Ladies... how short is too short?

therainandthunder

I don't care much. I am 5'2". Tall guys would probably have a problem with MY height, haha.

tehboxingkitteh

Before I started dating my husband I liked a guy who was a bit shorter than me (I'm 5'6"). I didn't date him but only because he never asked me out. If he had, I definitely would have said yes. Height isn't a deal breaker for me. If I were single, my criteria would probably be more along the lines of how much a guy could lift than how tall he was. :laugh:

There's a trainer at my gym who is about 5'4" and can deadlift aver 400lbs. Yums.

I hear short men are better in bed too....

I've had a few that were quite fun in bed

BunnieMommie

I'm a shorty, 5'2", so I prefer a guy to be tall enough that when I wear heels, I'm not taller than him. Luckily I married my hubby who's 6'1" and I don't have to worry about that any more! LOL!

vicky_b329

Like most of the ladies on here, I prefer someone 6'+. Honestly, the taller, the better. 6'4", 6'5"? Perfect.
But as for where I draw the line, I dated someone 5'9", and I think that's as short as I'm willing to go. I'm 5'7", and I need my man to be taller than I am.

swagoner94

you gotta be a at least close to 6'!

BusyRaeNOTBusty

But why is it okay to discriminate against short men? It's not like they did anything to become short, or they can do anything to fix it? WHY do men "have" to be taller than women in relationships? How would we feel if most men said "I won't date any women with a food bigger than a size 8"?

TeachTheGirl

That dwarf beard. PHWOAR.

bbbgamer

I go 6" up and 6" down... take that however you like

dang... guess I am out too...

plantgrrl

5'8" I guess, but I'm not that picky. Husband is 5'11"--but I've dated shorter then that and taller. It really just depends on the guy. If they have a complex about there height, one way or the other, I wouldn't go for them. All about the attitude.

wellsdavid20

Women treat men just like accessories they own , like a purse or the shoes they wear. Just someone to show off to their girl friends.

amandapye78

My rule is that they have to be taller than me with 2 inch heels on ( I should also be the only one wearing heels)

skcardiog

Quote - I think 6' is a good height.

Whew, made it by 3" .

latessajohn

Those are the ones you don't want, if they'll automatically disqualify you for not being a certain height.

onedayatatime12

three to four inches taller than me would be great. I'm 5'8" and I don't like wearing heels anyways, so even if he's just an inch taller it should be fine ;P

LizaDK914

I'm 5'2", so pretty much everyone is taller than me... I prefer them not to be too tall though, no cricks in the neck when kissing, their face is inmine when we are snuggling, instead of his chest... But I do like them taller than me... Am I too picky? lol

No, I'm exactly the same!! Except, I'm just actually kinda freaked out by super tall guys - for dating purposes. My hubby is a perfect 5'6" to my 5'2". Taller than 5'8" actually makes me uncomfortable.

BusyRaeNOTBusty

But why is it okay to discriminate against short men? It's not like they did anything to become short, or they can do anything to fix it? WHY do men "have" to be taller than women in relationships? How would we feel if most men said "I won't date any women with a food bigger than a size 8"?

People are allowed to have preferences about appearance when it comes to who they would/would not date. People can't help what they're attracted to, and not everyone has to be attracted to everyone else. I personally prefer taller guys (usually) cause it makes me feel delicate and feminine when we walk together, hug, etc. and I often feel giant and cumbersome around shorter guys. So what? I also like guys who are fit, not balding, darkish skin, don't have hair on their back, have a nice smile...

Some guys totally blow me away and they don't fit my "ideal" image at all, but who's to say I should or should not be attracted to one thing or another?

Preferences are one thing. Flat out saying "no one under 6'" is totally different.

wellsdavid20

My rule is that they have to be taller than me with 2 inch heels on ( I should also be the only one wearing heels)

What if they are wearing those heightening adding shoes?

JTick

But why is it okay to discriminate against short men? It's not like they did anything to become short, or they can do anything to fix it? WHY do men "have" to be taller than women in relationships? How would we feel if most men said "I won't date any women with a food bigger than a size 8"?

People are allowed to have preferences about appearance when it comes to who they would/would not date. People can't help what they're attracted to, and not everyone has to be attracted to everyone else. I personally prefer taller guys (usually) cause it makes me feel delicate and feminine when we walk together, hug, etc. and I often feel giant and cumbersome around shorter guys. So what? I also like guys who are fit, not balding, darkish skin, don't have hair on their back, have a nice smile...

Some guys totally blow me away and they don't fit my "ideal" image at all, but who's to say I should or should not be attracted to one thing or another?

Preferences are one thing. Flat out saying "no one under 6'" is totally different.

Is it any different than someone saying they don't date bigger girls/guys? I know up front that it's a massive turnoff for me when a guy is shorter than me (which isn't often as I'm only 5'3"). I've known several guys who were funny and sweet and short, and they have turned into good friends but I'm just not physically attracted to them.

wellsdavid20

But why is it okay to discriminate against short men? It's not like they did anything to become short, or they can do anything to fix it? WHY do men "have" to be taller than women in relationships? How would we feel if most men said "I won't date any women with a food bigger than a size 8"?

People are allowed to have preferences about appearance when it comes to who they would/would not date. People can't help what they're attracted to, and not everyone has to be attracted to everyone else. I personally prefer taller guys (usually) cause it makes me feel delicate and feminine when we walk together, hug, etc. and I often feel giant and cumbersome around shorter guys. So what? I also like guys who are fit, not balding, darkish skin, don't have hair on their back, have a nice smile...

Some guys totally blow me away and they don't fit my "ideal" image at all, but who's to say I should or should not be attracted to one thing or another?

Preferences are one thing. Flat out saying "no one under 6'" is totally different.

Is it any different than someone saying they don't date bigger girls/guys? I know up front that it's a massive turnoff for me when a guy is shorter than me (which isn't often as I'm only 5'3"). I've known several guys who were funny and sweet and short, and they have turned into good friends but I'm just not physically attracted to them.

Bigger girls and guys can also lose weight which is evident by this site. I always found it strange when women would bring this up as i don't see them being equal.

JTick

But why is it okay to discriminate against short men? It's not like they did anything to become short, or they can do anything to fix it? WHY do men "have" to be taller than women in relationships? How would we feel if most men said "I won't date any women with a food bigger than a size 8"?

People are allowed to have preferences about appearance when it comes to who they would/would not date. People can't help what they're attracted to, and not everyone has to be attracted to everyone else. I personally prefer taller guys (usually) cause it makes me feel delicate and feminine when we walk together, hug, etc. and I often feel giant and cumbersome around shorter guys. So what? I also like guys who are fit, not balding, darkish skin, don't have hair on their back, have a nice smile...

Some guys totally blow me away and they don't fit my "ideal" image at all, but who's to say I should or should not be attracted to one thing or another?

Preferences are one thing. Flat out saying "no one under 6'" is totally different.

Is it any different than someone saying they don't date bigger girls/guys? I know up front that it's a massive turnoff for me when a guy is shorter than me (which isn't often as I'm only 5'3"). I've known several guys who were funny and sweet and short, and they have turned into good friends but I'm just not physically attracted to them.

Bigger girls and guys can also lose weight which is evident by this site. I always found it strange when women would bring this up as i don't see them being equal.

True, but would you enter into the relationship knowing that you would only be attracted to that person if they lost weight? What if you decided to date/marry them, and they never lost weight? I know height and weight are two different ideas, but I think it's along the same line. I am attracted to a man that appears big and strong...it makes me feel safe, protected, and feminine. That is how *I* feel, obviously not everyone is the same. I would have a hard time in a relationship with someone shorter than me as I would feel like ginormo woman who had to protect my man.

Beleg

My wife is 5'2 and I am 6'2 I am the shortest guy she ever dated.

BusyRaeNOTBusty

So lets say you have a friend at work. He's smart, funny, handsome, strong, super cut, etc. You start hanging out, texting, etc. You realize you have a crush on him. He's 5'5". Are you really not going to date him because he doesn't make you feel feminine enough?

Where did this notion come from that we have to be small (or smaller) to be feminine? Yes, most men are bigger than most women. But what about those who aren't "average"? Are we too feel masculine because we are tall women? Or non-masculine because we are short men? Just because a man isn't tall doesn't mean he can't protect me. Pretty sure 5'4", 400lb dead-lifter dude from my gym could protect me. I don't live in a society where i need to be "protected" anyway. This isn't the stone age. I'm in no danger of being clubbed over the head and dragged off.

The main reasons I'm so against this thinking is because I used to feel this way. I used to feel huge and non-feminine (and really I'm not that big). Young women don't need this kind of self hate, neither do short men. My husband is the same height and weight as me. He was not my type at all when I was 21 when we met. Had I decided not to date him I would have missed out on the last 11 years we've had and our 3 children. I had never come even close to the emotional and intellectual connection I've felt with him. What if I had missed it because he was "too short"?

JTick

So lets say you have a friend at work. He's smart, funny, handsome, strong, super cut, etc. You start hanging out, texting, etc. You realize you have a crush on him. He's 5'5". Are you really not going to date him because he doesn't make you feel feminine enough?

Where did this notion come from that we have to be small (or smaller) to be feminine? Yes, most men are bigger than most women. But what about those who aren't "average"? Are we too feel masculine because we are tall women? Or non-masculine because we are short men? Just because a man isn't tall doesn't mean he can't protect me. Pretty sure 5'4", 400lb dead-lifter dude from my gym could protect me. I don't live in a society where i need to be "protected" anyway. This isn't the stone age. I'm in no danger of being clubbed over the head and dragged off.

The main reasons I'm so against this thinking is because I used to feel this way. I used to feel huge and non-feminine (and really I'm not that big). Young women don't need this kind of self hate, neither do short men. My husband is the same height and weight as me. He was not my type at all when I was 21 when we met. Had I decided not to date him I would have missed out on the last 11 years we've had and our 3 children. I had never come even close to the emotional and intellectual connection I've felt with him. What if I had missed it because he was "too short"?

I'm not telling you how to feel about anything. I'm sharing how I feel...and I'm allowed to have my feelings just as you have yours. If *I* feel more feminine next to a tall man, then I'm allowed. If this is something that doesn't bother you, you're allowed to feel that way. I don't feel this way because of societal pressure, I feel this way just because, and I'm allowed to. I've been turned down PLENTY of times because I'm still too heavy for some men to consider dating. I don't let it bother me...they are allowed to have their preferences too!

usernameMAMA

Peter Dinklage is a hottie! He went to the same college as me too, so that makes me partial (it was a world all to itself). Oh, and I just saw that he was also born in the same place as my husband, wow...funny coincidence.

Agreed! There is something incredibly attractive about him...

Fithealthyforlife

Now what about guys?

Say I'm 5'9, which is average for guys (there are a lot of guys both taller and shorter than this)...

Now, let's say I do an online dating site. Say I find a girl and really like her profile because I think she's pretty and she has a lot of the same interests as me (which is rare). BUT let's say she says on there that she doesn't date guys under 6'0.

Now, I could either say, "the heck with it...she's going to miss out on me; I don't even want to bother because I know she doens't appreciate someone 3 inches under her preference. It's going to be a waste both her and my time to contact her".

Or...I could say, "You know...maybe I should message her regardless. Worst case, she says no, but maybe she will be able to look past the fact that I'm 3 inches shorter than her preference."

The second option sounds like the better one to me.

And then if I do message her, I could either not mention the height difference and just talk about how we have similar interests, or I could tell her honestly that I think it's baloney and I really don't care what she thinks in regard to men's heights. I would guess that the latter sort of mesage would not be met with a response form her, while the former might...

Fithealthyforlife

Peter Dinklage is a hottie! He went to the same college as me too, so that makes me partial (it was a world all to itself). Oh, and I just saw that he was also born in the same place as my husband, wow...funny coincidence.

Agreed! There is something incredibly attractive about him...

I'm not saying there's not something attractive about the guy, as I've never heard of him...but I looked him up...I do think sometimes, that once someone is *that* short, the normal perceptions might no longer hold. In other words there may be women who rather date or marry someone like him who is 4'5 than a "normal short" guy of 5'4 or so. The other thing is, if he has tall parents, because of the way genes are inherited for short stature/dwarfism, his kids, if not affected, could actually be taller than those of a guy who is 5'4 (assuming the same mother). Some people care about their kids' height/race, etc, even if they don't care about their partner's. Unfortunately, the two tend to be related! it's like, if guy who is 5'9 follows the conventional rules and marries a woman who is 6 inches shorter, there's a good chance of having short kids. Now if a guy of the same height marries a woman who is 5'7, they could easily have a son over 6 feet as part of the normal distribution.

Booksandbeaches

I don't want someone who is exactly my height or shorter. I'm not particularly tall, so most men I've dated have been taller than me. The tallest man I dated was 6'4". My preference is 6ft tall and lucky for me my husband is that tall.

BetsyThomas

i can go about 5 '8 i'm 5 '3 my husband is 6'2

nblais06

Need to be my height or taller. Im 5'8