Depressed and Frustrated - I don't think I'm losing weight like I should

kshama2001

emmylootwo wrote: »

Thanks everyone. It's just hard to stop comparing this weight loss "journey" with the last one. I've been so depressed and stressed this past year that it certainly FEELS like I just woken up and noticed I gained all this weight overnight. I keep thinking I can just pick up where I left off (like walking 10,000 steps a day, doing high intensity cardio, lifting weights, etc.), and it's bumming me out that I am LITERALLY starting over. (I just went for a little walk that I previously wouldn't have even broken a sweat doing, so of course it sucks to realize how out of shape I've gotten -- now that I'm huffing and puffing with something so simple.) Perhaps I'm a little anxious too, because I joined an online "dietbet" and have to lose 13ish pounds this month (not including the 9 I've already lost).

I really appreciate everyone's feedback/advice/kind words. I've been tempted to lower my calories down to 1200... But it's only the first week. 1500 should be fine, especially for someone my size. I know this. I'm going to stay off the scale for a week or so. And, yes, I do weigh all my food, for those asking, and I overestimate whenever I'm not sure.

Thanks again. I'll come back with an update in a few weeks maybe.

I'm so sorry for your loss. Are you in therapy?

Without knowing how tall you are, I suspect 1500 is too low for someone your size. Please don't punish yourself by undereating. I'm 150 pounds lighter than you and eat more than 1500 calories per day.

Scooby says the # 1 reason people fail to lose weight is flaming out due to having overly aggressive goals:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EOjsmqo1x8k

kshama2001

charlieandcarol wrote: »

I am sure you will do just fine. I just wanted to add to the above that perhaps you need to be kinder to yourself. Think about if your situation was actually a friend of yours. I am sure you wouldn't say you are as a big as a house and all the other ways you describe yourself. You would probably say to her: You have been through a tough time, grieving, caring for your Mum and now it is time to care for yourself, I know you can do it, just take baby steps and it won't be long before you will be feeling better.

I know it is hard to turn off the negative self talk but try to be kinder to yourself, you deserve it!

Well said.

emmylootwo

Update: No real change in my weight. Still eating 1500-1600 calories a day. Started exercising 2-3 times a week. I give up. I don't think I can live on 500 calories a day anymore like I used to, so I give up. I don't even know why I tried. Thanks for your advice everyone anyways. Maybe it'll help someone else.

Zella_11

(((Hugs))) Find some support to process the hardships you've endured.

Zella_11

No--don't give up! You can do this.

Zella_11

Up your calorie intake to something more reasonable...and the weight will go down. Calorie deficit WORKS--even if it is a small deficit everyday. A year from now, you'll wish you would've kept going. You can do it! You deserve to be heathy and fit and happy. All the best --K

exomos

Damn, congratulations on the 8-9lbs in only one week!

Don't worry, that's a total victory right there. The truth is, you're doing everything right. Sometimes our bodies lose weight fast, sometimes it slows down a bit. But you're thinner than you were a week ago and you'll be even thinner next week.

njk0215

Please don't give up. I haven't seen if you have clarified yet, but are you using food scales to ensure you are logging accurately? Very sorry to hear of your loss as well, I can't imagine how difficult that must have been.

kshama2001

emmylootwo wrote: »

Update: No real change in my weight. Still eating 1500-1600 calories a day. Started exercising 2-3 times a week. I give up. I don't think I can live on 500 calories a day anymore like I used to, so I give up. I don't even know why I tried. Thanks for your advice everyone anyways. Maybe it'll help someone else.

It's common to retain water when you start a new exercise program. My scale shot up 7 pounds when I started lifting weights again last fall.

Are you in therapy? I think it would be good for your at this point in your life for several reasons.