Divorced Hangout
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As a friend once said, "at least you got your starter marriage out of the way."
Married my first girlfriend. Found out she started a 4 month affair shortly after we were married. Completely blindsided. That's life, what can you do but pick yourself back up from there.3 -
As a friend once said, "at least you got your starter marriage out of the way."
Married my first girlfriend. Found out she started a 4 month affair shortly after we were married. Completely blindsided. That's life, what can you do but pick yourself back up from there.
Wow that's terrible! I like your positive attitude! I need to find some of that!0 -
amcalmond768 wrote: »As a friend once said, "at least you got your starter marriage out of the way."
Married my first girlfriend. Found out she started a 4 month affair shortly after we were married. Completely blindsided. That's life, what can you do but pick yourself back up from there.
Wow that's terrible! I like your positive attitude! I need to find some of that!
Thanks
I just went back and read the thread again. Stay strong amcalmond, I'm rooting for ya! Whatever happens, never let someone else let you down. You're in control of your life, that's the only one you have, not anyone else - not even the people closest to you.
Same goes for all you other survivors that are going through tough times, be strong.2 -
amcalmond768 wrote: »Been married 7 years ... It's been spiraling out of control for a while but the last couple of months have been bad. Last week I found out he has been lying to me about some serious issues. He Walked out on me 2 weeks ago.
I'm so sorry.
Regardless of what goes bad in a marriage it is always a terribly painful thing to go through.
Wishing the best for you.
Thanks so much. I think I am more angry then hurt!1 -
amcalmond768 wrote: »As a friend once said, "at least you got your starter marriage out of the way."
Married my first girlfriend. Found out she started a 4 month affair shortly after we were married. Completely blindsided. That's life, what can you do but pick yourself back up from there.
Wow that's terrible! I like your positive attitude! I need to find some of that!
Thanks
I just went back and read the thread again. Stay strong amcalmond, I'm rooting for ya! Whatever happens, never let someone else let you down. You're in control of your life, that's the only one you have, not anyone else - not even the people closest to you.
Same goes for all you other survivors that are going through tough times, be strong.
Yeah there is no giving in this time. Somethings you just can't recover from. This will make me much stronger in the end!2 -
I'm in. First time I was very young (21) and obviously stupid, married for 2 years to a control freak. Counseling made it clear to cut and run.
Second was the rebound guy from the first round, married him after a long test drive, should have walked out the door instead of down the aisle because he had substance abuse and honesty issues, so I tell folks I was just stupid that time (since 30 was no longer young)
Third time I picked wisely, but sadly he turned out to be the stupid one. After a six year roller coaster dating ride, I married him and we were married for 18 years. . . and then he had a mid life crisis affair and left me and his daughter for the girlfriend.
So I've been happily single for 4 years, and hang out in the Singles Hangout thread.
To all of you going through this for whatever number of times, hang in there, it does get better with time.2 -
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littlemissbgiff wrote: »@Drawoc I'm a firm believer in kids would rather be from a broken home than in one. Finally pulled the trigger on my divorce close to 5 years now. It was hard at first but all 3 of my kids are thriving now. Worth it!
Definitely, I agree, glad to hear things are going well! Sounds like it was a hard choice, but the correct one.
Congrats on the weight loss as well! Not everyone can do that. That is awesome
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Married lurker here. Married now 47 years BUT I did go to see a divorce lawyer once on my own about 16 years ago. He explained all the financial aspects and I decided the "other woman" I was seeing wan't worth it LoL.
A friend who had been divorced twice reassured me I would be back on my feet financially in two or three years. Decided to stay with the devil I knew.
No regrets (but the affair sex was great)0 -
I'm recently separated. Whoooo! Lol. It's definitely financially and emotionally draining. Hoping divorce finalizes by Christmas.
I went on 1 date Friday and he was just ok. Not a bad guy, kind of boring, but super sweet. Went on 2 dates Saturday, date 1 was pretty bad, date 2 was hot! But definitely could be more stable. I have 2 kids and none of them have kids. Which is kind of a red flag as I can't have anymore kids (tubal ligation).
It was hard to pull the plug, but I own a home & ex has a house. I have our 2 kids M-F & he has them every weekend. Surprisingly, the kids seem much happier as ex and I get along fine and coparent great. I can't wait to see how we'll be a year out from our divorce.5 -
Divorced 11 years ago. I got married young. It was a bad idea. My BF and I recently broke up. A little over a month ago. It's really difficult to move on.0
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Thank you. I keep plugging away.
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Divorce is very difficult and soul crushing. As well as the new loves and breakups that come after. But, personally, I'm the happiest I've ever been!
Name 1 thing that's better now that you're divorced?
Mine is I can cook whatever I want for my kids and I.3 -
Been separated for a year, never been so lonely and had to fight to see my kids!!!3
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Geeky_and_Cheeky wrote: »
Name 1 thing that's better now that you're divorced?
No more dirty looks and silent treatments. For "crimes" I didn't even commit. It was not my fault that he was so freaking miserable and would not do anything about it.4 -
Geeky_and_Cheeky wrote: »Divorce is very difficult and soul crushing. As well as the new loves and breakups that come after. But, personally, I'm the happiest I've ever been!
Name 1 thing that's better now that you're divorced?
Mine is I can cook whatever I want for my kids and I.
There are lots of things,
I enjoy choosing for myself,
it's nice to hear my own opinion once in a while instead of just his.
It's all whatever I want now.
That sounds super but after 35yrs,
It's difficult sometimes.
For me, being over 50 and divorced is no fun at all.
You go girl and have as much fun as you possibly can.
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ArmyMedic2016 wrote: »Been separated for a year, never been so lonely and had to fight to see my kids!!!
Hang in there, that blows0 -
ArmyMedic2016 wrote: »Been separated for a year, never been so lonely and had to fight to see my kids!!!
Sorry to hear this. I was more lonely when I was married than I am now.2 -
ArmyMedic2016 wrote: »Been separated for a year, never been so lonely and had to fight to see my kids!!!
So sorry you're lonely -- I hope for better days for you (it does get better).0 -
KevinPsalm23v4 wrote: »Going through one, survived one (or two or three) or even thinking about one.
I am going through one...and believing I am gonna be okay...that was my choice and I am much better off already!2 -
I'm utterly heartbroken, separated a week.3
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Just went through my second one. Married 23 years. 10 years longer than I should have.1
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Geeky_and_Cheeky wrote: »Divorce is very difficult and soul crushing. As well as the new loves and breakups that come after. But, personally, I'm the happiest I've ever been!
Name 1 thing that's better now that you're divorced?
Mine is I can cook whatever I want for my kids and I.
There are lots of things,
I enjoy choosing for myself,
it's nice to hear my own opinion once in a while instead of just his.
It's all whatever I want now.
That sounds super but after 35yrs,
It's difficult sometimes.
For me, being over 50 and divorced is no fun at all.
You go girl and have as much fun as you possibly can.
You got married when you were 15?
Ooops didn't read that correctly. I just noticed you said "over 50" Never mind.0 -
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@J_Surita3
We married at 19, I'm 55.
I got married young as well. I was barely 21. Would have celebrated 27 years next month, but I'm getting divorced so I'll celebrate that instead.2
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