The body-face dilemma after 40

wisdomfromyou
wisdomfromyou Posts: 198 Member
edited December 2 in Health and Weight Loss
I know you guys love motivation and success stories on this forum but I'm not a success story ( just yet). More like a mess story. To make a long story very short, last year I lost 30 lbs with the initial 10 lbs dropped unintentionally as a result of a pneumonia bout and another health scare which sent me into a pretty serious depressive episode. When I finally came around after about 3 months, I took advantage of the initial weight loss and continued with calorie counting and exercise over the summer. Total weight loss: 30 lbs.

Then in the fall things started to storm up badly at work and I entered another very stressful period during which I tend to overeat / lose track of how/what I eat / need lots of comfort food.

Result: In a year, I pretty much regained all the weight I'd lost. How simple is that?

In the meantime, I also noticed that the 30 lbs weight loss was not exactly without taxation. The volume loss in the face led to some cheek flattening and the very first signs of droopiness/ jowl tendency.

I am 43, granted, but up until this weight loss episode (at 42 yo) my face was picture perfect. The changes happened too abruptly not to be related to the weight fluctuation.

Now I am afraid that if I go back down in weight, the droopy/flat cheeks will get even worse.

I once read somewhere that after 40, women must choose between their face and their body.

Kinda depressing, especially for those women who had always carried more stock in face than in body :) ...

Rationally, I know one should probably choose body because of the health factor - buts one of us don't cope well with face-related vanity either.

Any advice ?

Thank you all.
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  • queenliz99
    queenliz99 Posts: 15,317 Member
    It is what it is
  • wisdomfromyou
    wisdomfromyou Posts: 198 Member
    After 25 or 30... the body or anything definitely doesn't go "downhill".

    After 40 though, nature sounds like it does mean business.

    Ive always been fanatic about sun protection, etc and the texture/surface of my skin is still impeccable. My Trouble is with the underlying layers of fat. Once gone, face starts losing its original structure...:(
  • haviegirl
    haviegirl Posts: 230 Member
    For me, being healthy and feeling great is the most important thing, and weighing 35 pounds less has done wonders for that. But I'm also a person who isn't afraid of medical/surgical help when necessary. Botox, fillers, etc, done by a skillful practitioner with a light hand, can do wonders. It's not up everyone's alley, but it's definitely up mine. I'm 53, by the way. Only doing a tiny bit of Botox at the moment, but leaving all options open!
  • seekingdaintiness
    seekingdaintiness Posts: 137 Member
    plastic surgery
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    I'm 42 and I lost 25 lbs over about 6 months and have maintained for several months before approaching losing more. I'm still about 10 lbs overweight. I don't think my face looks very different at all. My neck has gotten thinner but nothing is sagging.
    Maybe it is more the speed of your loss that contributes to a significant droop?

    I'm going to choose being a healthy weight at this point in my life. If things sag or get flat then that is how I will be.
  • ThisisnotTinder
    ThisisnotTinder Posts: 16 Member
    HHHMMMM....Sounds like BS to me too. I'll be 46 on Thursday and dropped to 125 (losing 20 lbs.) I have always had "fat" cheeks. I found the weight loss did not give me droopy skin/muscle tone on my face but actually accentuated my bone structure a little more...a more defined jaw line..if you will.

    Everyone is different and weight loss affects everyone is a different way. I dont think you have to choose between your face and your body. Just take it slow so your skin has time to catch up..and keep hydrated.

    Good luck to you!
  • becky10rp
    becky10rp Posts: 573 Member
    Stay out of the sun, use sunscreen. I'm 50 - met my goal - very happy with both the face and the body.
  • emdeesea
    emdeesea Posts: 1,823 Member
    I'll be 45 this year and I've noticed the sag in my face.

    Oh well, that's fine. Because I feel good and I have more energy than I've ever had.

    I've stopped coloring my hair, too. I'll just go gray. Coloring is too expensive anyway.

  • __leis__
    __leis__ Posts: 100 Member
    Talk to a dermatologist, there are so many fillers, lasers, skin tightening options out there. You're bound to find something that works for you. Choose health because that's something you can control, seek help from a dr. for the things you cant.
  • iammeinnh
    iammeinnh Posts: 72 Member
    I'm 49 and I choose to be healthy. People always say that I don't look 49, and that's nice. But, I don't want to FEEL 49, and older. If you are worried about your skin, complexion, etc. then get a good skin care regimen, get a facial (love facials) and drink lots of water. You will have a healthy glow.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    It's all genetics. But yes I've read more than once that some women decided to stay a bit overweight just so their face would look good. It just depends on where your body likes storing fat.

    Heck I'm 38 and my neck is already a disaster.
  • capaul42
    capaul42 Posts: 1,390 Member
    I am 41 and my face looks way better since I lost 27 pounds. (if I do say so myself ;) )

    Same here with a loss currently of 37lbs.
  • robininfl
    robininfl Posts: 1,137 Member
    My mom had chubby cheeks when young and then hollow cheeks as an adult - I am not sure when it happened but I was always convinced that one day I would get out of bed and my face would have collapsed.

    I'm 48 and it hasn't happened yet. Mind you, I have used night cream since my twenties and pretty much have never washed my face without applying moisturizer, and I live in a hot humid climate, I think all of those things help. I do take some sun, but not much.

    I'm thinking that the menopause may be the pivot for me, though. I'm pretty happy with my health and looks now, and wasn't when I was young so thus far it's been a slow upward trend, but I do fear the menopause.
  • wisdomfromyou
    wisdomfromyou Posts: 198 Member
    Thank you all - your direction does help.

    My goal us is lose no more than 16 lbs at this point. I'm 176... Need to go to 159 and then done. That would put me right at the 24.9 BMI. Maintenance will be key from that point on. Last year I had reached 8 lbs less than my goal now but I don't want to go back there.

    A BMI of 24.9, more muscle, fewer "downs" induced by health scares ( I suffer from major health anxiety) ...and maybe some fillers - and that should hopefully do the job. :)

    All of you 40+ here look beautiful. Thank you again!

  • robininfl
    robininfl Posts: 1,137 Member
    I should note, I also quite like the Jack LaLane "face exercises". I know face muscles aren't a replacement for skin bounce but it can't hurt, is good for lymph movement and building at least some cushion in there. I feel silly as heck doing them but think it helps. Google 'em.
  • Nachise
    Nachise Posts: 395 Member
    I will be 65 next week, and my face looks great after losing 61 pounds. There is a tiny bit of droop along the jawline, but nothing like it was when I had the extra weight.
  • iammeinnh
    iammeinnh Posts: 72 Member
    kkmsann <3 What a lovely post.
  • trusty48
    trusty48 Posts: 75 Member
    edited June 2016

    Remember that health is the root of all beauty- both in mind, body and spirit.

    (On a practical note, I noticed some sagginess when I lost weight initially too (mostly on my thighs/derrière) but after a year of maintaining this has mostly gone away. You may find that your sagginess improves slowly over time too.

    Finally, I use retin-A on my face, which I started in my 20s because of bad acne but now I use for anti-aging. This may be something you want to try. I've also started taking Biosil which is supposed to be good for both skin and bone density.

    Hope this helps :smile: )
  • MostlyWater
    MostlyWater Posts: 4,294 Member
    Well, yes and no. We're all different.
  • Heartisalonelyhunter
    Heartisalonelyhunter Posts: 786 Member
    edited June 2016
    trusty48 wrote: »
    Remember that health is the root of all beauty- both in mind, body and spirit.

    (On a practical note, I noticed some sagginess when I lost weight initially too (mostly on my thighs/derrière) but after a year of maintaining this has mostly gone away. You may find that your sagginess improves slowly over time too.

    Finally, I use retin-A on my face, which I started in my 20s because of bad acne but now I use for anti-aging. This may be something you want to try. I've also started taking Biosil which is supposed to be good for both skin and bone density.

    Hope this helps :smile: )

    Do you think Biosil is worth the $?
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