Derailing

kayybot21

Hello all!
My name is Kayla and I am 22 years old. I am finally getting some things together in my life and I want more than ever to get my diet under control so I can lose weight and feel better. I am 100lbs over weight and I have been heavy my whole life. I am at a point where my appetite is starting to change for some reason. I dont like eating until I am so full it hurts, I dont like a lot of the greasy savory foods like I did before. I am finally starting to really notice after a lifetime of them that they are making me SICK. Through the course of this year, I have lost 30lbs. I get so pumped to get started and then I do really well for awhile and then anxiety sets in and the pressure of how much I have to lose and all the things I read on the internet about how you have to eat this and that and not this or you will fail and deadlift like crazy and blah blah really mess with my self esteem. It makes me really compare myself to others and what they are doing and how fast they lost weight and so on. That regimen is great for some people but not me. I need to get out of this mind set that I am a huge failure everytime I eat or drink something that isnt classified as healthy. I am too hard on myself and I really just end up destroying my motivation and will power and retreat back to my old ways after awhile. How can I get through? I want a better lifestyle. I want to feel better and be able to get out and do more things. How do I get myself into a different mindset that allows me to live but lose weight and be healthier? How do I figure out what works best for me and actually stick to it and make it a lifestyle and not a passing diet? How do I keep myself from self destructing under the pressure?

queenliz99

Hi Kayla. You could just track what you eat everyday and see if you can make small changes the following week.

Get a food scale and start weighing everything solid, this will get you good at eyeballing.

Read this

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/categories/getting-started

Best wishes!

belleflop

"Healthy" is subjective. It's how much you eat that determines weight loss or gain, not what you eat. Start with qurnnliz99's suggestions and go from there.

kayybot21

Thank you so much. From the mental aspect of dieting though, how to I keep myself on track so that it forms a habit that forms into a lifestyle?

JoenDeb1958

kayybot21 wrote: »

Thank you so much. From the mental aspect of dieting though, how to I keep myself on track so that it forms a habit that forms into a lifestyle?

Time and repetition. An old say is "if you do something for 30dys it becomes a habit".
I am living proof, who would of thunk I would like exercising...didn't think I would get hang of this app either n look at me now....

AmandaHugginkiss

Track your food, and take everything one day at a time, one week at a time. Don't say "I need to lose x pounds." Say "my goal is to lose 3 pounds this month." Or whatever a short term goal you have is. No food will derail you. No specific exercise is mandatory.

You've lost a good bit of weight. Be proud of your efforts. Don't focus too much past the next immediate step in your long term goals.

druidkat7

Hi, Kayybot! Weighing food out can be helpful. It helped me when I had a food job at a local casino because we were portioning out our french fries and cheesy potato bites and onion rings. I'd kind of like to get back to that, actually. But aside from that, I would really love to chat/message with you rather than just sticking to the message boards, because I completely understand about wanting to keep on track, and I like to think I can help you long-term by being, at the very least, a source of support and motivation.

You want to know how to keep yourself on track so that the things you do turn into habits that simply become a second-nature way of life to you. As they say, a "new normal." ;-) It is very difficult, if not impossible, to do everything perfectly at once. It's a bit like writing a story.

Currently, your story is that you have found that eating certain foods make you feel ill, and that you don't like eating till you are so full that it hurts. You say you have lost 30 lbs through the course of the year. You want to make certain good habits a lifestyle, and that all the conflicting information tends to make you compare yourself to others and beat up on yourself to the point of derailing.

Consider this your "rough draft," your framework of how you want to write your personal fitness lifestyle story. Again, you are not going to be able to write your story and have it be perfect, start-to-finish, in one go. That's why places like MFP exist. Because it is a journey. Because it will take certain tweaks to your story to get your story the way you want it. And if something external comes up that you can't control? Just think of it as a "plot twist." ;-)

But, I can tell you came for the concrete ideas, so here are a couple tips to get you started on sorting out the information that's out there and to get you on the path of writing a successful fitness lifestyle story:

1) Take some time out of your day to look at the information you find overwhelming from the objective viewpoint of "Is this idea healthy?" and/or "I find this idea interesting, so let's try this for a month or three." It *is* true that you will find conflicting information, and a good portion of that information is partly marketing, lobbying and sales, and part of it is just lack of further scientific study. And even the scientific studies are conflicting, which means some of those studies really aren't all that rigorously scientific. :-) Yes, I know, the mere thought of it can be a bit stressful. Which is why you need to do your own thinking, your own investigation. Use your intellect combined with your intuition to sniff out what will ultimately be useful to your own body.

2) Use a food journal not just for recording what you eat, but as a record of the ideas you try. I know, the idea of a food journal can be a bit of a turnoff. However, doing things from the scientific method point of view can actually be quite fascinating, especially when you think about the body as a walking chemistry set, and that a particular action, done over time, will yield a particular result. If you have a hypothesis (based on your intuition) about what ideas will work for you, write them down in your journal, and take at least three months to test them out. I say "three" because it's a nice cushion of observable time during which you can observe the results of the ideas you test. Some might be immediate, though, in the instance of when I tried diet drinks. Aspartame (aka "Acesulfame potassium") and sucralose? Yuck! No artificial crap for me. ;-)

I know I wrote a lot for two tips, but the associated ideas were too related to break them down into separate "items." Anyway, I will go ahead and send a friend request, because I would like to help you further.

Blessings,
Kat ^.^

kayybot21

Thank you so much everyone for sharing words of wisdom with me. It is even comforting sometimes just to know that someone else out there has gone through what I am going through and made it. Made it through and achieved their goals. That is so awesome and I hope to stay on track and achieve more of my own goals. Please, if anyone would like to add me on snapchat, please do. I have been snapping workouts, food, and ideas anyway, why not share with others? (:

kayybot21

Snapchat is kaysteph21

katie22mfp

I will support you to get there!