Wanting to be physically attacted.....

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  • ldrosophila
    ldrosophila Posts: 7,512 Member
    Sadly, at 47 the old, bald guys with the beer guts ARE my dating demographic, and I still don't want their penises anywhere near me.

    I think everyone wants to be physically attracted to their partner, but women are somehow expected to conjure up lust based strictly a guy's good personality. That's just not something we're all capable of.

    LOL demographics love it...so true
  • jaycbadass
    jaycbadass Posts: 325
    Im not superficial either, I know how you feel though. All i want is a clean home, folded clothes, and a sandwich on a daily basis everything else we can make work.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Im not superficial either, I know how you feel though. All i want is a clean home, folded clothes, and a sandwich on a daily basis everything else we can make work.
    It's Batman!
  • funforsports
    funforsports Posts: 2,656 Member
    I only care about her personality.






    As long as she has a great as$ and perfect boobs.
  • miss_jessiejane
    miss_jessiejane Posts: 2,819 Member
    I only care about her personality.






    As long as she has a great as$ and perfect boobs.


    Lmao! At least you're honest!!
  • brillmer
    brillmer Posts: 1,268 Member
    I don't think its realistic to think any other way.

    Not to say that physical attraction is everything, but it has to be there to some degree at the start.

    Then, as you get to know the person better .. The personality can definitely lead to you being more, or less attracted to them.

    But you need to have that physical attraction first.. It's an important part of the relationship. At least to a young'n like me.

    Hell, that's what causes most people to even try to talk to someone. The initial physical attraction.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Sadly, at 47 the old, bald guys with the beer guts ARE my dating demographic, and I still don't want their penises anywhere near me.

    I think everyone wants to be physically attracted to their partner, but women are somehow expected to conjure up lust based strictly a guy's good personality. That's just not something we're all capable of.


    Men are the visual ones, supposedly.

    And please delete those pics of my 40+ year old p3n0r I sent.
  • _Krys10_
    _Krys10_ Posts: 1,234 Member
    I only care about her personality.






    As long as she has a great as$ and perfect boobs.


    :laugh:
  • soldier4242
    soldier4242 Posts: 1,368 Member
    Being shallow is not illegal. If you truly are shallow, then picking an ugly old fat guy to show otherwise is only gonna end in a disaster. Go with whoever rocks your boat.

    In time as you get older, you will realize that there are other qualities of a person you find more endearing than plain look and physique. Or not. Either way, don't get into any relationship to prove a point, do it only because you like the guy.
    Caring about physical appearance does not by definition mean that you are shallow. The OP already covered this. It is shallow to only about appearance but an ugly person can be a bad person. I agree with the OP completely. She is not advocating being shallow like your response implies. I think you should read what she wrote again.

    I realize I said I agreed with her completely and then I realized that there was one exception. She said that guys are not seen as shallow if they only care about looks. I disagree with that. In fact I think men are almost expected to be seen as shallow which I think is also wrong.
  • ItsCasey
    ItsCasey Posts: 4,021 Member
    You know, when you're not stuck on looks, you find that people become attractive because of their traits. It's the little things-the way they laugh or small mannerisms or the way they treat you. That's what matters to me. I grow into my attraction, just like I grow into attachment or love.

    It's not called "wanting the whole package". It's called not being shallow.

    So anyone who doesn't agree with you is shallow?

    If I didn't want to be friends with someone because they were unattractive, that would be shallow. Physically intimate relationships require physical attraction. That's not ALL they require, and not even the most important requirement (in my opinion), but it IS a requirement. If that makes me shallow, I'll wear it proudly. Not sorry at all.
  • brillmer
    brillmer Posts: 1,268 Member
    You know, when you're not stuck on looks, you find that people become attractive because of their traits. It's the little things-the way they laugh or small mannerisms or the way they treat you. That's what matters to me. I grow into my attraction, just like I grow into attachment or love.

    It's not called "wanting the whole package". It's called not being shallow.

    So anyone who doesn't agree with you is shallow?

    If I didn't want to be friends with someone because they were unattractive, that would be shallow. Physically intimate relationships require physical attraction. That's not ALL they require, and not even the most important requirement (in my opinion), but it IS a requirement. If that makes me shallow, I'll wear it proudly. Not sorry at all.

    That's not shallow at all.
    That's realistic. Anyone who says otherwise... I just wouldn't believe it.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    Well from experience ..i kinda hate all the perfect/hot women their personality makes them look like snails in my eyes i would only have a good times with them an that's it nothing more ..maybe not all of them have bad personality but all the good looking women that i have been with were all ugly from the inside ...so i would Date/marry an average or less women with a good personality ..but that's just me .

    Raging (incorrect) generalities FTW.


    ♪ ♫ ♩
    If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life
    Never make a pretty woman your wife
    So from my personal point of view
    Get an ugly girl to marry you
    ♪ ♫ ♩
  • moosegt35
    moosegt35 Posts: 1,296 Member
    I can see how you should be selective...

    You know you seem like the whole package, a real catch.
    You can't even spell attracted.

    Oh noes, a typo. She must be a moron. Haha. Wow, just wow.
  • moosegt35
    moosegt35 Posts: 1,296 Member
    You can't make a cake with flour alone. And you can make one without flour, but it tastes a helluva lot better with it.

    an even more betterest with frosting

    And betterestest with ice cream on the side

    drizzle...

    ETA. remember, no one expects me to do anything, if Im not interested I just walk away from the flirting or the advance. I figure those are the men too that have the most confidence, because I surely don't see that behavior coming from most younger, more better looking men. I very rarely get hit on by anyone my age.

    If I was 99 I would hit on you
  • moosegt35
    moosegt35 Posts: 1,296 Member
    What's attacted?

    It means attracted and someone made a typo and left off an R. Mensa obviously isn't doing any recruiting on MFP if you people can't figure this out.

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