Getting over shame of large weight gain -anyone else?

PurpleOrchid531

Yep. Been there too.

I had two kids in a row and gall bladder surgery shortly after my second was born so I started off around 40 lbs heavier than when I got married. I was active and going to the gym all this time but nothing made a difference until I started MFP and tracking my calories.

I decided not to go to my high school reunion (I went to an all-girl high school and you know how mean girls can be). I didn't want to be "that girl" that my classmates talked about. I know it sounds completely shallow that I cared more about my appearance than seeing my old classmates.

RWClary

rodriguezbc wrote: »

RWClary wrote: »

Odiaa wrote: »

If people can not accept you the way you are then they weren't your friends anyway.

And the opposite is ytue as well. Some of my old friends resented me after I lost the fat.
Human nature is a strange ointment...

yes, You are right about that. When I lost weight the first time, I was looking good and certain people gave me those envious dirty looks.

You find out people's heart when you either fail or achieve. I have learned to accept this.

Vanessalookingood

Wow, reading over these posts and it's really sad to realize how much of life can be spent running...or hiding from shame. A couple of years ago I missed my 20 year high school reunion because I couldn't let others see how far I had let myself go. Many times I have spotted someone from my past and turned the other direction or pretended not to notice them. Being overweight for me is really like being in a prison-stealing one's life away. I hope to continue with the progress I am making, as it really is so much more to me than just improving my physical appearance. This journey I am on is helping me to love and accept myself. Thanks everyone for your posts.

lauraesh0384

I gained back 30 lbs in a span of about 5 months when it took about 6 months to lose it. I got down to my lowest weight since high school which was 158. Then my boyfriend moved in and my routine got thrown off. Then I used the excuse that I couldn't walk in the apartment anymore because the new sectional we bought was too big, so there wasn't any room. Pretty lame, huh? So I'm back at it and I never want to be at this weight again. My boyfriend likes the way I look, but I felt so disgusted with myself. I told him it didn't matter what he thought; it was how I felt about myself. Fortunately I'm about 5 lbs away from being back in the 160's. That weight gain was a huge wake up call. I gotta stay focused and can't let life's distractions interfere.

ScaryBrandon

Shame doesn't begin to describe how i feel. It's completely demoralizing. I gained back the 85 lbs i lost plus 15 additional lbs. For me, it's particularly shameful because of my education in molecular biology and metabolism. Family always tells me, you did it once, you can do it again... I am living (barely) proof that food addiction is real. So here I go again, a little older and wiser this time. The odds are against me, but i'm "oddly" optimistic. I'm going to lose it again and keep it off this time. Good luck everyone. If i can overcome the shame, anyone can.

carolinachic91

I feel the same way, before I got pregnant with my daughter I had lost 60lbs and I was almost happy with how I looked and then during the pregnancy I packed on the weight because I was lazy and now I'm back where I started. It's embarrassing going to family functions because everyone saw the whole weight loss then I ballooned back so its discouraging. We can all do it though, we've done it once so we know it's possible.

shadows2424

Completely! Oh my god...my brother came over yesterday I did not want him to see me...I have gained 50 pounds since this time last year from binge eating probably associated with a new med I was put on...it's horrible but my heads on straight for weightloss and I'll keep plugging away. I hope your weight issues work out.