Married but feels guilty

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  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    edited October 2016
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    If you are concerned you are either over worrying (and probably don't need to). Or you feel you are doing something wrong. You could talk to your wife. You might be pleasantly surprised by the conversation. I think compliments are fine. But, different people have different boundaries.
  • IndySue13
    IndySue13 Posts: 22 Member
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    LOL.....the jealousy factor of a significant other, that is. As far as the boobie discussion....have at it fellas. It's pretty entertaining.
  • crystalsan726
    crystalsan726 Posts: 795 Member
    edited October 2016
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    I agree talk to your wife. She will tell you what she prefers. I choose not to have male friends on here being a married woman myself. There are fine lines in marriage and if you are married you will know what those lines for you and your spouse. Also from looking at past failed marriages in my family something small and innocent can always turn to something else. But that is just my opinion. Everyone has their own and will give it to you. You should just ask your wife and see what she says.
  • crystalsan726
    crystalsan726 Posts: 795 Member
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    Well some women are secure and some aren't it depends on the person. Also it depends on the compliment too. If it is truly innocent then he shouldn't be worried about talking to his wife. If not then there's your answer.
  • NorthCascades
    NorthCascades Posts: 10,970 Member
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    Sarahb29 wrote: »
    This is a really weird question to ask the internet. Ask your wife how she feels about it.

    No! Whatever you do, absolutely do not let your wife find out about this!
  • crystalsan726
    crystalsan726 Posts: 795 Member
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    Villae81 wrote: »
    crystalsan726 wrote: »
    Well some women are secure and some aren't it depends on the person. Also it depends on the compliment too. If it is truly innocent then he shouldn't be worried about talking to his wife. If not then there's your answer.

    Ha! Until an argument starts then all that secure crap turns to raw crazy and starts bringing stuff up from ten thousand years ago shiit they even record what you say in your sleep for ammo purposes

    Well if an argument starts then I guess he will have his answer now won't he?! LoL! If there are issues there to begin with then he should know not to be commenting on pictures. But if he chooses to that is on him.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
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    Everyone is different. But, not all women feel threatened by their partner admiring women. And certainly not online from a far distance. And vice versa. We are all still human. If he/she is giving unwanted compliments then that's not cool.
  • crystalsan726
    crystalsan726 Posts: 795 Member
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    BinaryPulsar wrote: »
    Everyone is different. But, not all women feel threatened by their partner admiring women. And certainly not online from a far distance. And vice versa. We are all still human. If he/she is giving unwanted compliments then that's not cool.

    Well said.
  • ArmsandCharms
    ArmsandCharms Posts: 133 Member
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    Lol.... is this real?
  • 3M_TA3
    3M_TA3 Posts: 1,036 Member
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    LiftingLady5 wrote: »
    Well now I know @3M_TA3 doesn't think much of my boobs. Geeeez. That's what I had going for me.

    @LiftingLady5 your boobs are awesome...just trolling for FR and random boob pics....it failed....
  • Noelani1503
    Noelani1503 Posts: 378 Member
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    Everyone has different rules for their relationships. A lot of couples aren't bothered by looking. They might be turned on by seeing their partner flirt. What about the people who are allowed to touch but not go all the way, or do whatever they want physically with other people but not do anything emotionally? We can't possibly know what's considered acceptable behavior in your relationship.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
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    Noelani1503 wrote: »
    Everyone has different rules for their relationships. A lot of couples aren't bothered by looking. They might be turned on by seeing their partner flirt. What about the people who are allowed to touch but not go all the way, or do whatever they want physically with other people but not do anything emotionally? We can't possibly know what's considered acceptable behavior in your relationship.

    Yeah, well said!
  • mbaker566
    mbaker566 Posts: 11,233 Member
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    compliments are fine like "way to go"
    avoid things like "looking hot"
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
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    LiftingLady5 wrote: »
    mbaker566 wrote: »
    compliments are fine like "way to go"
    avoid things like "looking hot"

    'yes but a lot of people on here want to approve their appearance with becoming more physically fit...so a compliment such as "Way to go, you are looking hot" isn't all that unreasonable. Its the nature of things. Its not like saying, "Way to go, you are looking hot....I'm sending you a dic pic". That would be too much and his wife would be mad I bet.

    It could be argued that "Way to go, you are looking hot....I'm sending you a dic pic" is appropriate standard for MFP member responses. As long as he sent his wife a D pic too, it's ok.
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
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    LiftingLady5 wrote: »
    138shades wrote: »
    LiftingLady5 wrote: »
    cee134 wrote: »
    LiftingLady5 wrote: »
    mbaker566 wrote: »
    compliments are fine like "way to go"
    avoid things like "looking hot"

    'yes but a lot of people on here want to approve their appearance with becoming more physically fit...so a compliment such as "Way to go, you are looking hot" isn't all that unreasonable. Its the nature of things. Its not like saying, "Way to go, you are looking hot....I'm sending you a dic pic". That would be too much and his wife would be mad I bet.

    It could be argued that "Way to go, you are looking hot....I'm sending you a dic pic" is appropriate standard for MFP member responses. As long as he sent his wife a D pic too, it's ok.

    He could just tell his wife that he doesn't even need to send her a dic pic too, because she gets the real thing. I bet she would see how lucky she is then.

    u r hilarious........but not real lol

    When I looked in the mirror this morning I looked pretty real to me.

    Sorry lulu, you're not real. That's just the way it goes sometimes.

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