how do you feel about contructive criticism ...

grdaze
grdaze Posts: 195 Member
in Motivation and Support
... from your MFP friends? How about from IRL people?

Just curious.
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  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    It is essential to growth and development in any aspect of life. Most people who are adverse to it tend to not really go that far....
  • thesupremeforce
    thesupremeforce Posts: 1,206 Member
    I'm cool with constructive criticism. Unfortunately, most criticism doesn't prove as constructive as one might claim.
  • garber6th
    garber6th Posts: 1,890 Member
    I'm cool with constructive criticism. Unfortunately, most criticism doesn't prove as constructive as one might claim.

    ^^ This. Also, I have noticed that some people who give constructive criticism are in no position to do so. For example, my coworker told me if I wanted to lose weight, I shouldn't be eating whatever it was that I was eating at the time, that it wasn't good for me. This coming from the guy who lost 35 lbs eating lean cuisine 3 times a day then gained it all back.

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  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    I find most people claim to want help/constructive criticism but actually want people to back up and support whatever crazy crap they're doing.
  • quirkytizzy
    quirkytizzy Posts: 4,052 Member
    In general, if I want constructive criticism, I'll ask. I don't much like being told what's a problem and what's not until **I** decide it is. If I can't figure it out by reading stuff here and seeing what other people do, I'll ask. Otherwise, let me figure it out on my own.

    Or else I'll snap and throw a Pop Tart at them.
  • LorinaLynn
    LorinaLynn Posts: 13,247 Member
    In general, if I want constructive criticism, I'll ask. I don't much like being told what's a problem and what's not until **I** decide it is. If I can't figure it out by reading stuff here and seeing what other people do, I'll ask. Otherwise, let me figure it out on my own.

    Or else I'll snap and throw a Pop Tart at them.

    Yeah, that. If I want advice, I'll ask.

    I don't often ask. :laugh:
  • Buddhasmiracle
    Buddhasmiracle Posts: 925 Member
    I find most people claim to want help/constructive criticism but actually want people to back up and support whatever crazy crap they're doing.

    Good observation-- I've seen this more in the forum threads than among my MFP or personal friends.
  • clarkeje1
    clarkeje1 Posts: 1,641 Member
    We need constructive criticism to help us learn and grow on our fitness journey. Even though sometimes I get pissed off when someone calls me out, I need it to help make me better. But I would rather get criticism from people on MFP than in real life. I feel like thats what fitness pals are there for but people in real life can mind their own business unless I ask them for advice.
  • Lady_Bane
    Lady_Bane Posts: 720 Member
    Rarely is the criticism I get constructive.....so I take it well if it is, but I am, however, harsh against those who criticize me when it is not. Like people that tell me I am getting too muscular....it is none of your damn business and I didnt ask you in the first place. But if someone says they think I may benefit from changing a certain type of food I eat (like not eating so much pure protein bars bc of the sugar alcohol bc it makes me gassy), or that my form is a little off...thats different.
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    I rage quit every time my MFP friends give me constructive criticism. I don't want it. I want them all to agree with my perfection. I am awesome and I know it.

    Or...not really. I need people to criticize me sometimes in order to get me moving so I appreciate it...even if I didn't ask for it.
  • kindasortachewy
    kindasortachewy Posts: 1,084 Member
    People are welcome to give their opinons as long as they are aware I wil most likely not take them
  • BeachGingerOnTheRocks
    BeachGingerOnTheRocks Posts: 3,927 Member
    It depends.

    Am I doing something that is harmful or potentially dangerous to my health? Constructive criticism

    My food diary includes pizza and ice cream on a day I hit my macros and micros within my calorie goals? MYOB

    I'm wearing a shirt that shows my bra and looks appallingly bad with my complexion? Constructive criticism.

    I don't do the exercises you think I should/not enough cardio/too much cardio? MYOB

    If I have asked for input, it's all good, but if I haven't and it is unsolicited, I tend to either ignore it or mock it.
  • BeachIron
    BeachIron Posts: 6,490 Member
    There are a handful of people I would accept unsolicited advice from because they have more experience and more education in areas in which I need assistance. A handful.

    Otherwise, if I need help then I'll ask for it but that is very rare. Self directed reading works wonders.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    Depends on who it is from. I have had a friend message me telling me that they were concerned with my diary because it was full of fast food, regardless of being under my daily goal. It was during a time that I was out of town working constantly.
  • El_Cunado
    El_Cunado Posts: 359 Member
    I don't mind it, but I don't give it unless I'm asked.
  • Zaniejane
    Zaniejane Posts: 329 Member
    What is your definition of constructive?
  • CrankMeUp
    CrankMeUp Posts: 2,860 Member
    Doesnt matter to me. I take what i need from it if it is helpful.
  • Factory_Reset
    Factory_Reset Posts: 1,651 Member
    Meh. I'm alright with it. Takes a lot to make me upset.
  • grdaze
    grdaze Posts: 195 Member
    What is your definition of constructive?

    A valid and reasonable concern or suggestion to improve or guide someone in a slightly (or sometimes not so slightly) altered path.
  • glin23
    glin23 Posts: 460 Member

    A valid and reasonable concern or suggestion to improve or guide someone in a slightly (or sometimes not so slightly) altered path.

    Your definition works for me, but unfortunately, it's a very fine line between constructive criticism ad being mean.
  • Dunkirk
    Dunkirk Posts: 465 Member
    Is a suggestion the same as constructive criticism?
  • glin23
    glin23 Posts: 460 Member
    Is a suggestion the same as constructive criticism?

    It can be, but in reality, atleast in my experience a lot hangs on how it's presented, ie: the words used, tone of voice, posture, gestures, etc...
  • Kristine7813
    Kristine7813 Posts: 19
    As long as it is constructive, I am good.
    Even if it's not so constructive but it is well intentioned.. I can deal :)
  • heatherloveslifting
    heatherloveslifting Posts: 1,428 Member
    Dislike all criticism.
  • liftingheavy1
    liftingheavy1 Posts: 112
    everyone on MFP is a expert don't you know that :)
  • I_Will_Be_The_Swan
    I_Will_Be_The_Swan Posts: 132
    IDGAF if you think eating nothing but kale or Krabby Patties is the way to lose weight. If I don't ask for or need it, mind your own damned business.
  • lostdogg
    lostdogg Posts: 450 Member
    I have always worked in harsh environments with hateful ppl. Nothing has ever been taboo. I take criticism very well. Constructive or not. It's water off a ducks back to me.
    However, I don't criticize others. Whether I agree with what they're doing it not. Now, if they ask my opinion or if I think they are doing something that will hurt themselves or others, I speak up. That's not always criticism in my opinion.
  • VeinsAndBones
    VeinsAndBones Posts: 550 Member
    When its asked for it can be nice, or if it benefits me. But I don't care cause' I'm Caboose and I hate babies and feelings!!!!!!!
  • simplyciera
    simplyciera Posts: 168 Member
    Criticism is constructive based on your perception of it. If someone comes up to me & says, "Ciera, you look fat", I can either get insecure & feel like someone is out to get me, or I can say, "hmmm...am I off my game? Is this person pointing out that my body is changing in a negative way despite the way it was said?" I am not so sensitive that everything said without a smile or opposite of what I believe is an attack on who I am.

    Basically, people can say whatever they want. It's up to the me to choose how i receive it. But I'm not very sensitive to many things. My best friend says, "Don't ever ask me if you look fat in clothes. If you look fat, it's because you didn't buy it in the right size." I wholeheartedly agree with that level of realness.
  • alisonlynn1976
    alisonlynn1976 Posts: 929 Member
    I'm open to criticism when I've asked for advice. When I haven't asked for advice, I think people should mind their own business.

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