Husband in ER. What is th point.

JazCopycat

Having an horror day. My hubby went cycling at 10AM and till it was 4pm I was like, he must be enjoying his sun time. But then it started raining and I went looking for him everywhere around the lake and trough the bushes... Nothing. Asking everyone if they saw him. No one did. He ven didn't had his phone with him...
Then I decided I will call his parents. They are sick and I hate alarming them if it is not necessery. But I had to check if he was there, had a sleep... NO!!!
So i did what I had to. Called emergency and asked if there is a cyclist attended today. Long pause, she said yes!!!
It was a disaster. I felt down and my heart was punding...screaming.
*kitten* his obsession wit weight loss. You can't diet and cycle on empty stomack.
I was at the ER for 5h. And first they told me he is comatosed, then thah CR is ok... And finelly now they left me see him.
Pain pain.he didn't look at me. It is one horible place. Tomorrow I will go again. Hope to se his eyes looking at me again. There is nothing worst than seeing loved one so ...so and you can't do sh**

mkakids

Im so sorry. I hope he makes a quick and complete recovery.

Melodieccurn

So sorry . How scary for you. I wish quick recovery and keep us updated.

solieco1

did he crash or was he hit by a car or what/ so so sorry!!!

JazCopycat

Yes it is scary. And worst part is I can't show and share this pain withpeople I know. I pretend strong for his parents. They are sick and old. I don't wann see them getting worse. Now I am home. They druged me but I can't sleep. And have to vo again in the morning. Have his T-shirt on me.

ParkingPeddler

Jaz...I went through something similar when my wife was struck by a truck while riding her bike to work. That rip to ER and the waiting is the absolute worst! She had significant injuries which were life changing. But we endured, and you will too. You will be the pillar when your partner needs it, and he will surprise you and show you resilience and strength when you need it most. Focus on the positive, take it one moment at a time and eventually you will be able to take it one day at time...I can tell you from our own experience that pain management is a daily reality, but so is gratitude...she's here, and I will take that any day of the week. God bless you both.

JazCopycat

We only know it wasn't a car praise to Lord. Surgent asked ne if he had epilepsy before. I was shocked. I said no. He is on a diet and went out without breakfast. He is like a chinld, never lisens to me. 15 min later he fel and hit the head. Where on what? No one knows. I should go and take his stuff from the caffee where that happend. Fuc* that. I am thinking of throwing it away.
Can you believe that poloceman called me to ask waht happend. ..Doctor said he was avaike for 5 min and he told that he way trying to avoul the dog. But he was sceptic about it.
I was so stresses I didn't know what to ask. He has these headicks all the time. Several times he fell from the bike....

JazCopycat

Thank you ParkingPeddler. Hope he will. He is so depressive, mentaly gentle...

Melodieccurn

I'm a trauma nurse so if I can help in any way even to vent to. We are here for you.

kirstinethornburg

I am so sorry God be with you and your family prayers for a quick and total recovery

ClubSilencio

He will be in my thoughts. As will you.

Was he wearing a helmet?

JazCopycat

Melodieccurn wrote: »

I'm a trauma nurse so if I can help in any way even to vent to. We are here for you.

I don't understand why he had that epi attack or how they call it. Is it because of the fall and crushing the right side of the skull? Do those headaches have to do something with his bad coordination... Do you have any smart questions I shoukd ask tomorrow?

JazCopycat

No. He never wears nothing. When he gets better I will have to spank him like a bad child. Stupid honey of mine

2011rocket3touring

I'm so sorry. Best wishes for a complete and absolute recovery.
He is fortunate to have you.

GiddyupTim

I feel for you. Hope tomorrow things get clarified a bit and that it is easier. Good luck.

Sharon_C

I've been where you are. Husband went for a bike ride and fell off and broke his head, suffering a traumatic brain injury. He had his phone on him and the paramedics called me. I know EXACTLY how you are feeling. You can't do this alone. You need a support group of friends and family around you. You can ask me questions too. I'm not a nurse but I know a lot about brain injuries.

Melodieccurn

JazCopycat wrote: »

Melodieccurn wrote: »

I'm a trauma nurse so if I can help in any way even to vent to. We are here for you.

I don't understand why he had that epi attack or how they call it. Is it because of the fall and crushing the right side of the skull? Do those headaches have to do something with his bad coordination... Do you have any smart questions I shoukd ask tomorrow?

He probally has some pressure on the brain or a brain injury. The next 24 hrs are important than the next 24 hrs. The important thing to watch for is brain swelling. The headaches could be unrelated or not . Did he ever had seizures?
Ask to speak with the neurologist or critical care specialist . I know you don't want to tell his parents but they need to know. Talk to the nurses, a lot of times we cannot tell you everything but we are there for you and we are good when you need a shoulder or a hug. Don't hesitate calling the nurse in the middle of the night if you need to know he is okay. We are used to this, I prefer my family members call if it helps them rest easy. I wish I was there for you because it is times like these when you need someone to lean on. Hugs and prayers
Melodie

JazCopycat

I was there today. Stil I don't think he knows I was there. He was asking for a knife to cut some bandages... But all like he was delirious.
I told him I love him but I don't think he heard that. He asked to pee... Eyes closed. I believe he is under medications ?!
I went there, where that happened and workers of that caffee told me that one woman was with the dog. And the leash was the one of those that can self extend... Dog went on other side and my hunney tried to evoid that and ... felt.
That woman didn't even care to ask for him. I love animals. He should have felt on her. Peace of garbage.
I always like to believe that people are good in their core, but I have to grow up and see the world like it is. Full os selfish and ignorant people!!!!

Thank you all for your support and good wishes. He is breading on his own now, they say he will be good. They just keep asking about that epi attack... Isn't it normal to have it sometimes after you hit the brain?????

msf74

Rider / Road ID bracelet.

Your husband needs it in his life if he intends to continue cycling...

mbaker566

road/rider id or something like that is important

to be fair, i nearly always go for a run on an empty stomach

I hope his recovery is quick and full

my cousin was killed by a drunk driver while my cousin was doing a training bike ride. Be grateful you still have your husband

gettinghealthyandwell

I'm so sorry my thoughts and prayers are with you.

shadowfax_c11

Those flexi leashes are awfully dangerous. I wish people would stop using them.

I am so sorry your hubby is in the hospital. I know how hard that is. I dealt with that myself a long time ago. My husband went in the hospital with a gallstone attack. It was three months before the end. You know even while he is out of his mind part of him will know when you are there and it will help him to find his way back. I know it's scary.

Try to stay calm as much as you can and be sure to try to rest and eat right. You need to be strong to help him to get better.

Best wishes for a good recovery. And better sense on his part in the future.

JazCopycat

Today it's worst. They say he has frontal hematoma or something like that. What does that mean? How is that possible first he is better then worst....are they lying to me?
@Melodieccurn I don't know how tobsend you a message.

Francl27

I'm so sorry!

Talk to the doctor, it's crazy that they wouldn't explain to you what the problem is.

mbaker566

you should ask the doctor. while it means he has bruising on his frontal lobe, the severity can vary

shank35l

JazCopycat wrote: »

Today it's worst. They say he has frontal hematoma or something like that. What does that mean? How is that possible first he is better then worst....are they lying to me?
@Melodieccurn I don't know how tobsend you a message.

Clinician to english:

He's likely got a collection of blood outside of blood vessels between the brain tissue and the inside lining of the brain in the front part (left or right). Going ONLY of what you have stated it sounds as though it's toward the serious end of the spectrum. It's all about pressure on the brain right now.

The physicians, PAs, Nurses have no reason to lie to you or mislead you. Better and worse is very relative when we're waiting on results and in the critical 24 hour post injury phase of this sort of thing. Just as Melodiecurn said a lot of times we cannot tell you everything. We're running for lab results, radiology reports, etc. - for you, and everyone else.

Been exactly where your husband is now due to a roadside bomb. I was confused and in and out for 4 days.

tulips_and_tea

So sorry to hear this! I hope he recovers quickly and thank you to all the nice people on this thread who have offered help, which makes me question even more, WHY are all of the OP's posts flagged???

WeepingAngel81

I was also wondering why her posts were flagged??

Anyway OP- I am so sorry you are going through this. I have no words of advice. I hope he has a speedy recovery and that you are able to keep your stress levels from going through the roof.

chaney3000

Ok, so sorry to hear about what happened to your husband. I will send a pray you guys way.

And to help clear up some of your questions.

They are asking if he has a history of seizures. If he had a seizure for the first time, they are trying to figure out what may have caused this. Epilepsy is a blanket term for a misfire in the brain. Something in your brain is not firing correctly and will cause you to have a seizure. I could be triggered by lights, sounds or smells or anything like that.

A hematoma is the collection of blood in the skull that is putting pressure on the brain.

The brain is enclosed in the skull and has only limited room for movement. So if there is bleeding in there it is essentially taking up valuable space. So the only openings are at the base of the skull where your spine connects. If the swelling and pressure builds up high enough it will force the brain down to that opening. Putting pressure on your spine causing paralysis.

If he fell and hit his head from seizing while riding his bike, he could easily have fractured his skull which could cause hematoma.

NorthCascades

JazCopycat wrote: »

I was there today. Stil I don't think he knows I was there. He was asking for a knife to cut some bandages... But all like he was delirious.
I told him I love him but I don't think he heard that. He asked to pee... Eyes closed. I believe he is under medications ?!

Last fall I was riding my bike when I got hit - hard - by a car. An ambulance took me to the ER and they kept me there overnight and most of the next day. I still don't know exactly how it happened, I remember laying in the street and somebody telling me I should get out of it if I can walk. I don't remember if I walked or if people helped me or what. It was awful, very frightening, painful, and I didn't know what was going on.

Luckily I had my phone. I called my honey and told her what happened. She got to the hospital a few minutes after I did. She was the only thing that made me happy for those two days. They kept giving me pain drugs, sometimes I would pass out, but when I woke up and saw her, I was less afraid.

Your husband needs you now, probably more than he's ever needed you before, and hopefully more than he ever will again.

suzyjane1972

Blood can take a while to collect so it is very likely he was doing ok until enough blood pooled to cause him to essentially not be ok anymore.