Need help for friend who wants to lose weight

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  • Scamd83
    Scamd83 Posts: 808 Member
    Not your problem, leave him to it.
  • paulgads82
    paulgads82 Posts: 256 Member
    2 years ago I was severely depressed and in hospital. I also have a chronic Illness which is incredibly debilitating and painful. I got counselling. This helped me find the motivation to lose weight and eat healthy. If I can lose over 40lb he can do it, it's just getting on that ladder. I don't know your friend but I doubt he is "lazy", whatever lazy is even supposed to mean. He may need a kick in the rear. He may need a hug and support. Everyone is different but it can be done.
  • x311sublimex
    x311sublimex Posts: 40 Member
    booksandchocolate12 wrote: »
    snickerscharlie wrote: »
    booksandchocolate12 wrote: »
    Mavrick_RN wrote: »
    From your description he is living in a fantasy world not unlike his video games. Get out. Now. Run, don't walk to the nearest gym and thank your lucky stars you aren't pregnant by him.

    Actually, I think this would be kind of amazing. Mainly because the OP is a guy.

    "It's Jake from State Farm." :)

    She sounds hideous.

    OP, what are you wearing? :smiley:

    Haha I love that commercial. Well, I'm wearing a t shirt and some shorts(I live in California). But glad I'm not pregnant from him either lmao! You guys are too funny!

  • x311sublimex
    x311sublimex Posts: 40 Member
    paulgads82 wrote: »
    2 years ago I was severely depressed and in hospital. I also have a chronic Illness which is incredibly debilitating and painful. I got counselling. This helped me find the motivation to lose weight and eat healthy. If I can lose over 40lb he can do it, it's just getting on that ladder. I don't know your friend but I doubt he is "lazy", whatever lazy is even supposed to mean. He may need a kick in the rear. He may need a hug and support. Everyone is different but it can be done.

    I tried the whole support thing and he keeps saying he doesn't need help and he is getting better(which he is not) he is a point were he needs professional help. I even looked online for free consoling since he doesn't have medical insurance. Still turned it down and got pissed off at me. I went also as far as joining a social anxiety forum group to try to get tips on getting him to realize he needs help. He has been living the same situation for well over 14 years. So I'm just tired of being his "mom" like figure and trying to figure stuff out for him. In reality I truly think he thinks that what he's doing is not wrong and that's why he's not doing it. I even went at far as getting different job applications to video game companies and he didn't even accept the papers I printed out for him.
  • Peregrymj
    Peregrymj Posts: 34 Member
    His Mom needs a wakeup call, his games need to go in the trash and his *kitten* needs to be thrown in therapy, and then the workforce.
    Unfortunately there's no way for you to do this for him. Fixing a broken person who's unwilling to get better is damn near impossible.
    What will he do when his mom dies?
  • paulgads82
    paulgads82 Posts: 256 Member
    x311sublimex wrote: »
    paulgads82 wrote: »
    2 years ago I was severely depressed and in hospital. I also have a chronic Illness which is incredibly debilitating and painful. I got counselling. This helped me find the motivation to lose weight and eat healthy. If I can lose over 40lb he can do it, it's just getting on that ladder. I don't know your friend but I doubt he is "lazy", whatever lazy is even supposed to mean. He may need a kick in the rear. He may need a hug and support. Everyone is different but it can be done.

    I tried the whole support thing and he keeps saying he doesn't need help and he is getting better(which he is not) he is a point were he needs professional help. I even looked online for free consoling since he doesn't have medical insurance. Still turned it down and got pissed off at me. I went also as far as joining a social anxiety forum group to try to get tips on getting him to realize he needs help. He has been living the same situation for well over 14 years. So I'm just tired of being his "mom" like figure and trying to figure stuff out for him. In reality I truly think he thinks that what he's doing is not wrong and that's why he's not doing it. I even went at far as getting different job applications to video game companies and he didn't even accept the papers I printed out for him.

    What a crap situation. I have a mate who is 300lb plus and alcoholic. Tried for years to no avail.
  • Mavrick_RN
    Mavrick_RN Posts: 439 Member
    edited May 2016
    booksandchocolate12 wrote: »
    Mavrick_RN wrote: »
    From your description he is living in a fantasy world not unlike his video games. Get out. Now. Run, don't walk to the nearest gym and thank your lucky stars you aren't pregnant by him.

    Actually, I think this would be kind of amazing. Mainly because the OP is a guy.

    OMG! What an error I made. I "assumed" only a woman would be so involved in someone else's problems. Just slap me.

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