Introverts

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  • 888Butterfly888
    888Butterfly888 Posts: 3,203 Member
    cee134 wrote: »
    I find it easier to talk to people on the internet.

    Same.
  • initials1248
    initials1248 Posts: 429 Member
    Outside of work, i cant apply myself to a situation where i have to talk to people for fun, such as parties or concerts. You can tell im awkward around people just by looking at me
  • meredithgir199
    meredithgir199 Posts: 243 Member
    edited August 2016
    In real life, I'd definitely avoid conversation with you, not because I'm anti social though. Just extremely shy in striking up a conversation. Those that I feel comfortable with would say I'm very social.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    meredithgir199 wrote: »
    In real life, I'd definitely avoid conversation with you, not because I'm anti social though. Just extremely shy in striking up a conversation. Those that I feel comfortable with would say I'm very social.

    Lol I can turn into a chatterbox when I'm comfortable with someone. It just takes some time for me to get there - and it doesn't always happen either. There's only a couple people I can think of with whom it happened pretty much right away in the last years - which is actually kinda odd because we don't have much in common either. Then there's some people I've known for over 10 years that I still have a hard time hanging out with (some of my husband's family). Go figure.

    It doesn't help that English is not my native language - I mean, I speak it pretty well, considering that I didn't know a word of it until I was 12, but I have an accent, and I know that it's not always easy for some people to understand me for that reason... which doesn't really help when you have stranger anxiety.

    I didn't use to be that way though... I was pretty social actually but my divorce really messed me up.
  • anjulajj
    anjulajj Posts: 148 Member
    I love to keep to myself. I'm very quite around most people unless I know you extremely well. Hanging out at home is good enough for me.
  • sundogbbq
    sundogbbq Posts: 6 Member
    Introvert here. Lucy1771, spot on.
  • sundogbbq
    sundogbbq Posts: 6 Member
    "Sooooo...you want a group of negative people who don't post to each other, but sit in their own pissed off little worlds of angst and turmoil....

    Got it."

    lol Not even close. Thanks for the laugh though!



  • rebel_26
    rebel_26 Posts: 1,826 Member
    cklbrown wrote: »
    rebel_26 wrote: »
    Just jump into threads. Who cares what people think

    It's not always that easy. Some people here can be very quick to jump all over you if you post the "wrong" thing.
    Who is somebody to tell you what you posted is "wrong" ? Many people speak in falacies online. Some on purpose and some because they believe they are correct. The real essence of this site is geared towards getting fit . What's goes on in the forums has a lot of good things and a lot of joking and of course trolls. Pick whom you can align with and that is your inner circle . Don't "over share" . Ignore the haters. At the end of the day it's words on a screen. The sticks and stones rhyme comes to mind.
  • dragon_girl26
    dragon_girl26 Posts: 2,187 Member
    htimpaired wrote: »
    I'm introverted, but that's just how to I choose to recharge, it's not the reason I am awkward. THAT is because I am an anxious person. I am introverted because I like my alone time, I prefer smaller groups, and I get overstimulated by too much going on around me (like loud bars or parties). Give me my close friends and a board game, and I'm happy. Introvert does not equal negative.

    That's a good way of putting it. I'm an introvert because I like the piece and quiet of my own headspace sometimes. I don't always need constant excitement and conversation. If nothing else, that sends me running..
    I'm awkward because I'm a female mainframe programmer who works around other socially awkward mainframe programmers. We feed off of each other.
  • nicjbar73
    nicjbar73 Posts: 47 Member
    i would suggest picking friends by common goals. i also have found that i personally have to keep my friends list to 35-40 otherwise all of their feeds overwelhm me & cause anxiety. are ur goals losing,gaining or maintaining?
  • Howdoyoufeeltoday
    Howdoyoufeeltoday Posts: 481 Member
    Hello, I'm sarah and too much positivity scares me! O_o I enjoy, tv, books, and ignoring people's invitations to parties. :) feel free to add me..or not whatever! ✌️
  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    rebel_26 wrote: »
    Just jump into threads. Who cares what people think

    What he said, and Rebel....nice new status pic!
  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    initials1248 wrote: »
    rebel_26 wrote: »
    Just jump into threads. Who cares what people think

    Easy for some to say lol

    Hey look at you, being all social and stuff!! You're doin it, even when you think you aren't..lol!
  • born_of_fire74
    born_of_fire74 Posts: 776 Member
    edited August 2016
    I love that the extroverts come in here to "fix" the introverts by just telling us to be more social and outgoing. Sure, I'll get right on that as soon as you guys stop being so loud, pushy, condescending, smug and boorish, thinking everyone wants to know what you think all the time and telling others how to live. Maybe it's you extroverts that need fixing.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    I only know of one instance where a heated internet conversation caused one person to travel across the U.S. to burn down the house of the other person. I've lost count of the instances where a heated internet conversation caused one person to hunt and kill a nearby person. Introvert, extrovert, polite, or crude, just don't go too far with insulting.
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  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    born_of_fire74 wrote: »
    I love that the extroverts come in here to "fix" the introverts by just telling us to be more social and outgoing. Sure, I'll get right on that as soon as you guys stop being so loud, pushy, condescending, smug and boorish, thinking everyone wants to know what you think all the time and telling others how to live. Maybe it's you extroverts that need fixing.

    Who is trying to "fix" anyone? You are not very nice, for an introvert....
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  • dragon_girl26
    dragon_girl26 Posts: 2,187 Member
    born_of_fire74 wrote: »
    I love that the extroverts come in here to "fix" the introverts by just telling us to be more social and outgoing. Sure, I'll get right on that as soon as you guys stop being so loud, pushy, condescending, smug and boorish, thinking everyone wants to know what you think all the time and telling others how to live. Maybe it's you extroverts that need fixing.

    I never get that feeling from extroverts. If anything, I like having them around to carry the conversation so I don't have to..heh.
  • sunnybeaches105
    sunnybeaches105 Posts: 2,831 Member
    I'm naturally introverted and had to work hard as a younger man to make it through cocktail parties and the like. They're still not my favorite thing. I prefer time alone or with a couple of friends. My wife still laughs when I'm in a situation full of women who are all talking because I basically shut down. I just can't keep up with more than one conversation at a time.
  • shadowfax_c11
    shadowfax_c11 Posts: 1,942 Member
    I am very introverted. I spend most of my time alone.
    I am a natural leader. I am NOT antisocial or shy, don't have social anxiety or low self esteem(anymore). I don't hate positive people or any people. (actually I enjoy observing people), I don't chose to hang around negative people, because those people are not healthy to be around. And generally I don't find it too difficult to join a discussion IRL or on a public forum.

    Introverts come in lots of different personalities. They often do well in leadership positions, are hard workers, have plenty of friends, go to social events and parties, and can interact socially both in person and on the internet.

    The difference between an introvert and an extrovert is where they get their energy. Introverts need time alone to recharge after being in the world. Extroverts lose energy when they are alone to much.

    That's it.

    Susan Cain's books and TED talk are worth a look if you are introverted or are the friend of an introvert.
    http://www.ted.com/talks/susan_cain_the_power_of_introverts


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