married chit-chatters?
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WOW this was not how I thought the convo would go LOL2
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Guns_N_Buns wrote: »honesty71108 wrote: »Guns_N_Buns wrote: »Bennysammysofiesdad wrote: »Guns_N_Buns wrote: »What's pretty ironic (although I'm not judging individuals) is that unhappily married people would come to this thread; like if you're unhappy in your marriage, wouldn't you lurk the singles thread?
Single is way different than unhappily married
My point was, if you're unhappy and looking for attention/conversation...one would think you'd subject yourself in a thread that has singles (if you're after a new catch), not subject yourself to a majority that is married and presumably happy, as this thread is intended for married chit-chatters which inadvertently implies happily married.
i dont think singles can ever understand whats it like to be married...hence y sometime u yearn for some attention form another like married person who is in the same boat and will have a lot more in common...if that makes sense
That makes sense and I understand communicating with people of similar interests/predicaments. As another mentioned, I do agree that it can become a slippery slope, if the person you share that predicament with is of the opposite sex (or the sex you're attracted/married to).
agreed, at some point u will start to 'online' more...lol..if u click with that person online...
but is it 'ok' to do all that while ur married but as long as ur not having sex in real life?
and i dont think one has to be unhappy in marriage to induldge in these thinga..it can be in ur nature just to look round even if u satisfied in ur life1 -
I don't think it hurts to chat with anyone no matter what sex. But if your married and looking for more than friendly chat, then you want to cheat or your unhappy. I think I can chat with men and not be looking for sexually undercurrents. I can joke with the best of them and if it goes south I will let that person know that it was way over the line. I am a grown up. *my pants are still zipped*
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DarleneReid577 wrote: »I don't think it hurts to chat with anyone no matter what sex. But if your married and looking for more than friendly chat, then you want to cheat or your unhappy. I think I can chat with men and not be looking for sexually undercurrents. I can joke with the best of them and if it goes south I will let that person know that it was way over the line. I am a grown up. *my pants are still zipped*
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Single people can't understand that you can't just leave people because it gets hard. I've learned that people have learned to throw people away like paper towels if they don't walk the same path. That's very uncool!1
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Single people can't understand that you can't just leave people because it gets hard. I've learned that people have learned to throw people away like paper towels if they don't walk the same path. That's very uncool!
More and more people are socialized and/or like to be self-centered.
The current younger generation seem to really believe they are living a reality tv show or rap song life, and thrive on self-created drama.1 -
in our older generation, if anything broke...they had the tendency to fix it however they could and still take 10 years use out of it....
now a days, anything breaks, we chukk it away and buy a new one....same with rellationships, wev stopped working on them, instead...find someone else and move on2 -
I'm just expressing my thoughts. I'm sorry if I accidentally say something that is odd, offensive, or leads to misunderstanding. Because this seems like a topic open to lots of misunderstanding. I don't see how online chatting could ever be as good or better than real life. I like the physical interaction of real life for sex and for everything. But, I guess online is "safer" because people can have that flirty feeling with much less risk of it going further than what they would actually want. Online chatting is just imagination/illusion. But, it seems some people use it as an interactive type of porn. So, I guess that's the appeal. But, I am not interested. Seems it would get boring really fast. Also my husband adores everything about me. I can't imagine finding anyone that adores me to that degree. Online being an illusion means that a person would be liking an imaginary version of me. Not the real me with all my various quirks that make me a flawed human with positives and negatives. And you don't know, the person could smell bad. That said, I have been in a relationship with my husband for 18 years. It often seems that people that haven't been in a long happy relationship get more freaked out (and judgemental) by the idea of married people looking, flirting, etc. But, we are happy and human. I don't mind if I am out dancing with my husband and we are flirting together with others. I know he loves me and adores me. And can still have fun interacting harmlessly with others. It's not a big deal to me. Just being open to admiring and being admired with men and women. I don't want to be with anyone but my husband. But, it's still fun to interact in an open way with other humans dancing.4
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BinaryPulsar wrote: »I'm just expressing my thoughts. I'm sorry if I accidentally say something that is odd, offensive, or leads to misunderstanding. Because this seems like a topic open to lots of misunderstanding. I don't see how online chatting could ever be as good or better than real life. I like the physical interaction of real life for sex and for everything. But, I guess online is "safer" because people can have that flirty feeling with much less risk of it going further than what they would actually want. Online chatting is just imagination/illusion. But, it seems some people use it as an interactive type of porn. So, I guess that's the appeal. But, I am not interested. Seems it would get boring really fast. Also my husband adores everything about me. I can't imagine finding anyone that adores me to that degree. Online being an illusion means that a person would be liking an imaginary version of me. Not the real me with all my various quirks that make me a flawed human with positives and negatives. And you don't know, the person could smell bad. That said, I have been in a relationship with my husband for 18 years. It often seems that people that haven't been in a long happy relationship get more freaked out (and judgemental) by the idea of married people looking, flirting, etc. But, we are happy and human. I don't mind if I am out dancing with my husband and we are flirting together with others. I know he loves me and adores me. And can still have fun interacting harmlessly with others. It's not a big deal to me. Just being open to admiring and being admired with men and women. I don't want to be with anyone but my husband. But, it's still fun to interact in an open way with other humans dancing.
aww thats so cute and your sooo right...online is nothing like real life....online you can only portray your best side...but in real life your other partner sees you up fist thing in the morning, sees you with greasy hair, lol and still loves you with all your flawes...
but maybe innocent flirting online to help you build a healtheir marriage....if it works for you isnt a bad thing!!1 -
honesty71108 wrote: »BinaryPulsar wrote: »I'm just expressing my thoughts. I'm sorry if I accidentally say something that is odd, offensive, or leads to misunderstanding. Because this seems like a topic open to lots of misunderstanding. I don't see how online chatting could ever be as good or better than real life. I like the physical interaction of real life for sex and for everything. But, I guess online is "safer" because people can have that flirty feeling with much less risk of it going further than what they would actually want. Online chatting is just imagination/illusion. But, it seems some people use it as an interactive type of porn. So, I guess that's the appeal. But, I am not interested. Seems it would get boring really fast. Also my husband adores everything about me. I can't imagine finding anyone that adores me to that degree. Online being an illusion means that a person would be liking an imaginary version of me. Not the real me with all my various quirks that make me a flawed human with positives and negatives. And you don't know, the person could smell bad. That said, I have been in a relationship with my husband for 18 years. It often seems that people that haven't been in a long happy relationship get more freaked out (and judgemental) by the idea of married people looking, flirting, etc. But, we are happy and human. I don't mind if I am out dancing with my husband and we are flirting together with others. I know he loves me and adores me. And can still have fun interacting harmlessly with others. It's not a big deal to me. Just being open to admiring and being admired with men and women. I don't want to be with anyone but my husband. But, it's still fun to interact in an open way with other humans dancing.
aww thats so cute and your sooo right...online is nothing like real life....online you can only portray your best side...but in real life your other partner sees you up fist thing in the morning, sees you with greasy hair, lol and still loves you with all your flawes...
but maybe innocent flirting online to help you build a healtheir marriage....if it works for you isnt a bad thing!!
Anything that helps you build a healthier marriage isn't a bad thing.
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honesty71108 wrote: »Guns_N_Buns wrote: »honesty71108 wrote: »Guns_N_Buns wrote: »Bennysammysofiesdad wrote: »Guns_N_Buns wrote: »What's pretty ironic (although I'm not judging individuals) is that unhappily married people would come to this thread; like if you're unhappy in your marriage, wouldn't you lurk the singles thread?
Single is way different than unhappily married
My point was, if you're unhappy and looking for attention/conversation...one would think you'd subject yourself in a thread that has singles (if you're after a new catch), not subject yourself to a majority that is married and presumably happy, as this thread is intended for married chit-chatters which inadvertently implies happily married.
i dont think singles can ever understand whats it like to be married...hence y sometime u yearn for some attention form another like married person who is in the same boat and will have a lot more in common...if that makes sense
That makes sense and I understand communicating with people of similar interests/predicaments. As another mentioned, I do agree that it can become a slippery slope, if the person you share that predicament with is of the opposite sex (or the sex you're attracted/married to).
agreed, at some point u will start to 'online' more...lol..if u click with that person online...
but is it 'ok' to do all that while ur married but as long as ur not having sex in real life?
and i dont think one has to be unhappy in marriage to induldge in these thinga..it can be in ur nature just to look round even if u satisfied in ur life
Here's my rule of thumb: if it's something I can't show/tell my husband (i.e. show him the convos with that person/s, etc.) about, then I shouldn't be doing it.3 -
guns n buns:
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Guns_N_Buns wrote: »...f it's something I can't show...
Something are better left unseen. Amiright?
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Cutaway_Collar wrote: »Singles are like children. They do not understand married people problems
One guy told me he cannot imagine not having sex for a week if he were married. Sometimes life happens and sex is the last thing that week.
Oh my goodness, sex never changed in my relationship
. I swear, I think my hubby keeps tabs on what I "owe him" for putting a ring on it or something. 
Sorry for the TMI, but it's at least once a day.0 -
Guns_N_Buns wrote: »...f it's something I can't show...
Something are better left unseen. Amiright?
TOTES!
And girl talk/secrets with friends....those things are the exceptions.1 -
Married 21 years and loving life.
I run and bicycle and my wife has joined me the last 3 years3 -
It's sort of like phone sex, but on a fitness site. Do you think I might be a hot skinny chick that can rock your world. Think about it. Duh2
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Guns_N_Buns wrote: »Guns_N_Buns wrote: »...f it's something I can't show...
Something are better left unseen. Amiright?
TOTES!
And girl talk/secrets with friends....those things are the exceptions.
Ewwwh it's my mirror
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Guns_N_Buns wrote: »Here's my rule of thumb: if it's something I can't show/tell my husband (i.e. show him the convos with that person/s, etc.) about, then I shouldn't be doing it.
This. I'm a fan of total honesty.
Also, I don't think anyone can presume to know the rules of someone else's marriage. I knew a guy who I thought was a total jerk for cheating on his fiancé regularly and lying to her about it. Turned out, she knew, it was allowed, and she didn't want details. They're married with a kid now. Happily. I'm not gonna judge what makes someone happy unless they're hurting someone else. I can't possibly know what goes on in a relationship/marriage that isn't mine.1 -
Married in PA, feeling better about myself.
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dwatson925 wrote: »Married in PA, feeling better about myself.
I'm married and in PA too!!
I'm in Altoona area.1 -
I'm married we're going to NewYork for our 3 year anniversary in August!!! Where excited!2
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Noelani1503 wrote: »Guns_N_Buns wrote: »Here's my rule of thumb: if it's something I can't show/tell my husband (i.e. show him the convos with that person/s, etc.) about, then I shouldn't be doing it.
This. I'm a fan of total honesty.
Also, I don't think anyone can presume to know the rules of someone else's marriage. I knew a guy who I thought was a total jerk for cheating on his fiancé regularly and lying to her about it. Turned out, she knew, it was allowed, and she didn't want details. They're married with a kid now. Happily. I'm not gonna judge what makes someone happy unless they're hurting someone else. I can't possibly know what goes on in a relationship/marriage that isn't mine.
so true....u can never know what works for someone...so best to let them do whatever they think is right for them..1 -
Good morning everyone! Happy Friday Eve!1
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DarleneReid577 wrote: »It's sort of like phone sex, but on a fitness site. Do you think I might be a hot skinny chick that can rock your world. Think about it. Duh
Wait you're not? So the picture attached to your essay isn't you??
And the marrieds come to look for other marrieds cause they know it can only be a bit of fun. If one party is single then often one party thinks something more will happen. I've seen many women upset here because "he told me he'd leave his wife for me". Ya I'm sure it happens sometimes but some on. that's just my two cents worth. Most people just want a spot and someone to vent to about their spouse. Someone who might in a small way get it5 -
DarleneReid577 wrote: »It's sort of like phone sex, but on a fitness site. Do you think I might be a hot skinny chick that can rock your world. Think about it. Duh
I've seen many women upset here because "he told me he'd leave his wife for me". Ya I'm sure it happens sometimes but some on. that's just my two cents worth. Most people just want a spot and someone to vent to about their spouse. Someone who might in a small way get it
This lol
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Married here0
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TannedTiger wrote: »BinaryPulsar wrote: »I'm just expressing my thoughts. I'm sorry if I accidentally say something that is odd, offensive, or leads to misunderstanding. Because this seems like a topic open to lots of misunderstanding. I don't see how online chatting could ever be as good or better than real life. I like the physical interaction of real life for sex and for everything. But, I guess online is "safer" because people can have that flirty feeling with much less risk of it going further than what they would actually want. Online chatting is just imagination/illusion. But, it seems some people use it as an interactive type of porn. So, I guess that's the appeal. But, I am not interested. Seems it would get boring really fast. Also my husband adores everything about me. I can't imagine finding anyone that adores me to that degree. Online being an illusion means that a person would be liking an imaginary version of me. Not the real me with all my various quirks that make me a flawed human with positives and negatives. And you don't know, the person could smell bad. That said, I have been in a relationship with my husband for 18 years. It often seems that people that haven't been in a long happy relationship get more freaked out (and judgemental) by the idea of married people looking, flirting, etc. But, we are happy and human. I don't mind if I am out dancing with my husband and we are flirting together with others. I know he loves me and adores me. And can still have fun interacting harmlessly with others. It's not a big deal to me. Just being open to admiring and being admired with men and women. I don't want to be with anyone but my husband. But, it's still fun to interact in an open way with other humans dancing.
Wow...I am impressed..
Are you single? lol
She is not. I have been trying to steal her husband away from her for a while now, you know, for science.1 -
Lion king was so awesome
We were dressed up had great seats and the costumes wonderful
For all soon to be married congratulations
For those of us married it's tuff but I am 52 years married2
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