Are you ever embarrased?

MissusMoon

There is no right or wrong way to feel about this. It's very personal.

amanda_deanne

jen_bush wrote: »

I tell people how much I lose, but never how much I weigh... my boyfriend only found out the other day after a year of us living together. It's nobody's business after all

My husband doesn't even know my weight. He's seen me give birth twice, but he's never seen the number on the scale. He knows when I gain or lose and how much, but I agree it's no one's business. And he's never asked.

Afura

The first time I participated in a MFP group challenge and had to put down my weight was huge hurdle to do. To people I don't really know I'll say how much I lost, but not how much I weigh now.

Smile72

I don't feel embarrassed. I'm just selective on who I disclose my weight loss success to. I'm a w.i.p (work in progress); with that said, I've seen the scale go up and down along this journey and only I am accountable for it. I know who my true supporters are as for all others, thanks for the compliments, but no need for me to go in to extensive details. Not every one celebrates another person's success.

peacemongernc

Ah, vanity! Yes! I don't mind telling people how much I've lost, but I usually pause and get brave a second before I mention what I weigh. That is much easier now that I'm under 180 than when I was over 200! I've lost about 124 pounds, as of today.

But the really silly thing is how I came up with my goal weight. When MFP wanted me to choose a goal, I was 304 pounds. It was far too offensive to me to think I weighed twice what I should. I really thought I should put about 150 to 155. I put 164, exactly 140 pounds less, because it was close, but less than 50% of my current weight.

The interesting thing is that as I get closer, it is looking like 164 might actually be a pretty good place to stop, but I'll have to see. I'm 15 pounds away, and I'll decide when I get there.

elisa123gal

It is your personal choice. I don't have that much weight to lose..but I'd be worried I'd be branded the "former fat" girl if i disclosed to people i used to weigh 100 or more pounds. Why put the picture in their head and define yourself as an old self you left behind? I'd never mention it.. our society is silently biased and judgmental of overweight people to begin with. And you are no longer that person so why focus on that.

KevFit413

This is for you, not for them. I wouldn't be embarrassed about that, no matter how many pounds. Each pound you lost was a result of hard work and dedication. Be proud of what you've done.

Madwife2009

When I first started to lose weight, I was too embarrassed to admit to ANYONE how heavy I was. My husband didn't know, nor did anyone in my family. I was too embarrassed to admit how much I needed to lose at that point.

However, now I have lost 65% of what I call my "excess baggage" I am more than happy to talk about what I used to weigh and what I've lost. Including my family. I don't tell anyone how much more I have to go as that's my business. I am very proud of my achievements as far as a healthier lifestyle goes and will happily discuss the changes I have made with anyone who is interested. It does make me sad though, that they all expect me to come up with some miracle weight-loss scheme - the minute I mention "eat less, move more" the eyes usually glaze over . . .

jennypapage

I actually feel proud when i tell people how much i've lost. I'm embarassed only by the fact that i let myself get heavy.

caguitare

I have been committed to getting the weight off since the new year but have to admit I am wavering trying to stay on track and looking to grow my MFP buddy list so if anyone is looking to have and to give a little motivation please friend me!

LORRIE22

I lose weight 1 year at a time. I start a new diet every January 1. I set a goal for December 31. Last year I lost 35 pounds. The year before it was a 20 pound loss. When I told all my chubby friends.... they ALL abandoned me. One sent me very nasty text messages... LOL ... DIET is a 4 letter word to them.

So I joined a couple of social clubs right away and made a slew of new and thinner friends within a week. I haven't told any of them about my former weight loss. So far this year I have lost 6 pounds... but I tell all my new friends I have lost 6 pounds in the last 4 months. Everyone is so very unimpressed! LOL! They don't think 6 pounds is worth talking about!

By the end of the year the number will be 20 to 35 pounds. And I'll be another size smaller. That will get their attention.. And I like my new friends much better. They are all positive and outgoing. Not like the Negative Nellies I was friends with over the last few years.

I'll never mention my total weight loss to anyone. It's no ones business but mine. But I do tell them I will be dieting for the next 2 years....and I've lost 6 pounds so far this year.

arditarose

Why on earth would you need to tell someone how much you have lost if you don't want to?

Once I was fit/in a healthy weight range I started not caring at all about the numbers. More people know how much I weight and have lost than I ever expected to know. I started dating again (like yesterday) and the guy asked for my Instagram account. I was a little nervous because he saw all my progress photos on there....weight loss, specific weights on certain days, tummy progress pics. But I have nothing to apologize for and he was nothing but sweet.

KrissaJane92

I was more shocked when I realized I used to be 375. I lost 70 pounds and look different. But now, my self esteem is climbing!

lorrpb

There is no need to tell people anything you're not comfortable saying.
You also have good insight that weight management is an area many of us will always have to give special attention to.

JeromeBarry1

I have found that telling people how much I've lost and how easy it has been with mfp has led to them deciding to lose weight by joining mfp. Embarrassed? No. It's a unique pleasure to have a really gorgeous young lady thank me for inspiring her to reach for her goal with purpose and patience.

beautifulwarrior18

nlevesque11887 wrote: »

Ok, I have a strange question. I've lost 178 lbs since December 2014. I still have about 75 more to go but I know I'll get there. For the first time in my life, I'm doing this for ME and that is what has made a difference. But, that being said, I'm embarrassed to admit to people the exact amount of weight I've lost and still need to lose. My dh knows as do a few other close friends but does anyone else have the same feelings?

Why tell people. It's none of their business.