Getting teased for training
ntjelmeland
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I thought it would give me motivation and support to "go public" with my upcoming 5k in September. I'm doing the couch to 5k running program and I'm on week 4. I'm starting to notice that I'm getting faster and have more endurance, so I'm getting excited for what my race time will be. There's a co-worker who consistently teases me for training for a 5k. I've told him time and time again that I haven't run regularly in over a year and don't want to hurt myself. He just scoffs and tells me he could run a 5k in under 30 minutes with no preparation. It's very discouraging. Have any of you been in a similar situation? If so, any pointers on what I can say/do in this situation? Any advice on what I can do to stay motivated despite the snarky comments from this negative nancy?
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Who cares what they say. You are doing this for yourself.0
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Tell him to put up or shut up.....
He's obviously a loser who can only feel better trying to put others down. Offer to pay the entry fee for him and watch him weasel his way out......0 -
my best friend ran cross country and track in high school and college. Ive always been overweight where he has lived in the gym and couldnt gain a 1lb of fat if he tried. He knows i cant run well at all but he actually will give me help and support. I actually use him for motivation as well but it is a def thorn in my side knowing how hard I have to work to do something he can do in his sleep. Stay on track and stay positive. I ran my first 5k this year (mud zombie run) which wasnt timed and it actually only took me about 40 minutes which i was extremely proud of.
Stay positive, stay focused, and ignore any negativity. You are doing this for you.0 -
Just smile sweetly and say "How nice for you. I'm not you." Then go on with your life. He's not worth worrying about.0
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He can't be happy for you? What a jerk. Ignore him and just don't eventalk to him about your training. Good for you for trying to do something that's not easy.0
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Tell him to put up or shut up.....
He's obviously a loser who can only feel better trying to put others down. Offer to pay the entry fee for him and watch him weasel his way out......
Love this idea! I had a coworker who was a CONSTANT one upper, and put down others efforts. When iI finally "challenged" him he quickly made excuses and stopped....at least around me.0 -
Tell him to "put up or shut up ". In other words if he's so sure he can do it, challenge him. In the meantime, you are doing this for yourself, not him! And you're doing it correctly. Keep in mind that this is for your benefit.0
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If he is so sure he can do it, make him prove it. He's an idiot0
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Your fat "friends" do not want you thin
Your drunk "friends" do not want you sober
Your slow "friends" do not want you fast
Cutting people down is way easier than bringing yourself up. This is what's going on, nothing more, nothing less. Two options:
1. Use it for fuel
2. Ignore and proceed0 -
Bring him a sign up form for your race and tell him that you are targeting sub 30 and you were hoping he could be your pacer.
I agree that this guy isn't worth your time but at some point enough is enough.0 -
Tell him to put up or shut up.....
He's obviously a loser who can only feel better trying to put others down. Offer to pay the entry fee for him and watch him weasel his way out......
I love the idea! He's definitely a one-upper. We'll see if he's got the kahones to actually follow through.0 -
Ugh.
I am intimately familiar with people who one up. I know someone who, if I tell her I ran five miles in 45 minutes they would tell me they did 10 in that amount of time. Or if I tell them my personal best with lifting they have one that's better. I can't win with them and in all honesty I have stopped trying.
I agree with the person who said that you should tell them to put up or shut up. People like that only do it because they know it gets to you and it makes them feel better.0 -
1. He's obviously insecure about himself.
2. He may be socially inept at encouraging other people.
But either way, don't make this about him. Make it about you. (Remember, it's all about me, deal with it!) There's one in every crowd so don't empower him. I'm so proud of you for your hard work and effort. I'm not yet to the point where I can run but I'm walking 4-5 miles or biking 8.5 - 9.5 miles a day, everyday. Take pride in what you've accomplished and have lots of pictures taken for us at the 5K. I know I'd love to see you cross the finish line!!!!!0 -
Take a stopwatch to work tomorrow and tell him you'll time his 5K at lunch. Bullies don't react well to being called on their crap and you shouldn't take it. Part of being physically strong includes being mentally strong and not just when it comes to snacks IMHO.0
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Offer to pay the entry fee for him and watch him weasel his way out......
yes, THIS!0 -
Yep. I get it all the time. Misery loves company. They are envious of what you're doing because they want to do it as well.
Keep smiling, shining, working hard, and staying positive. People WILL flock and join you eventually. If they don't, maybe it's time to take a step back from these negative people. I did and I couldn't be happier
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the fact that you are posting a thread about him means that he is already in your head, and has won ..
I would challenge him and say OK ..this Saturday you and me are going to run a 5k and lets see who finishes with best time..
either that or just ignore his lame *kitten*0 -
The guy is a idiot....you are doing this the RIGHT way.. training to avoid injury and maintain pace. Sure he probably could do it with out prep... but at what cost??.. hang in there... training the right way means everything...it keeps you save and allows you to progress...0
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Your fat "friends" do not want you thin
Your drunk "friends" do not want you sober
Your slow "friends" do not want you fast
Cutting people down is way easier than bringing yourself up. This is what's going on, nothing more, nothing less. Two options:
1. Use it for fuel
2. Ignore and proceed
QFT0 -
Tell him to put up or shut up.....
He's obviously a loser who can only feel better trying to put others down. Offer to pay the entry fee for him and watch him weasel his way out......
THIS!!0 -
Who cares what they say. You are doing this for yourself.
This.
Other wise say "Ok nut up or shut today after work do it." then really loudly you make sure the whole office hears you talking about how hes so fast and epic he'll run a 5km right after work.0 -
I thought it would give me motivation and support to "go public" with my upcoming 5k in September. I'm doing the couch to 5k running program and I'm on week 4. I'm starting to notice that I'm getting faster and have more endurance, so I'm getting excited for what my race time will be. There's a co-worker who consistently teases me for training for a 5k. I've told him time and time again that I haven't run regularly in over a year and don't want to hurt myself. He just scoffs and tells me he could run a 5k in under 30 minutes with no preparation. It's very discouraging. Have any of you been in a similar situation? If so, any pointers on what I can say/do in this situation? Any advice on what I can do to stay motivated despite the snarky comments from this negative nancy?
You say "Good for you."
I don't see how this could discourage you at all. You must have known that some people run better than you and some people run worse than you before you started.
Clearly this guy is acting like a douche but I wouldn't worry about it. There are going to be douche bags at the 5k with you when you get there. I bet there are douche bags living on the same block as you right now. Their existence cannot be a reason for a loss in motivation or you will never make it.0 -
Tell him you rolled your eyes so hard that you saw your brain...0
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Your fat "friends" do not want you thin
Your drunk "friends" do not want you sober
Your slow "friends" do not want you fast
Cutting people down is way easier than bringing yourself up. This is what's going on, nothing more, nothing less. Two options:
1. Use it for fuel
2. Ignore and proceed
Wise, true, and love this! Sadly, it can be very difficult even in relationships with people you've known a very long time (and are very close to-- like a spouse) when you try to better yourself. People see you as leaving them behind and it makes them uncomfortable because you are saying to them that you are rejecting whatever behavior it is that you've been happy doing with them (being lazy, not eating right, getting drunk, "partying," whatever). Sometimes relationships don't make it through the changes.
But this guy is just a coworker, so who cares, right?0 -
Choose your battles. Ignore him and stop talking about your running and dietary activities. Most of the time you end up either in a competition over it or you simply get negative comments.
The only people I discuss my fitness activities with are those that are similarly situated. I even avoid discussing lifting with some of my running friends.0 -
Sure.
I've been training for years and awhile back, I was finally able to lift the bottles we use on our office coolers. I thought that was a great NSV, until I realized that all my coworkers could do that, and none of them exercise.
Just remember that we're all different and that you are better than you used to be. And that's all that matters.0 -
Just tell him he's amazing.0
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I thought it would give me motivation and support to "go public" with my upcoming 5k in September. I'm doing the couch to 5k running program and I'm on week 4. I'm starting to notice that I'm getting faster and have more endurance, so I'm getting excited for what my race time will be. There's a co-worker who consistently teases me for training for a 5k. I've told him time and time again that I haven't run regularly in over a year and don't want to hurt myself. He just scoffs and tells me he could run a 5k in under 30 minutes with no preparation. It's very discouraging. Have any of you been in a similar situation? If so, any pointers on what I can say/do in this situation? Any advice on what I can do to stay motivated despite the snarky comments from this negative nancy?
Yes some people thrive on pissing others off!!!! First do not let him know he is getting to you... Second lure him into this conversation around other and dumbass him and front everyone his self esteem will drop and you will not have to worry about it. Most of them (( Whatever you can do I can do better types )) Are full of (( )) embarass him in a crowd is all you have to do.0 -
I only talk about running with other runners. The normies don't really get it... carry on.0
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tell him to eff off!0
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