Lack of support:(
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@crochetluvr he feels he has the harder job and more strenuous 10 hr shift than my sitting 10 hr shift plus he is stuck in the wife does it all thing that comes from his up bringing.
I get this too. Just because my job is not physical, I never work as hard as anyone else. Like to see them sit for hours at a desk and see how they feel. Sorry, touch subject for me.0 -
Have found a lot of wonderful people for support here,sending a request and will do whatever I can to help encourage and listen.0
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I'll send ya a request! The best motivation for me...think about how great you FEEL after you workout...physically & mentally! It helps me so much, I cannot stop now! I don't know how often you're working out, but if you start to do it regularly, that's when you really FEEL the difference. Hang in there...force yourself to do it daily, or 5-6 days a week. Before no time, you'll crave exercise! Seriously! I used to hate it. I kinda still do, but I want the outcome!
Best of luck! And the eating thing...once you get accustom to certain habits, it's easy. And once you start losing a noticeable amount of weight, you'll be glad you did.I have an issue... I need support! I have a great husband but all he wants to do is tell me I'm looking soft and because he is fit and trim due to his job he really don't care to do anything but sit and watch TV in the evenings. I have a desk job and I sit almost all day and when I get home cook him a super unhealthy supper he asks for and cook me a totally different meal and clean up and take care ofy 2 year old son I'm really not motivated to do anything. I have been trying to run about 10-15 mins a day but I wanna do more and I need the support and motivation to do that other than "you look a little soft"... I need friends0 -
@rainrshine they both sound delish!
@jleach- I don't push him really about anything lol I think in his head he is trying to be supportive I just want him to see I want a healthier life:) and I think that is my main prob I feel guilty over the least little thing thank you you are awesome!
@sp0414- I like the idea of walking or running for a month and the reward is a gym membership that's cool!0 -
I have an issue... I need support! I have a great husband but all he wants to do is tell me I'm looking soft and because he is fit and trim due to his job he really don't care to do anything but sit and watch TV in the evenings. I have a desk job and I sit almost all day and when I get home cook him a super unhealthy supper he asks for and cook me a totally different meal and clean up and take care ofy 2 year old son I'm really not motivated to do anything. I have been trying to run about 10-15 mins a day but I wanna do more and I need the support and motivation to do that other than "you look a little soft"... I need friends0
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@tazmitten it sucks to sit all day I try to tell him... its hard to sit and errgh
Thank you all for your nice comments and wonderful support!0 -
Add me as a friend if you like! I sit all day at a desk and my husband is self employed and gets a lot of exercise some days. He is not actively trying to lose weight but he supports my choice and he does our weekday cooking. He makes healthy dinners so I can enjoy food without the stress. We have enjoyed trying new recipes that the whole family likes. Some times a new recipe is a disaster but we have fun trying them out anyway.
Talk to your hubby before you get hard feelings and it spoils your relationship.0 -
Hi There!
My husband just thinks about losing weight and it happens! He coaches two sports and gets fitness in that way. We are setting a goal together to do a race soon--- possibly a half marathon.
You have to express what you need to succeed to your husband, and how his supports fits in. To me, my husband is my best friend and teammate. If that's what you need from him, tell him. Also... what about what YOU want and need? What about all that YOU do for the marriage?! Remind him of that. He needs to be lifting you up, otherwise he is just getting in your way.
Also- I agree with the others. You are not a short order cook. Make what is healthful for your entire family. If he doesn't like it, he can make what he wants for himself!
Good luck!0 -
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Feel free to friend me. I'm on pretty much everyday and try to reach out to everyone I see come across my news feed.
Now on to your husband. I would suggest that you tell him to get off his butt and help you with your child, along with making his own meals so you can focus on your proper eating and have time to get in a solid hour or more of working out.
Once you say that, his only response is going to be yes or no. If it's no, then maybe a couple of nights of just eating your type of meal will change his mind and convince him to starting cooking for himself. It's crazy that you would have to cook 2 separate meals every night because of your husbands unwillingness to help.0 -
Hello there! Fellow desk sitter all day, mother of a 3 year old here!! Feel free to add me!!0
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Request sent and on it's way.!0
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I was in the same situation, more or less, but I'm just way more stubborn than my husband.
Sent you a request.0 -
My best motivation is how I feel after I work out. And how I feel when a pair of jeans or outfit fits better on me than before. That is why I keep pushing myself! We are friends on here now! We will support each other!0
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Request sent.0
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sending you a request0
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I have a very similar situation, sending you are request!0
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I have no support either and I actually met someone from MFP that lives in my area. We workout together at the gym and have become friends. What better then to have someone that is aiming for the exact same thing as you! Just an idea.0
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Good afternoon everyone!
I have sent everyone (I think) a friend request.
I am in need of support.
I have used MFP several times and left a bit ago because I didnt feel I was getting much if any support and got discouraged.
THought I would come back and see if I could fing a new group of friends.
Looking forward to getting to know everyone.
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@crochetluvr he feels he has the harder job and more strenuous 10 hr shift than my sitting 10 hr shift plus he is stuck in the wife does it all thing that comes from his up bringing.
Remind him this is the 21st century - if you both work you both have to share the home stuff (good and bad). It took me a while to train Hubby as his father was a "sit at the table and ask for all the extras plus second helpings" type, so MIL only sat down when he was done and gone to watch TV (and THAT is why she has digestive problems!!). When our eldest was less than 4 months I went back top work full time so hubby got used to sharing chores, changing nappies and everything (I think my father changed one nappy each for me and my sister as my mother stayed at home til we were at school).
When I only worked 2 days a week I did most of the chores (and a LOT of baking), but as my hours have gone up again my chores have come down proportionately. My friends who are SAHMs don't feel they can ask their husbands to do any ironing or anything, but as hubby and I both work full time we automatically share the chores - apart from anything else, if you let him sit on his a** all day its a poor example to your son! If you work full time as well (or even close to it) then you are mentally exhausted and just as in need of a break, not to start a 4-hour shift as commis chef!
ETA my Hubby and I are both in our late 40s, you look much younger so unless you married a pensioner your husband has no excuse!!!0
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