Misspelled name - big deal or not?
MsAmandaNJ
Posts: 1,248 Member
My first husband's name was Bryan, my second husband's name is Brian. Everyone comments that I have a thing for guys with that name, it's totally coincidental. I tell them it's Brian with an "I". Family correspondence usually comes with a "Y" - cards, text messages, Facebook posts. When it's a text, I write his name instead of "he" so that they see it, I don't outright correct them (I did the first time with a "just so you know"). It bothers me a little because it's as if they can't be bothered, plus it's not his name. He saw a card, but didn't say anything. I know if the tables were turned, I'd be annoyed if his family was using his ex-wife's name instead of mine.
0
Replies
-
You should just go back to the first husband and avoid this problem altogether.8
-
Well that's not going to work, but thanks for the input! HAHAHA0
-
My name is Melody and my whole life people mistakenly call me "Melanie". Or use the names interchangeably like they're the same name. It always has irritated me. My old boss would look at my name plate or name tag, and still call me the wrong name. Sheesh.....just call me Mel and we'll be all good.
When my ex and I divorced, he moved in a new woman immediately and her name was Melanie. I always secretly wondered if he called her the wrong name. That would be super awkward for her, especially during adult time! Haha!
3 -
If it bothers you so much, if his name is misspelled on mail you receive, write return to sender, circle his name, underline the y and put it back in the mailbox. Every time that it's misspelled in any other way (i.e. text facebook) then make sure the sender is well aware that it is spelled with an i. Don't move on until the poster acknowledges the mistake. Sometimes people can't be bothered to get it right unless they know an issue is going to made of it each time it's done.2
-
As someone whose name is always misspelled I wouldn't bother. at least they're getting his name right and they probably think was the ex this or if the current that. at least they call him by a name1
-
I have family members, close ones, that still put an E in my name...I wouldn't take it too personally.2
-
This content has been removed.
-
It's not a huge deal, just a little annoyance. I brought it up today because it happened again and it was on my mind. Maybe I'll just tell them again (and let them know how I feel about it) if he comments on it.0
-
This content has been removed.
-
I barely use his name when talking to him...lots of pet names. Although, when we'd email, sometimes I'd type "Brain" by mistake...he got a kick out of that. Using his name feels like using a child's middle name...you know you're in trouble when you hear that one.mangamadayan wrote: »This is not a big deal unless you call him Byron or something.
0 -
My husband's family always referred to me as 'friend'; that's not even close to my name (Elaina).0
-
Don't worry, my boyfriend's name is Byron, but the world seems to think his name is Brian. Even his own cousin sent us a wedding invite with the name Brian lol. I think people just get confused!1
-
For years my last name was always misspelled in media guides; then ONE time someone finally spelled it correctly only to misspell my first name. At some point one just learns to roll with it. Shakespeare said it best...1
-
They probably aren't thinking when they write it. Sometimes I guess when I am trying to figure out how someone's name is spelled such as Sean or Brian. I'm sure eventually they'll remember if you keep reminding them. If it doesn't bother him, I'd just let it go.1
-
This content has been removed.
-
This is yet another one of those little things that I will never understand why people bother getting worked up about. It wouldn't bother me in the least. People always throw an "e" at the end of my last name where there is no "e"...it's not worth my time to get all bent about it.1
-
I'm sure its not really the misspelling of his name alone that bothers you. Its probably more because they are spelling it the same as your ex spelled his.
Honestly they are all just probably so used to writing Bryan that they probably don't even realize there's a spelling issue.
I would correct them if it bothers you or him. Just kindly say " his name is actually spelled Brian and it erks me when you misspell it constantly because my exs name is spelled Bryan. Could you please be sure to spell his name correctly next time ?"
I bet they will be more then willing to spell it correctly once they know it bothers you and why.1 -
_A_Real_Mouthful wrote: »I do it to people on purpose if I can get away without it being super obvious on a day to day basis.
like if they have their name in their email address or something, and you email them, but spell it wrong during the convo, because it can really get in their head that way...they know you can see the proper spelling in the email line, but you still spelled it wrong.
They probably think you're a moron/Idiot who can't spell worth a darn.
0 -
People spell my name wrong 99% of the time. I know its because they're just using the most common spelling, not to be malicious. It has happened after I'v corrected people as well. As long as its correct on anything legal and binding I let it go.1
-
are you annoyed that they spell his name wrong, or because you think they're calling him your ex husbands name?0
-
It's both, spelling it wrong results in the wrong name and that happens to be my ex's. To me, it's like it takes away from his identity.TavistockToad wrote: »are you annoyed that they spell his name wrong, or because you think they're calling him your ex husbands name?
My last name was always misspelled in the paper (my brother was the star athlete), my mother called the paper and let them know. It is frequently mispronounced in spite of being spelled phonetically. I got it a long time ago not to expect the world to get it right, but since it's family, this bothers me.
0 -
I have two siblings. . Robin and Darren. . To this day my mom calls me Robin, Darren, and Cameron with equal frequency. . I do not get offended by this. I do not feel that she must love them more than me. I do not think it takes away from my identity. If I raised a big stink about it, she'd still probably do it, but then she'd feel guilty for it and feel like she had to apologize to me.0
-
Cameron_1969 wrote: »I have two siblings. . Robin and Darren. . To this day my mom calls me Robin, Darren, and Cameron with equal frequency. . I do not get offended by this. I do not feel that she must love them more than me. I do not think it takes away from my identity. If I raised a big stink about it, she'd still probably do it, but then she'd feel guilty for it and feel like she had to apologize to me.
She obviously loves them more.2 -
our accountant, who i have been friends with since college, and doing our taxes for over a decade, has yet to spell my wife's name correctly - even though it's spelled correctly on all the submitted documents.
she doesn't care.0 -
Cameron_1969 wrote: »I have two siblings. . Robin and Darren. . To this day my mom calls me Robin, Darren, and Cameron with equal frequency. . I do not get offended by this. I do not feel that she must love them more than me. I do not think it takes away from my identity. If I raised a big stink about it, she'd still probably do it, but then she'd feel guilty for it and feel like she had to apologize to me.
She obviously loves them more.
i was totally going to say that!!!!! :laugh:0 -
My name is sinaed and many people call me out sorts tryin to pronounce it also it confuses them more as mine is spelt different to the normal way of spelling it it its normally spelt sinead but mine is sinaed so are a and the e is swapped round
but I don't mind 0 -
We are sharing stories? People call me Amy which is the name of the girl my exhusband knocked up while we were married. IDGAF anymore but it used to piss me off. I have a Brian with an I too
0 -
if we're sharing, last time my mum was round for dinner she saw some post on the table, and said in a really annoyed/confused voice " why does that say Mrs Smith on it?"
because that's my married name, and I've been married for nearly 4 years....3 -
My name is Michele. People have been misspelling it my entire life. My husband's ex had a similarly sounding name that his father has called me several times by accident.
I've learned to live with the misspelling. When I see Michelle with the 2 L's it doesn't feel like my name at all but most people don't pay attention/care.
When my father in law calls me by the exes name I correct him, my husband has words with him. Sometimes he calls me "daughter in law" which is fine with me. He's 80. He gets some provisions.1 -
Cameron_1969 wrote: »I have two siblings. . Robin and Darren. . To this day my mom calls me Robin, Darren, and Cameron with equal frequency. . I do not get offended by this. I do not feel that she must love them more than me. I do not think it takes away from my identity. If I raised a big stink about it, she'd still probably do it, but then she'd feel guilty for it and feel like she had to apologize to me.
My mom does the same thing with me and my sisters names. She also does that with her sisters names.
People always get my name wrong. They either spell it with a S or use Scarlett instead of Charlotte. I just laugh and tell them they can call me whatever and that I will even respond to *kitten*.1
This discussion has been closed.
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 394.2K Introduce Yourself
- 43.9K Getting Started
- 260.4K Health and Weight Loss
- 176.1K Food and Nutrition
- 47.5K Recipes
- 232.6K Fitness and Exercise
- 437 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.5K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.6K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 153.1K Motivation and Support
- 8.1K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.4K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.9K MyFitnessPal Information
- 15 News and Announcements
- 1.2K Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.7K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions