Wanting to be physically attacted.....
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I can see how you should be selective...
You know you seem like the whole package, a real catch.
You can't even spell attracted.
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Good for you! Nothing wrong with that ... lol great post....to someone in order to date them romantically is NOT "superficial"! Dating people based SOLELY on their physical attraction, and not caring who they are..IS. I'm really tired of being called "superficial" because I dont' want to go out with a guy my dads age with a beer gut! Yes, I'm sure he's a nice fellow, awesome if he has a great job..good for him...but I am NOT going to let some guy I find physically unattractive put his penis in me. Yes, we all get old and ugly...but once you love someone you love them, and that is years away. I'm not going to try and force something that just isn't there. Why is it that nobody seems to have issue with guys who don't date fat/old/otherwise unattractive to them women..but when a woman wants a guy who's physically attractive we're "superficial"? Sorry, I want the package!0 -
I got "the package" as you call it, and I am not ashamed. My husband rocks! He's attractive inside AND out! There's no reason anyone has to settle for an either/or situation. Just because someone is physically attractive doesn't mean they are soulless and have a horrible personality. And just because someone is really nice, but maybe not your type physically, doesn't mean you have to have pity sex with them. Besides, what one person finds attractive, another won't. There's someone for everyone out there.0
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You know, when you're not stuck on looks, you find that people become attractive because of their traits. It's the little things-the way they laugh or small mannerisms or the way they treat you. That's what matters to me. I grow into my attraction, just like I grow into attachment or love.
It's not called "wanting the whole package". It's called not being shallow.
she's also not saying that the person she wants to date has to be the best looking person in the world, she just has to personally be attracted to them. There isn't anything wrong with that.0 -
:laugh: :drinker: It's so true. I'd have rather shriveled up old with my vibrator than settle for a loveless, passionless life. BUT luckily, I ended up with both (passion AND the vibrator).0
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How YOU doin', OP?0 -
this post saddens me,
being a nice guy is my only selling point
mfp needs to hurry up and get me a body to match
If being a "nice guy" is your only selling point, then I am afraid that you need more than just an improved physical appearance. Many women also like wit, humor, charm, confidence, and various other traits.
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Well from experience ..i kinda hate all the perfect/hot women their personality makes them look like snails in my eyes i would only have a good times with them an that's it nothing more ..maybe not all of them have bad personality but all the good looking women that i have been with were all ugly from the inside ...so i would Date/marry an average or less women with a good personality ..but that's just me .
yeah but how often are you really gonna look at their inside? what are you an OB/GYN? A radiologist?
Also unsure how being perfect/hot also makes them slow and leaving gooey trails, but yeah, carry on. You should write a dating book. And when you do you can tell how when you have a good times with them you can explain how hating all the perfect/hot women should NOT translate into them having a bad personality towards you. Cause just in case you didn't know perfect/hot women are equally as capable of detecting when they are being hated as the most ugly women in the world are. Mostly because they are NOT snails and thus still have eyes and can see the eyes of hatred staring back at them. That is unless you are trying to distract them with your wallet, huge clock, or "shiny".
I also feel bad for his future wife because he has already decided that she is going to be average or less in the looks department.
I echo the others in saying that it's not an either or. You can have your whole package and mutually feel that way about one another. I'm married, so I speak from reality.0 -
At my age of 51, I dont think a penis is going to help me lose weight..... lol ... Seriously though, If I was married, it wouldnt be any of anyones business what my hubbies penis looked like.
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You can't make a cake with flour alone. And you can make one without flour, but it tastes a helluva lot better with it.
no actually flourless cake tastes pretty good.
It does taste good!0 -
Yes, agree. There needs to be physical attraction, but that is not the most important thing. When you fall in love with someone, everything about them is attractive.0
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It's funny that in this thread women seem to be saying if you haven't got all three be honest and don't drag the guy along. Yet in the thread when a guy did exactly that thing to a woman many people called the guy unsavory names...0
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It's funny that in this thread women seem to be saying if you haven't got all three be honest and don't drag the guy along. Yet in the thread when a guy did exactly that thing to a woman many people called the guy unsavory names...
It's wrong to string anybody along. If I guy isn't into me I would rather he be honest. I"m a big girl and can handle rejection.0 -
Well from experience ..i kinda hate all the perfect/hot women their personality makes them look like snails in my eyes i would only have a good times with them an that's it nothing more ..maybe not all of them have bad personality but all the good looking women that i have been with were all ugly from the inside ...so i would Date/marry an average or less women with a good personality ..but that's just me .
yeah but how often are you really gonna look at their inside? what are you an OB/GYN? A radiologist?
Also unsure how being perfect/hot also makes them slow and leaving gooey trails, but yeah, carry on. You should write a dating book. And when you do you can tell how when you have a good times with them you can explain how hating all the perfect/hot women should NOT translate into them having a bad personality towards you. Cause just in case you didn't know perfect/hot women are equally as capable of detecting when they are being hated as the most ugly women in the world are. Mostly because they are NOT snails and thus still have eyes and can see the eyes of hatred staring back at them. That is unless you are trying to distract them with your wallet, huge clock, or "shiny".
Well u clearly didn't understand what i wrote there ..what i meant is simple if a women looks perfect but her personality is not good i wont be interested ..and if she is average or less but with a good personality i will be ( so i don't care about looks and i always go for the inside u don't have to believe that and well i don't blame u we live in shallow society ) . ..and i said now i hate them AFTER experience which means that i dated them i was nice with them but all i saw was shallowness and other stuff i don't want to go into details ..just clearing my point ..0 -
Well from experience ..i kinda hate all the perfect/hot women their personality makes them look like snails in my eyes i would only have a good times with them an that's it nothing more ..maybe not all of them have bad personality but all the good looking women that i have been with were all ugly from the inside ...so i would Date/marry an average or less women with a good personality ..but that's just me .
yeah but how often are you really gonna look at their inside? what are you an OB/GYN? A radiologist?
Also unsure how being perfect/hot also makes them slow and leaving gooey trails, but yeah, carry on. You should write a dating book. And when you do you can tell how when you have a good times with them you can explain how hating all the perfect/hot women should NOT translate into them having a bad personality towards you. Cause just in case you didn't know perfect/hot women are equally as capable of detecting when they are being hated as the most ugly women in the world are. Mostly because they are NOT snails and thus still have eyes and can see the eyes of hatred staring back at them. That is unless you are trying to distract them with your wallet, huge clock, or "shiny".
I also feel bad for his future wife because he has already decided that she is going to be average or less in the looks department.
I echo the others in saying that it's not an either or. You can have your whole package and mutually feel that way about one another. I'm married, so I speak from reality.
U also didn't get what i meant there simply .Screw the looks that's what i meant ..but why do u feel bad for people who are going to date/marry average girls ???? explain please0 -
Well from experience ..i kinda hate all the perfect/hot women their personality makes them look like snails in my eyes i would only have a good times with them an that's it nothing more ..maybe not all of them have bad personality but all the good looking women that i have been with were all ugly from the inside ...so i would Date/marry an average or less women with a good personality ..but that's just me .
yeah but how often are you really gonna look at their inside? what are you an OB/GYN? A radiologist?
Also unsure how being perfect/hot also makes them slow and leaving gooey trails, but yeah, carry on. You should write a dating book. And when you do you can tell how when you have a good times with them you can explain how hating all the perfect/hot women should NOT translate into them having a bad personality towards you. Cause just in case you didn't know perfect/hot women are equally as capable of detecting when they are being hated as the most ugly women in the world are. Mostly because they are NOT snails and thus still have eyes and can see the eyes of hatred staring back at them. That is unless you are trying to distract them with your wallet, huge clock, or "shiny".
I also feel bad for his future wife because he has already decided that she is going to be average or less in the looks department.
I echo the others in saying that it's not an either or. You can have your whole package and mutually feel that way about one another. I'm married, so I speak from reality.
U also didn't get what i meant there simply .Screw the looks that's what i meant ..but why do u feel bad for people who are going to date/marry average girls ???? explain please
Ok, I see what you are saying.
But, you misunderstood me. I don't feel bad for people that marry people of average looks (and I don't think I set those kind of standards very much). I mean I don't know how high your standards are. I don't know what you consider good looking and what you consider average. I'm sure your wife would want to feel adored by you. That's all I mean. I mean if you tell her or other people that you think she is average or less than, she may not like that. And maybe she is really beautiful, just not as beautiful in the same way as the other girls you are speaking of. (I know this is hypothetical at the moment)
My husband and I are both very much attracted to each other, but we admire one another even more for our mental and emotional connection. And everybody grows old. Looks do eventually fade (at least in some ways), but the other stuff remains.
It's like everyone is saying. People can be beautiful on the inside and outside, or beautiful on the outside and ugly on the inside, or ugly on the inside and outside. I don't usually think of people as ugly.0 -
What's attacted?0
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I didn't knwo whether this thread was about being physically attracted or physically attacked.
Anyway, I do agree. Someone doesn't have to be conventionally attractive for me to be physically attracted to them, but I MUST be physically attracted to them or it ain't going to happen.
Lucky for me, my hubby is a dish
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Meh, I'm sapiosexual as well as pansexual. In order for me to be physically attracted to a person they must be intelligent and have impeccable integrity. My physical attraction builds as I get to know someone, instead of instantaneously, due to their physical form.0
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Is attacted when you are so super duper attractive that people throw themselves on you immediately after laying eyes on you?What's attacted?
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I've got to be physically attracted to somebody before I could date them. If I'm not attracted to them its not going to work out!0
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and that some people are mortally offended by this says more about them than it does her.You know, when you're not stuck on looks, you find that people become attractive because of their traits. It's the little things-the way they laugh or small mannerisms or the way they treat you. That's what matters to me. I grow into my attraction, just like I grow into attachment or love.
It's not called "wanting the whole package". It's called not being shallow.
she's also not saying that the person she wants to date has to be the best looking person in the world, she just has to personally be attracted to them. There isn't anything wrong with that.0 -
and that some people are mortally offended by this says more about them than it does her.You know, when you're not stuck on looks, you find that people become attractive because of their traits. It's the little things-the way they laugh or small mannerisms or the way they treat you. That's what matters to me. I grow into my attraction, just like I grow into attachment or love.
It's not called "wanting the whole package". It's called not being shallow.
she's also not saying that the person she wants to date has to be the best looking person in the world, she just has to personally be attracted to them. There isn't anything wrong with that.
It sure does.
This thread is really strange. I mean someone posted with a typo "attacted" and then said she doesn't want to date someone that she isn't attracted to and that's as old as he father. What is wrong with that? And somehow it turned into a serious conversations with all kinds of bizarre judgements from every direction (and I didn't even read most of it). No one should ever force themselves to be in a relationship with someone they don't want to be (for whatever reason they feel that way).
And when we all say that we are attracted to our partners, that doesn't make us shallow. People on here don't know what it is that has attracted us to our partners. There are tons of attractive people in this world, so ultimately we were attracted to our partners because of the person that they are. But, there is also nothing wrong with feeling sexually attracted to our partners. And we aren't always going to launch into the story of our lives and relationships (sometimes we do, sometimes we don't, it's not always appropriate). I've been with my husband for 15 years and he's an amazing person.
And it's also bizarre how people think that someone that is attractive can't be a good person in a multitude of ways. That's shallow beyond comprehension! That's what actually being shallow is. To judge someone on the inside based on how they look. Judging someone for their inside is worse than judging them for how they look because it matters more, to me anyway. I don't know if I am considered attractive or not. But, there is nothing wrong with being attractive. And there is nothing wrong with speaking kindly of ones partner and saying you are attracted to him/her. It's good for the relationship when both partners express their attraction for one another.
I honestly can't believe the direction this thread took and that I am even responding to it.0 -
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don't hate me because i'm beautiful *cries*Also..where is this assumption that ALL good looking people have crappy personalities? Is that something ugly people like to think to make themselves feel better? Bad personalities come in handsome AND ugly people, and vice versa.0 -
And when we all say that we are attracted to our partners, that doesn't make us shallow. People on here don't know what it is that has attracted us to our partners.
Exactly.
My guy is not GQ material, but to me he's very good-looking. I know not everyone thinks so, but all that matters is that I do. There are a lot of guys I'm not attracted to and I can't think why I would date someone I couldn't imagine having sex with.
And if that guy told me I was shallow and "should" date him, that makes him a jerk with a lousy personality, as well as not being physically attractive.0 -
That was exactly my reaction when I read this. LMAOAt my age of 51, I dont think a penis is going to help me lose weight..... lol ... Seriously though, If I was married, it wouldnt be any of anyones business what my hubbies penis looked like.
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Well from experience ..i kinda hate all the perfect/hot women their personality makes them look like snails in my eyes i would only have a good times with them an that's it nothing more ..maybe not all of them have bad personality but all the good looking women that i have been with were all ugly from the inside ...so i would Date/marry an average or less women with a good personality ..but that's just me .
Raging (incorrect) generalities FTW.0 -
interestingly, I have ended up dating girls that were pretty, but I had no interest in, but they becaome just capitivating after i got to know them. So yes, physical attraction is all well and good, but for me what really makes someone desireable is more.0
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Even when we are attracted to someone physically, it's not just the looks. It is a combination of the looks, how they carry themselves, what they are saying that reveals their personality, the sound of their voice (I am attracted to the sound of a man's voice), Possibly the fact that they are interested in us and show us a particular type of attention gets our interest, maybe they are wearing a shirt that says that they volunteered for something that we respect, maybe we met them while doing something we love and see that shared interest, maybe they were doing something that showed us their skills and talents, maybe they made us laugh, and all kinds of factors that we are unaware of such as pheromones. I love the way my husband smells and when I hug him and my face is close to his head. I love the way his pillow smells.
And we are also not attracted to them for all kinds of reasons as well. Like the Op said, if we perceive the person to be like a person that would be in a fathering role to us, we are unlikely to be attracted to that for obvious reasons. Or if they remind us of someone that has harmed us in the past. If they behave in a way that feels threatening to us (whether they are or not) we have self-preservation instincts.0
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