Happiness Please help explain it..
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PowerMan40 wrote: »thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »King Solomon went on a quest for happiness.
He tried lots of women, drinking, being entertained, building buildings and gardens, attaining knowledge, etc. He said all of it was in vain - chasing after wind.
He did finally find the answer: obey God, enjoy the work you have been given to you and enjoy the wife you have, and the food and drink you have.
Note, there is no "getting", "chasing," pursuing." Just enjoying and obeying God.
Obey God and you start with a clean conscience, the basis of happiness. You can't be happy feeling guilty. Then, it doesn’t say find a job you love. It says love the work you have. It doesn’t say find a better partner - it says enjoy the one you have.
I listened to this wisdom and I found a way to enjoy doing dishes at home - I say thanks, because dirty dishes means we ate and that is a blessing. I enjoy how fast I can load the dishwasher and see a clean sink. I have found a way to enjoy the relentless "dailyness" of life. What once made me close to tears now brings a smile to my face because I have learned to be thankful.
Wishing you peace.
Reading homework: The Book of Ecclessiastes (The Bible)
Thank you for your words. I appreciate the time you took to write this. I am a pastors son, I have read the entire book cover to cover, a few times over growing up, however words on a page, dont mean much, when *kitten* hits the fan.
Words mean something when we internalize them and they become our thoughts, attitudes and behaviors.
Maybe you can start - if you really want to be happy - start woth writing down every day, 5 blessings you have in your life. The blue sky, food to eat, a hot shower, a laugh from tv. Every day, a new set of five. After a few months, guarantee you'll be happier, because words on a page become actions. Those actions lead you to see what your mind is now blocking.
90% of our lives are really good. Train yourself to focus on that instead of the 10%.
Reading homework: You Can be Happy No Matter What: Five Principles Your Therapist Never Told You, by Richard Carlson, Ph.D2 -
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thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
King Solomon went on a quest for happiness.
He tried lots of women, drinking, ]
[ He said all of it was in vain
He must have been doing it wrong....
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Sometimes happiness is a choice.2
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Motorsheen wrote: »thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
King Solomon went on a quest for happiness.
He tried lots of women, drinking, ]
[ He said all of it was in vain
He must have been doing it wrong....
Nice joke. Pleasure is fleeting. And the types of pleasure you get can leave you feeling bad about ones self.
There is pleasure in joy but sometimes there is no joy in pleasure.1 -
A lot of people fake it. A lot of people also have hormonal issues that cause depression and probably don't make it actually possible to be happy (hence why people that say that happiness is a choice drive me absolutely nuts). I'm both of those, honestly.
I remember the last time I was happy... 20 minutes ago after my college's choir concert when we went out with friends to celebrate... then life kicked me in the *kitten* and I just haven't really found it again since.
(I've actually been listening to the new Meatloaf song over and over (Going all the Way), and it's exactly about that... how people always seem braver than they are and you wouldn't know by looking at them how hard it really is for them).
But yeah, I'm sure that some people are really happy. I don't really know their secret but I also wonder if it just has to do with character - I'm a pretty realist/sarcastic but I have social anxiety and I overthink things a lot (which can be really bad. I wish I could turn off my brain). It's funny though because some little things can make me happy (like beautiful weather, some great music, and a nice walk), then two seconds later I'm down crying because of stupid life stuff.
So yeah.. you're not alone.0 -
thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »Motorsheen wrote: »thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »
King Solomon went on a quest for happiness.
He tried lots of women, drinking, ]
[ He said all of it was in vain
He must have been doing it wrong....
And the types of pleasure you get can leave you feeling bad about ones self.
I reckon that's a risk that I'm willing to take.
The pleasure I seek doesn't leave me feeling bad about myself, not one lil' bit.
no drink / no drugs / no vice -- no worries
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Happiness is a warm gun mama.0
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Contentment1
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Making someone else smile because of a kind gesture
Or even because you acknowledge them
Many claim I'm too happy. I think that comes from security. Security that I have always had a happy, loving family, I've never had to want for anything.
I dunno making others happy seems to help.2 -
PowerMan40 wrote: »thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »King Solomon went on a quest for happiness.
He tried lots of women, drinking, being entertained, building buildings and gardens, attaining knowledge, etc. He said all of it was in vain - chasing after wind.
He did finally find the answer: obey God, enjoy the work you have been given to you and enjoy the wife you have, and the food and drink you have.
Note, there is no "getting", "chasing," pursuing." Just enjoying and obeying God.
Obey God and you start with a clean conscience, the basis of happiness. You can't be happy feeling guilty. Then, it doesn’t say find a job you love. It says love the work you have. It doesn’t say find a better partner - it says enjoy the one you have.
I listened to this wisdom and I found a way to enjoy doing dishes at home - I say thanks, because dirty dishes means we ate and that is a blessing. I enjoy how fast I can load the dishwasher and see a clean sink. I have found a way to enjoy the relentless "dailyness" of life. What once made me close to tears now brings a smile to my face because I have learned to be thankful.
Wishing you peace.
Reading homework: The Book of Ecclessiastes (The Bible)
Thank you for your words. I appreciate the time you took to write this. I am a pastors son, I have read the entire book cover to cover, a few times over growing up, however words on a page, dont mean much, when *kitten* hits the fan.
I'm a pastors daughter! Nice to meet a fellow PK
I've wandered away a time or two, but have consistently found that when I am earnestly seeking God, he doesn't hide from me. There's a verse in Jeremiah that says something like, "you will find me when you seek me with all of your heart. I will be found by you." I've been through a bunch of crap, man - so much. But have learned that truly the SOURCE of my happiness, my joy - it all comes from being a Follower of Jesus.3 -
Having realistic expectations and knowing that happiness is temporary. Nobody should be happy or sad all the time. Life can be hard but it can get better, just give it time.1
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The only time when I know I'm truly happy, is when my kids are happy. My kids are my world and seeing them happy even if I sacrifice my own happiness, it's worth it. That's the only happiness I know.1
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Seems to me that picking fights and being creepy with women on the Internet makes you happy.
That being said I don't think there's much hope for you.8 -
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Happiness is eating as many dinosaur chicken nuggets as I want without gaining a pound.0
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JessicaJS23 wrote: »Seems to me that picking fights and being creepy with women on the Internet makes you happy.
That being said I don't think there's much hope for you.
Jeez, very harsh. Not sure what incredibly awful things he's said to deserve that, but it seems a lot of people are dogpiling some hate on him.
Just imagine if someone said "I don't think there's much hope for you" to you... or a family member of yours, or a friend, or an acquaintance... Too harsh...3 -
Karma. Karma makes me happy.
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JessicaJS23 wrote: »Seems to me that picking fights and being creepy with women on the Internet makes you happy.
That being said I don't think there's much hope for you.
Jeez, very harsh. Not sure what incredibly awful things he's said to deserve that, but it seems a lot of people are dogpiling some hate on him.
Just imagine if someone said "I don't think there's much hope for you" to you... or a family member of yours, or a friend, or an acquaintance... Too harsh...
You don't have to look hard to see for yourself : )
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I can't tell you what it is but i know i felt that joy and true happiness a few times and every time i felt it, it had something to do with my kids. Their success, their happiness, their excitement is bringing me that joy. Time spent with them, talking, acting silly and laughing over nothing. They are my life and i assume it's natural to feel the greatest joy in their presence.
Also, it might sound silly but completing challenging tasks, or reaching goals i set up for myself give me some highs and happiness too.1 -
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