Would you allow phones during a dinner date?
Whether it's a first date or a long term relationship
Me personally, I find it to be rude to be checking Facebook when you're trying have conversation and be with someone when the other person is more focused on connecting with anyone besides you.
Not something that I'm actually dealing with myself, more or less interested in hearing others opinions.
Me personally, I find it to be rude to be checking Facebook when you're trying have conversation and be with someone when the other person is more focused on connecting with anyone besides you.
Not something that I'm actually dealing with myself, more or less interested in hearing others opinions.
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Nope. Fortunately, hubs and I are old, so we could care less about facebook or twittering etc...if the phone rings, its usually attached to my desk, and work-related. I have sat thru a dinner with someone on their cell the whole time, that was the last time I went out with her, friend or not.0
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Would I ALLOW a phone? How am I to stop it, save for ending the relationship in the future. Slap the phone from the other person's hand?
Checking FaceBook during a date, rude, unless looking something up that arose from our conversation (a friend common between us, perhaps). Logging in the meal on MFP? Not so rude?
My conversations are usually so entrancing that the other party has no opportunity to even consider FaceBook as an alternative ;-)1 -
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My last first date was almost 3 decades ago. No such thing as a cell phone. I'm sure glad, because if my date had pulled one out to check Texts, Messages, Social Media or whatever, that would have been a dealbreaker.
I wouldn't have three beautiful daughters. Who, by the way, are developing kyphosis, like the rest of their generation, from always looking down at their cell phone.
These days people are missing so much because they withdraw into their cell phones. Keeps me entertained, though. Love watching them trip over stuff, walk into poles and signs and other stationary stuff.
Does plss me off, though, when I miss the light, because the DB in front of me was looking down instead of watching the red light turn green.5 -
I don't think its rude to check. For instance if a person calls my dates phone or sends a text its quite odd for that person (or me) to shrug it off. Seems like they're (or I am) hiding something if they dont check. Also I wouldn't just ignore my phone because I'm on a date life goes on. It could be someone that needed something (confirmation or something, money, etc).
Its get to the point of rude when you never put the phone down or acknowledge the person in front of you.1 -
No. Typically when my wife and I get to actually go out on a Dinner Date while our daughter is at a babysitters we leave my phone in the car, and leave her phone in her purse, on silent with only the babysitters number on priority.2
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No, I absolutely hate it. If it's a dinner date it's about spending time together.
I'm bitching at my boyfriend if he's looking at fb on his phone even when we're just hanging out (we're long distance though) cause I think it's rude if you're trying to spend time together with someone. Now getting a call from family? I won't protest3 -
When I was dating I had 2 different guys pull out their phones to text during dinner on first dates. I asked them to stop. Both were shocked that I said something but they put their phones away. One was pretty good about it for the short time we dated but the other guy was always texting talking etc. he was gone quick. Now my husband and I don't text during meals and aren't on social media so it works out perfectly.3
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LiaMatilda wrote: »No, I absolutely hate it. If it's a dinner date it's about spending time together.
I'm bitching at my boyfriend if he's looking at fb on his phone even when we're just hanging out (we're long distance though) cause I think it's rude if you're trying to spend time together with someone. Now getting a call from family? I won't protest
Yup, exactly3 -
Hell no. If somebody is on their phone during a date I would not date them again. Or even if it's friends or family I have a go at them. I think it's rude. Nobody can seem to put their phones down for long anymore4
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i think its pretty rude to be constantly texting or checking fb on a date for sure
id take it as they are not interested in a conversation with me or in me and leave5 -
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On a date date absolutely not. But if we're just chilling I see no problem with it. But then again I scroll through my messages at the dinner table so I might not be the ideal person to answer this lol.2
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If it's like an actual date, then you better put that bloody thing away. When someone else check's their phone they are pretty much saying they'd rather be with whoever is on the phone then with you.
If it's just, hanging out with pizza and watching a movie or playing games, then a few checks is fine. But not so constantly on the phone that the movie gets paused or the game gets delayed.2 -
If dating or married and just hanging around then a few checks is fine. If it's the first date or first few dates then the phone should be put away. If it's important then he will hear his phone ring or feel it buzz. I went on a first date and the guy was texting the whole time,I left when he went to the bathroom and blocked his number never to speak to him again. I'm very old fashioned so I expect respect,attention and for him to be a gentleman.3
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No because I'm gonna check his *kitten* in wherever we are on fb that way all his side pieces know what's up! Let them know baby daddy is with ME at the Olive Garden and then they know not to expect no huggies that week! Then it's on to Instagram where I post a pic of my cuisine and let hashtag and emojis do all the explaining. Last but not least checking in on MFP to log my meal and let my friends know I'm on a date with the same guy I was complaining about last week.
So the phone is completely necessary
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i think it's probably a great idea to tell your date what they are allowed and not allowed to do.3
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_A_Real_Mouthful wrote: »JessicaJS23 wrote: »No because I'm gonna check his *kitten* in wherever we are on fb that way all his side pieces know what's up! Let them know baby daddy is with ME at the Olive Garden and then they know not to expect no huggies that week! Then it's on to Instagram where I post a pic of my cuisine and let hashtag and emojis do all the explaining. Last but not least checking in on MFP to log my meal and let my friends know I'm on a date with the same guy I was complaining about last week.
So the phone is completely necessary
he can just set it so it goes to him first for approval when someone tags him in somewhere.
plus if he's a guy he's not on the gram anyhow.
I met him on the gram!3 -
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My husband often has to work when we go out. Such is the nature of his job. It's annoying but such is life so I figure while he's doing work stuff I can Facebook or MFP.
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Sugar_Pill wrote: »JessicaJS23 wrote: »_A_Real_Mouthful wrote: »JessicaJS23 wrote: »No because I'm gonna check his *kitten* in wherever we are on fb that way all his side pieces know what's up! Let them know baby daddy is with ME at the Olive Garden and then they know not to expect no huggies that week! Then it's on to Instagram where I post a pic of my cuisine and let hashtag and emojis do all the explaining. Last but not least checking in on MFP to log my meal and let my friends know I'm on a date with the same guy I was complaining about last week.
So the phone is completely necessary
he can just set it so it goes to him first for approval when someone tags him in somewhere.
plus if he's a guy he's not on the gram anyhow.
I met him on the gram!_A_Real_Mouthful wrote: »JessicaJS23 wrote: »_A_Real_Mouthful wrote: »JessicaJS23 wrote: »No because I'm gonna check his *kitten* in wherever we are on fb that way all his side pieces know what's up! Let them know baby daddy is with ME at the Olive Garden and then they know not to expect no huggies that week! Then it's on to Instagram where I post a pic of my cuisine and let hashtag and emojis do all the explaining. Last but not least checking in on MFP to log my meal and let my friends know I'm on a date with the same guy I was complaining about last week.
So the phone is completely necessary
he can just set it so it goes to him first for approval when someone tags him in somewhere.
plus if he's a guy he's not on the gram anyhow.
I met him on the gram!
ah that's sweet
I'm still spooning my pillow
You both know the only thing I hold on to at night is my dignity
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My husband often has to work when we go out. Such is the nature of his job. It's annoying but such is life so I figure while he's doing work stuff I can Facebook or MFP.
That stinks but at least you're both okay with it, I do hope there are times when you can both enjoy phone free though2 -
Phones are a must. You may see another hot girl while your out on a date and have to get a picture of her. And I typically don't carry a pen and paper so if I want to ask for her number, I can put it in my phone4
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My husband often has to work when we go out. Such is the nature of his job. It's annoying but such is life so I figure while he's doing work stuff I can Facebook or MFP.
This is basically how it goes down in my world, too. My hubby is always taking calls/texts in the middle of dates, watching movies, dinner, whatever, for work. It's annoying, but I've just learned to deal with it and crush some candy.
Serious dates (anniversaries, etc.) he knows better.2 -
Guns_N_Buns wrote: »My husband often has to work when we go out. Such is the nature of his job. It's annoying but such is life so I figure while he's doing work stuff I can Facebook or MFP.
This is basically how it goes down in my world, too. My hubby is always taking calls/texts in the middle of dates, watching movies, dinner, whatever, for work. It's annoying, but I've just learned to deal with it and crush some candy.
Serious dates (anniversaries, etc.) he knows better.
Yup this. If I've asked him to come home "early" so we can go for din it means he wi be late and will still be working. So whatever. Heck tomorrow is my birthday and he cancelled one event but can't skip another so he will just be normal time coming home anyway0 -
Allow isn't really the right word though lol more like would we tolerate it or would it bother us.0
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I agree rude. My fiance never use to do it but now he does but he doesn't take it like we are on a date anymore. It is very frustrating.0
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No way. Phones should never be out at the dinner table whether you are on a date or not. It's rude. I don't even think it's ok to leave your phone sitting out if you aren't on it. It tells the other person that 100% of your attention is not on them.
I have kids and I get that sometimes you are monitoring for a call from the baby sitter or something, but put it in your pocket on vibrate or something. It just shouldn't be out at all, especially on a date.2
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