Gym at Work=Awkward situations
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SuzySunshine99
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My company recently renovated our building and added a full fitness facility. It's a really nice perk, but I'm already having a few issues. I'm generally a social person, EXCEPT when I'm working out. I really don't want to chit-chat or talk business with anyone while I'm going through my workout.
At a public gym, it's easy to ignore people or tell them to buzz off, but I'm finding it more difficult when it's my co-workers and, in some cases, my superiors. I wear headphones, which discourages some people from talking to me, but not all.
How do I politely tell people that I have to work with every day, including my boss, that I really just want to be left alone? It seems like it doesn't take much to hurt people's feelings these days.
I have resorted to coming in very early or staying very late so that I have the gym to myself. I am considering just going back to my old gym, but the one at work is so nice and new and FREE.
At a public gym, it's easy to ignore people or tell them to buzz off, but I'm finding it more difficult when it's my co-workers and, in some cases, my superiors. I wear headphones, which discourages some people from talking to me, but not all.
How do I politely tell people that I have to work with every day, including my boss, that I really just want to be left alone? It seems like it doesn't take much to hurt people's feelings these days.
I have resorted to coming in very early or staying very late so that I have the gym to myself. I am considering just going back to my old gym, but the one at work is so nice and new and FREE.
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I would go to the old gym. Silence is priceless.9
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i think it depends on whether your boss is talking work or just having a general chit chat while you're both working out?0
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Ughhh that's tough... I'd probably do what you're doing and keep going in early. Because I don't know how to handle those situations. Hopefully people will learn to treat it like a proper gym after it's been there for a while. When I go to mine, I chat in the change rooms, but rarely while working out. And my friends just want to change and get out, as do I so it works out. But those are also exercise classes, not a full gym.1
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I would go to the old gym. Silence is priceless.
i'm inclined to say the same.
Usually my resting b@tch face and headphones and avoiding eye contact is enough to get people to leave me alone. But if it isn't working for you, you're still in that awkward boss-employee relationship even if it's outside of work.2 -
I would love to discuss that with you, can we do it after I finish my work out? Or something along these lines.5
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If you're wearing headphones, just ignore when they talk to you...if they keep talking, act like you notice, pull your headphones off and say "sorry, I couldn't hear you over my music" then immediately put them back on and get back to your workout. They'll realize that you're not there to chit chat when you jump back into your workout without continuing the convo. And if they can't take the hint, you still don't have to reciprocate. Just keep doing your thing. I don't care who it is...I'm at the gym to work on me, and it's MY TIME and I want to be left alone. I may come off as a beeyatch, but I guess I don't really care how I come off...1
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I would personally go back to my old gym if I could afford it. But then again, I used to use Planet Fitness so it would be a much easier call at $15 a month 24/7 access than if it was really expensive and/or limited hours.0
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I would probably say something along the lines of "I feel bad that I can't give you my full attention since I'm focusing so hard on improving speed/strength, etc. I'd love to talk more about *fill in blank*, let's catch up more once when we get back to the office!". That way you're still being friendly, but setting a precedent that you need to focus on fitness at that time. After 1-2x they'll get it and leave you be.4
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TavistockToad wrote: »i think it depends on whether your boss is talking work or just having a general chit chat while you're both working out?
Usually work-related, which is the biggest problem. He'll just walk over and start asking me for an update on a project I'm working on. I have used the "I'll stop by your office to chat about it in a bit." Makes me feel uncomfortable to do that though.2 -
SuzySunshine99 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »i think it depends on whether your boss is talking work or just having a general chit chat while you're both working out?
Usually work-related, which is the biggest problem. He'll just walk over and start asking me for an update on a project I'm working on. I have used the "I'll stop by your office to chat about it in a bit." Makes me feel uncomfortable to do that though.
i would bring it up in work, maybe suggest a 10 minute catch up at the end of each day/week to update him, so that he doesn't have to think about work while he's at the gym!1 -
TavistockToad wrote: »SuzySunshine99 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »i think it depends on whether your boss is talking work or just having a general chit chat while you're both working out?
Usually work-related, which is the biggest problem. He'll just walk over and start asking me for an update on a project I'm working on. I have used the "I'll stop by your office to chat about it in a bit." Makes me feel uncomfortable to do that though.
i would bring it up in work, maybe suggest a 10 minute catch up at the end of each day/week to update him, so that he doesn't have to think about work while he's at the gym!
I like this, bring it up in the office, that you don't want to be interrupted in the gym. My other thought was to talk to HR or whoever is behind the gym effort & ask if they can send out some general guidelines for gym us, including don't ask coworkers or subordinates to talk shop while working out.10 -
SuzySunshine99 wrote: »TavistockToad wrote: »i think it depends on whether your boss is talking work or just having a general chit chat while you're both working out?
Usually work-related, which is the biggest problem. He'll just walk over and start asking me for an update on a project I'm working on. I have used the "I'll stop by your office to chat about it in a bit." Makes me feel uncomfortable to do that though.
Go to another gym. If the people won't let you work out in peace and disconnect from the workplace it's not worth it.
Also if you can do it without getting yourself in a bad place, I'd tell HR or whoever runs the gym that situations like this are going to turn alot of people off.1 -
If you're salaried and on work premises, kind of a hard situation. Hourly and off the clock, not really fair play on the boss' end. I wouldn't go to HR, as that's just asking for awkwardness to extend outside of the gym. Either keep doing what you're doing, get a new gym, or get good at answering questions mid set.
I would personally do the last option - keep talking and then stop mid convo to do a set. Either they deal with it and keep talking or get bored of the extended time the conversation now takes. Be sure to shorten your rest periods for maximum disruption.1 -
If you're salaried and on work premises, kind of a hard situation. Hourly and off the clock, not really fair play on the boss' end. I wouldn't go to HR, as that's just asking for awkwardness to extend outside of the gym. Either keep doing what you're doing, get a new gym, or get good at answering questions mid set.
I would personally do the last option - keep talking and then stop mid convo to do a set. Either they deal with it and keep talking or get bored of the extended time the conversation now takes. Be sure to shorten your rest periods for maximum disruption.
I like this idea, thanks. People might get tired of following me around the gym as I answer their questions.
I'm going to stick with it for a little while and see if the crowd thins out a bit. Right now, it's a new, shiny toy for everyone. If it doesn't improve, I think I will bite the bullet and go back to my old gym.2 -
Go to another gym or do what you have been doing & work out when you have the gym to yourself. Do not tell your boss that you prefer not to discuss work at that moment.1
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I would buy noise cancelling head phones- you literally won't hear people when they start trying to talk to you, THEN, when they poke you or something be like "oooh I'm so sorry! I wear noise cancelling head phones because I really appreciate silence and getting in my zone when I'm working out" - then they will recognize its not pointed directly at THEM and you not wanting to interact with THEM.
My roommate wears noise cancelling phones around the house and I don't take it personally because I know when shes wearing them she needs to be in her zone. She also does it at work and the gym. They are really big so its fairly obvious to anyone walking by2 -
I would use the headphones to help them understand. If they are talking directly to you, take out one ear bud but hold it close to your ear as if you are ready to put if back - if they would just hurry up and stop talking. It's all about the body language. LOL1
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I'd stay at the gym.
I'd politely say to boss-I do a better update after I check the file. What's a good time to stop by your office with that info?
Or a sorry my mind isn't on that right now. When's a good time for an update?
Your boss will get the message.0 -
Make sure you're working too hard to be able to talk. Like while lifting or doing cardio.0
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MostlyWater wrote: »Make sure you're working too hard to be able to talk. Like while lifting or doing cardio.
what? no.
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