Trust--am I the only one seriously

happywithme12

Ok so it has come to light recently that it seems like I just cant trust a single person in this world, am I the only person that is having this issue. Should I be trying to find new friends that don't seem to think it ok to not care about how you treat other people. Please tell me I am not the only one that has been screwed over by pretty much all of my close friends.

TyTy76

I have a lot of trust issues...A LOT

When I quit drinking almost 100 days ago, I learned that most friends only cared about me when I was drinking, or having them over to drink. When I quit, I quit hearing from there.

This is why I have internet friends, and I am loner.

beachgod

InForBacon

I have a lot of trust issues...A LOT

When I quit drinking almost 100 days ago, I learned that most friends only cared about me when I was drinking, or having them over to drink. When I quit, I quit hearing from there.

This is why I have internet friends, and I am loner.

Happy almost 100! Now I will keep my comments about you drunkenly deleting me to myself....after this of course.

OllyReeves

In what regard have you been screwed over, and how are they breaking your trust?

SirBonerFart

Ok so it has come to light recently that it seems like I just cant trust a single person in this world, am I the only person that is having this issue. Should I be trying to find new friends that don't seem to think it ok to not care about how you treat other people. Please tell me I am not the only one that has been screwed over by pretty much all of my close friends.

You can trust me, why don't you hop in my van?

happywithme12

I have a lot of trust issues...A LOT

When I quit drinking almost 100 days ago, I learned that most friends only cared about me when I was drinking, or having them over to drink. When I quit, I quit hearing from there.

This is why I have internet friends, and I am loner.

Well happy 100 days you should be proud and if you need more friends to keep you uplifted you can add me, i don't always log but i try to keep my friends feeling good about there accomplishments

Alex_is_Hawks

I have a lot of trust issues...A LOT

When I quit drinking almost 100 days ago, I learned that most friends only cared about me when I was drinking, or having them over to drink. When I quit, I quit hearing from there.

This is why I have internet friends, and I am loner.

Happy almost 100! Now I will keep my comments about you drunkenly deleting me to myself....after this of course.

me too....Tyty doesn't need reminding of how much of an he hurt his internet friends....

love you Tyty!

happywithme12

I love this thank you I guess its true

happywithme12

In what regard have you been screwed over, and how are they breaking your trust?

talking about me behind my back and not giving me the same respect that i would give to them in the same situation, i just feel like i cant tell anyone anything without other people knowing things that i don't want a bunch of people to know

happywithme12

Ok so it has come to light recently that it seems like I just cant trust a single person in this world, am I the only person that is having this issue. Should I be trying to find new friends that don't seem to think it ok to not care about how you treat other people. Please tell me I am not the only one that has been screwed over by pretty much all of my close friends.

You can trust me, why don't you hop in my van?

only if you have toys or candy

soldier4242

Just because you are paranoid doesn't mean that everyone isn't out to get you.

Calliope610

I have a lot of trust issues...A LOT

When I quit drinking almost 100 days ago, I learned that most friends only cared about me when I was drinking, or having them over to drink. When I quit, I quit hearing from there.

This is why I have internet friends, and I am loner.

Those were not friends, they were just "drinking buddies". Huge difference. And now that you are sober, I have you find real friends. I know I did.

BeachIron

I have a lot of trust issues...A LOT

When I quit drinking almost 100 days ago, I learned that most friends only cared about me when I was drinking, or having them over to drink. When I quit, I quit hearing from there.

This is why I have internet friends, and I am loner.

Those were not friends, they were just "drinking buddies". Huge difference. And now that you are sober, I have you find real friends. I know I did.

^ This. And Ty, you are rocking it, dude!

quirkytizzy

I break my own trust far more than others have broken mine.

My life-lesson is learning how to trust myself to not screw people over, not the other way around.

happywithme12

Just because you are paranoid doesn't mean that everyone isn't out to get you.

I am not paranoid, I only have a few close friends and those few what i thought were close friends apparently are not and its upsetting to know if i can't trust a few close friends who can i trust

beachgod

In what regard have you been screwed over, and how are they breaking your trust?

talking about me behind my back and not giving me the same respect that i would give to them in the same situation, i just feel like i cant tell anyone anything without other people knowing things that i don't want a bunch of people to know

I'm glad you weren't offended or upset by my previous post. :flowerforyou:

I must comment on this: i just feel like i cant tell anyone anything without other people knowing things that i don't want a bunch of people to know

Keep that in mind, don't tell people things you don't want others to know and you will probably be a lot better off. Don't clam up, just watch what you say. note to self: practice what you preach!

Congrats on 100 days sober to the other poster, too!

lik_11

YES! When I was 25, I moved across the country by myself. Everyone of my friends that I relied on for strength and support screwed me over in some way, or another that year. I felt so alone - and it was the hardest time of my life. SO sorry that you're going through this!!! Although I'm still friends with many of the same people, I will never rely on them or trust them the way I did back then. I have new friends and a super awesome husband - but I will never be as open and reliant on anyone as I was before.

JustJennie1

Sounds like you need to find some new friends.

Seriously.

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

I have a lot of trust issues...A LOT

When I quit drinking almost 100 days ago, I learned that most friends only cared about me when I was drinking, or having them over to drink. When I quit, I quit hearing from there.

This is why I have internet friends, and I am loner.

Ty, I don't know if it's necessarily that they only cared about you when you were drinking. I felt that way when I quit too. Years later, looking back on it, I think that it may have just been awkward for them. They just don't know how to relate when the alcohol was a major part of the equation, and then it is off the table.

BTW, Congrats on sticking with it so long.

conniemaxwell5

Just because you call someone friend doesn't mean that they need to know everything about you. I think as a whole we share way too much information with people and expect them to keep it confidential. We set them and ourselves up for failure.

There's an old expression, "a secret is only a secret until you tell someone." I have found that a circle of friends will typically include only one or two people (if even that) that you can trust with everything. I have a lot of friends, but there are different levels at which I trust them. I have one that I would feel comfortable and safe sharing anything with, probably 3-4 that I would share personal things but nothing overly sensitive, and the rest are just fun people to hang out with.

Some people might see this as not trusting people, or even that some of these people aren't 'true friends,' but the truth is many people can't be trusted. I guess it's more important to me to have people that I like to share my time with, but not so important to have people to share information with.

happywithme12

In what regard have you been screwed over, and how are they breaking your trust?

talking about me behind my back and not giving me the same respect that i would give to them in the same situation, i just feel like i cant tell anyone anything without other people knowing things that i don't want a bunch of people to know

I'm glad you weren't offended or upset by my previous post. :flowerforyou:

I must comment on this: i just feel like i cant tell anyone anything without other people knowing things that i don't want a bunch of people to know

Keep that in mind, don't tell people things you don't want others to know and you will probably be a lot better off. Don't clam up, just watch what you say. note to self: practice what you preach!

Congrats on 100 days sober to the other poster, too!

I don't get offended by others opinions i try to be a good person and be caring and understanding. I promised god that i would try to be a better person and i think i have accomplished that. I guess it hard sometimes when you have a problem and want to talk to someone but cant trust anyone

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

talking about me behind my back and not giving me the same respect that i would give to them in the same situation, i just feel like i cant tell anyone anything without other people knowing things that i don't want a bunch of people to know

I'm pretty sure that if I tell anyone anything, it will be spread around. I usually go with the idea that people are gossips. I have found a few good friends who I can trust to not blab things. Instead of not trusting anyone, I just let it all hang out, and air my dirty laundry for everyone. Then it isn't getting warped and twisted in the retelling.

happywithme12

Just because you call someone friend doesn't mean that they need to know everything about you. I think as a whole we share way too much information with people and expect them to keep it confidential. We set them and ourselves up for failure.

There's an old expression, "a secret is only a secret until you tell someone." I have found that a circle of friends will typically include only one or two people (if even that) that you can trust with everything. I have a lot of friends, but there are different levels at which I trust them. I have one that I would feel comfortable and safe sharing anything with, probably 3-4 that I would share personal things but nothing overly sensitive, and the rest are just fun people to hang out with.

Some people might see this as not trusting people, or even that some of these people aren't 'true friends,' but the truth is many people can't be trusted. I guess it's more important to me to have people that I like to share my time with, but not so important to have people to share information with.

i agree with this thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ItsCasey

Trust has to be earned. If you're hanging out with people who have failed at every opportunity to earn your trust, then find new people to hang out with. Life is too awesome to waste it on lousy friends.

happywithme12

talking about me behind my back and not giving me the same respect that i would give to them in the same situation, i just feel like i cant tell anyone anything without other people knowing things that i don't want a bunch of people to know

I'm pretty sure that if I tell anyone anything, it will be spread around. I usually go with the idea that people are gossips. I have found a few good friends who I can trust to not blab things. Instead of not trusting anyone, I just let it all hang out, and air my dirty laundry for everyone. Then it isn't getting warped and twisted in the retelling.

LOL now that makes sense because you know people not tell others your business but get your business wrong in the telling of it

soldier4242

Just because you are paranoid doesn't mean that everyone isn't out to get you.

I am not paranoid, I only have a few close friends and those few what i thought were close friends apparently are not and its upsetting to know if i can't trust a few close friends who can i trust

So you are saying you are not paranoid but that you think anyone you give your trust to will betray you?

happywithme12

Sounds like you need to find some new friends.

Seriously.

I agree does anyone want to be my friend I am a great listener and am pretty easy to get along with.

happywithme12

Just because you are paranoid doesn't mean that everyone isn't out to get you.

I am not paranoid, I only have a few close friends and those few what i thought were close friends apparently are not and its upsetting to know if i can't trust a few close friends who can i trust

So you are saying you are not paranoid but that you think anyone you give your trust to will betray you?

Sort of yes because after being betrayed by so many people its hard to know who cares and who really doesn't

Jerrypeoples

Ok so it has come to light recently that it seems like I just cant trust a single person in this world, am I the only person that is having this issue. Should I be trying to find new friends that don't seem to think it ok to not care about how you treat other people. Please tell me I am not the only one that has been screwed over by pretty much all of my close friends.

You can trust me, why don't you hop in my van?

only if you have toys or candy

ive got puppies

Janice2Shakira

talking about me behind my back and not giving me the same respect that i would give to them in the same situation, i just feel like i cant tell anyone anything without other people knowing things that i don't want a bunch of people to know

I'm pretty sure that if I tell anyone anything, it will be spread around. I usually go with the idea that people are gossips. I have found a few good friends who I can trust to not blab things. Instead of not trusting anyone, I just let it all hang out, and air my dirty laundry for everyone. Then it isn't getting warped and twisted in the retelling.

Open books, ftw