spend my life and time with someone I love and enjoy being around...I would call you much more then a loner. Criticizing other relationships is petty when you know nothing about it. But enjoy you cats, dog, or whoever puts up with you

    I don't think she was criticizing your relationship. Your response is the petty and rude one btw.

    Calling me terrifyingly clingy with my girl of 3 years is criticizing. Excuse me and her for enjoying eachothers company. I swear people try to stir up stuff over anything. I love my gf and so yes I'm psycho for wanting to spend my free time with her. You can think I'm petty all you want I assure you I'm quite happy with me.
  • synchkat
    synchkat Posts: 37,369 Member
    Lesson learned clearly, keep opinions to oneself.
  • _lyndseybrooke_
    _lyndseybrooke_ Posts: 2,561 Member
    I've only been on one trip without my husband, and we weren't even married at that time. I went to the beach for a long weekend with three female friends. It was kind of fun for the most part, but ended with two of the girls mad at each other and giving each other the silent treatment. Lovely. I now only vacation with my husband because he's a low maintenance man and not a petty woman. And going on vacation by myself sounds incredibly boring.

    Now, if my husband ever decides to go on a fishing and/or camping trip, he knows very well that he's on his own. I ain't all about that camping life.
  • InsipidDime
    InsipidDime Posts: 125 Member
    I do not and will not, unless there is a good reason to travel solo (medical is the only one I can think of currently). This concept seems strange to me personally. I want to share the things I enjoy with the person I love. You never know when that person will pass on or when something unfortunate could happen (vegetative state, paralysis, aphasia, etc.). I don't want to regret any time lost.
  • Countryboy_83
    Countryboy_83 Posts: 946 Member
    I've only been on one trip without my husband, and we weren't even married at that time. I went to the beach for a long weekend with three female friends. It was kind of fun for the most part, but ended with two of the girls mad at each other and giving each other the silent treatment. Lovely. I now only vacation with my husband because he's a low maintenance man and not a petty woman. And going on vacation by myself sounds incredibly boring.

    Now, if my husband ever decides to go on a fishing and/or camping trip, he knows very well that he's on his own. I ain't all about that camping life.

    You hubby sounds like a winner... Fishing, hunting, and camping
  • Countryboy_83
    Countryboy_83 Posts: 946 Member
    synchkat wrote: »
    Lesson learned clearly, keep opinions to oneself.

    You can do as you please as can she but forming that opinion when you don't know anything in the slightest about me, her, etc is simply ignorant. I wouldn't pass judgment on anyone here cause I don't know you so why judge
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,876 Member
    Thanks everyone for responding. I asked because my hub takes several trips a year where his is completely incommunicado. For example, he went to the arctic circle on a fishing trip and there was no contact for 10 days. He goes hunting with his buddies and has no communication for another 10 days each year. He has never denied me the opportunity to go away, however, I don't really see the point of separate vacations. Aren't we supposed to want to spend leisure time with our spouse? I guess I am thinking along the lines of @markboone94
    Anyhow, I appreciate the input.

    I think it's good for couples to have their own stuff going on...but 2x10 days trips per year would piss me off and I know it would piss my wife off...but I guess it also depends on the family dynamic and where you are in life. If I were to take 20 days per year just to go on trips alone that would pretty much leave me zero vacation time from work to do family vacations...that wouldn't fly.

    That said, I am hamstrung by the amount of vacation time I can accrue and take from work...when we retire, this won't be an issue and I could foresee us both taking a couple of vacations on our own per year as well as a couple together per year...my in-laws do that a lot.

    I do take long weekends and such with the guys to do guy stuff and whatnot and she takes weekends with the girls occasionally to go do girl stuff. We do have a lot of interest in common, but we also have a lot of our own interests as well, and it's good to be able to do both.
  • Gamliela
    Gamliela Posts: 2,468 Member
    No. I don't get it. :*
  • StrongLife
    StrongLife Posts: 525 Member
    Golf weekend with the boys with some alcohol and gambling at the course casino. Total weekend about $500. She goes away to a college roommate reunion every year. We've been married 21 years so it's no biggie to be apart.
  • linddd
    linddd Posts: 6,591 Member
    Thanks everyone for responding. I asked because my hub takes several trips a year where his is completely incommunicado. For example, he went to the arctic circle on a fishing trip and there was no contact for 10 days. He goes hunting with his buddies and has no communication for another 10 days each year. He has never denied me the opportunity to go away, however, I don't really see the point of separate vacations. Aren't we supposed to want to spend leisure time with our spouse? I guess I am thinking along the lines of @markboone94
    Anyhow, I appreciate the input.

    My husband has lots of vacation time so we do a lot of trips together, too. For years I hardly went anywhere because of having young kids but he had to go on business trips. Yes, it was business, but he had a lot of fun on those trips, too! I guess now I'm balancing things out by going on more of my own trips with my friends. I wouldn't be cool with being out of contact for days at a time... nope... I'd worry too much w/ the way the world is now.
  • Monkey_Business
    Monkey_Business Posts: 1,800 Member
    If I wanted to have fun and do the things I enjoy doing, in a heartbeat.
    I like to go camping, fishing and kyaking, she does not.
    She takes her vacations, I take mine and together we take vacations to do the things we both enjoy.
  • doubleap77
    doubleap77 Posts: 47 Member
    Holy thread necro, Batman!

    On topic, the idea of vacations away from my spouse makes me uncomfortable. I have done so, and so has she, but they never quite felt right. For me, I missed out on doing things together, and I enjoyed our vacations together much more.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,793 Member
    I usually make a Motorcycle run with my buddies each year. Wife doesn't care to go.

    She usually takes a 1 or 2 week vacation with her sisters. Doing the things they like.

    We still take at least two vacations together. Always take 1 week in Vegas on our anniversary and then usually take 2 weeks together to go out of country.

  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,876 Member
    edited March 2018
    My wife will usually take my kids somewhere for a week over the summer for a little vacation...I'm super busy in the summer and it's very difficult for me to take off much time, so sometimes she just goes without me and sometimes I'll meet up for a long weekend portion of the trip or something.

    We usually take a good family vacation either over Christmas or Spring break...often out of the country and we usually do a shorter, long weekend type trip to San Diego or something over the fall break. We do a lot of weekend camping in the summer as well.
  • KosmosKitten
    KosmosKitten Posts: 10,476 Member
    Sure. I do it once a year. I just take off and go visit friends and go concert hopping or white water rafting or visit art museums. My SO approves of it and is able to contact me at any time, so it's not a big deal.
  • MJFSH
    MJFSH Posts: 7,252 Member
    Is this a trick question? of course i would! no parameters, conditions etc etc well maybe i / we got away with it because those have been visiting family overseas. lol
  • missemmibelle
    missemmibelle Posts: 100 Member
    I'm a stay at home mom, married to a truck driver - so I am alone quite a lot. 44 weeks a year, to be precise.

    I have taken trips without my husband, who calls them "Mom-cations". I usually grab a girlfriend and we go to Las Vegas, or Orlando - something like that. I don't usually bother buying plane tickets unless I can be gone for at least 4-7 days - so that's my usual duration for a break from the house.

    As far as budget goes, we have a fund for vacations and I use that for flights, hotels and tickets (if applicable) then pay for food and whatever else, at my destination, out of the general checking account. Since we budget for everything and do not use credit cards at all, what I spend depends on how much is in the fund and travel plans for the year. We usually plan trips pretty far in advance and, as travel is important to us, we shove a higher percentage of money into that fund than any of the others. However, if we just blew a few grand at Disneyland, I might do a 90-min drive to neighboring Phoenix and hang out at a resort, instead of something that might cost more. To put it simply, the budget for a trip (or anything else) depends on what we can afford.