slimming world has made me want to starve
Getawayfromthecake
Posts: 124 Member
i decided to delete my post but i couldn't figure out how so i've had to edit instead
6
Replies
-
I stopped reading half way through.... you pay someone to make you cry because.....?
Cancel your subscription to SW, log on here, and give yourself a break, you have a tiny baby!!!!5 -
Sorry I gave up reading about 8 lines in but really the crux is you have an 11 week old, be a bit kinder to yourself
It takes a while for pregnancy hormones to leave the body ...and during that time some people experience more difficulty in losing weight
Take a deep breath and go for a walk
There's only a few people who's opinions in the world matter ...a slimming world "consultant" is simply not one of them6 -
Sorry I gave up reading about 8 lines in but really the crux is you have an 11 week old, be a bit kinder to yourself
It takes a while for pregnancy hormones to leave the body ...and during that time some people experience more difficulty in losing weight
Take a deep breath and go for a walk
There's only a few people who's opinions in the world matter ...a slimming world "consultant" is simply not one of them
DITTO, COME HOME TO MFP!3 -
I am sorry I couldn't get past the part that pasta and potatoes are free so eat unlimited? You read this in SW??!1
-
thanks guys i know the post is long but i needed to vent. i know mfp is the way forward but i still feel i dont want them to win0
-
Holy cow, unlimited pasta? I'd be gaining 4lbs a week.
Ditch Slimming World. Log your food on MFP. Cut yourself some slack, you just made a human!!!4 -
Yep it's part of your 'free' foods which you can eat unlimited... yet you can only have 45g of fibre and limited milk. they got very defensive when i questioned it1
-
I read all of your post and I agree with the advice above. If it were me, I'd not be going back to Slimming World - why subject yourself to that?! - (and I wouldn't be caring what they thought of me!). I'd spend what I'd save in weekly subs on a decent weighing scales so I could motivate myself with my own weekly weigh-ins. I'd log in here on MFP, not worry about eating potatoes and pasta that I wouldn't normally eat, and take it from there. Don't be so tough on yourself - new babies are hard work!0
-
Well, they do make money from keeping people around... encouraging them to eat unlimited pasta is a good way to make sure no one succeeds too quickly, lol...9
-
Getawayfromthecake wrote: »thanks guys i know the post is long but i needed to vent. i know mfp is the way forward but i still feel i dont want them to win
In what way don't you want them to 'win'?
Why not focus on you, not them?1 -
Getawayfromthecake wrote: »thanks guys i know the post is long but i needed to vent. i know mfp is the way forward but i still feel i dont want them to win
They 'win' when you come back, week after week, and give them your money.7 -
TavistockToad wrote: »Getawayfromthecake wrote: »thanks guys i know the post is long but i needed to vent. i know mfp is the way forward but i still feel i dont want them to win
In what way don't you want them to 'win'?
Why not focus on you, not them?
I know it's counter productive, but the way I was treated was so horrible I was so humiliated and I guess I want the chance to be able to leave with some pride. I know I shouldnt care.0 -
Maybe if you structure your post in parts with some distance between new thoughts I could read it.0
-
Sorry skinnyfitmella I wrote this post with one hand and a crying baby in my arms as i stated at the bottom. I know it's long and erratic but I'm very emotional and upset. It's difficult to type with one hand on a touch screen phone or at least i struggle.skinnyfitmella wrote: »Maybe if you structure your post in parts with some distance between new thoughts I could read it.
7 -
The best revenge is living well. Remove that kind of poison from your life and embrace things that empower you. MFP gives you the tools to help empower yourself. For free I might add
2 -
Getawayfromthecake wrote: »
Sorry skinnyfitmella I wrote this post with one hand and a crying baby in my arms as i stated at the bottom. I know it's long and erratic but I'm very emotional and upset. It's difficult to type with one hand on a touch screen phone or at least i struggle.skinnyfitmella wrote: »Maybe if you structure your post in parts with some distance between new thoughts I could read it.
I'm also really depressed and at rock bottom so comments like that just make m,e think what's the point in reaching out6 -
If slimming world lose you as a customer... the 'consultant' will have lost. Punish her by not going back and reward yourself for being a good Mum by logging on here and finding supportive company.6
-
Getawayfromthecake wrote: »Getawayfromthecake wrote: »
Sorry skinnyfitmella I wrote this post with one hand and a crying baby in my arms as i stated at the bottom. I know it's long and erratic but I'm very emotional and upset. It's difficult to type with one hand on a touch screen phone or at least i struggle.skinnyfitmella wrote: »Maybe if you structure your post in parts with some distance between new thoughts I could read it.
I'm also really depressed and at rock bottom so comments like that just make m,e think what's the point in reaching out
I get the distinct feeling that even if your post had been grammatically perfect and set out in a flawless essay, you'd not have got a lot of empathy from that direction, hon. Don't let it get to you.5 -
There are some comedy sketches about a slimming consultant like yours. The British comedian David Walliams (who performs with Matt Lucas) created a character called Marjorie Dawes. She is insensitive and foolish in equal measure!3
-
Getawayfromthecake wrote: »Getawayfromthecake wrote: »
Sorry skinnyfitmella I wrote this post with one hand and a crying baby in my arms as i stated at the bottom. I know it's long and erratic but I'm very emotional and upset. It's difficult to type with one hand on a touch screen phone or at least i struggle.skinnyfitmella wrote: »Maybe if you structure your post in parts with some distance between new thoughts I could read it.
I'm also really depressed and at rock bottom so comments like that just make m,e think what's the point in reaching out
Sit down with hot beverage of your choice
Is this your first baby?
it can be overwhelming ..and depression is a physiological issue many experience post-natally, it is not anything you've done ..get some help, talk to your med team
Also stop pressuring yourself ...I put on 14lbs with each child (well with my first i gained 52 but a lot of it flushed away in the first 2 weeks, the rest stuck around...with my 2nd I put on 22 and had the same experience)
Give yourself time
Eat healthily ..ignore SW and dieting for at least 3 months more ..you can log if you want but don't be overly self critical
Get out with your baby, meet new friends ..baby groups, coffee shops etc
Sleep
Let other people watch the baby while you do
Don't blame you for ranting...they sound foul
Vote with your feet
7 -
Alatariel75 wrote: »Getawayfromthecake wrote: »thanks guys i know the post is long but i needed to vent. i know mfp is the way forward but i still feel i dont want them to win
They 'win' when you come back, week after week, and give them your money.
Exactly!2 -
If they make you feel the way you felt there is obviously something wrong. Quit paying them and focus on yourself. Log your foods but focus on yourself and your child. That is far more important than being miserable. Vote with your wallet. As others said, they "win" when you come back.2
-
Thanks everyone. I decided to delete post as ive and soaked myself in the negativity for 4 days now. (it happened monday). The approach is obviously not helping. I lost 5 stone once, through this site. Eating healthy and loving myself. Dorina the slimming world consultant is still a big lady so if it's that amazing why isnt it even working for the consultant. I can do it again I'm sure.12
-
Alatariel75 wrote: »Well, they do make money from keeping people around... encouraging them to eat unlimited pasta is a good way to make sure no one succeeds too quickly, lol...
Kind of like how some calorie tracking programs over estimate calories burned and under estimate calories consumed. Or kind of like how some group-x rooms have mirrors that are sort of like fun house mirrors... not obvious enough that you can really see but just enough that adds 5 LBS. Keeps you coming back...
2 -
Getawayfromthecake wrote: »
I'm also really depressed and at rock bottom so comments like that just make m,e think what's the point in reaching out
Is it possible you are going through some postpartum depression? It kind of sounds like it to me. You might benefit from talking with your doctor about it, making sure you get as much rest as you can (sleep when baby sleeps!), and feeding your body the best you can nutritionally right now. I had PPD really bad with my first baby and it can really take a toll on you. If you think this might be the case for you, reach out to your husband, family, and doctors for support. Hang in there!1 -
goodasgoldilox wrote: »There are some comedy sketches about a slimming consultant like yours. The British comedian David Walliams (who performs with Matt Lucas) created a character called Marjorie Dawes. She is insensitive and foolish in equal measure!
Thanks - found more info, dear #OP , this should help:
"The FatFighters diets Marjorie promotes are generally counterproductive to her group. One diet used by FatFighters is the "Half-the-Calories" diet. This involves cutting food in half, therefore giving it half the calories and because it's half the calories a person can have twice as much.[5] Marjorie is also a great believer in diets that involve eating dust, as dust, of course, has no fat in it, so someone can have as much dust as they like.[6] In the Little Britain script book for series 2, there is a FatFighters diet sheet that includes meals involving dust such as 'Dustburger', 'Full English Dust' and 'Pain au Dust'. The sheet includes a message at the bottom that says "It's not easy, but good luck and remember - you are fat, loathsome scum".*[7] As a result of such dietary advice, the group members often find other methods to lose weight much to the disgust of Marjorie who regards them traitors.
Another aspect that challenges Marjorie’s suitability for her job is the fact she is overweight herself, although she does claim to be at her target weight, despite being approximately 15 stone and 8½ pounds (99 kg). This is easily explained when Marjorie's own eating habits are shown, often doing exactly what she tells the FatFighters not to do. During sketches, she will occasionally try to hide from the group and eat large amounts of food in the mistaken belief the group cannot see or hear what she's doing."5 -
ronjsteele1 wrote: »Getawayfromthecake wrote: »
I'm also really depressed and at rock bottom so comments like that just make m,e think what's the point in reaching out
Is it possible you are going through some postpartum depression? It kind of sounds like it to me. You might benefit from talking with your doctor about it, making sure you get as much rest as you can (sleep when baby sleeps!), and feeding your body the best you can nutritionally right now. I had PPD really bad with my first baby and it can really take a toll on you. If you think this might be the case for you, reach out to your husband, family, and doctors for support. Hang in there!
i am yes. i visited the doctor today. he just didnt seem to understand i was trying to explain, i said she is just so much hard work. his reply was ' thats babies im afraid and it only gets worse'
he did give me anti depressants but after researching the side effects i have decided not to take them. i was hoping for non medicated support maybe counselling support groups, that type of thing x my mums great though so ill just have to keep leaning on her.0 -
Please be kind to yourself. Leave SW and come back here. So many of us know what you are going through. We've been there, both with the weight and the postpartum depression. These two things are not mutually exclusive, which sucks joy out of spending time with your little on. This is such precious time. They truly grow so fast. Try to enjoy being a mother and worry about the weight later. It will come off. You said that you've done this before, so you will do it again. If you don't want to try meds yet, find things that work: taking a walk with baby, a new kind of tea to try, nap when baby naps, anything that will recharge you and give you energy. Take it one day at a time. Treat yourself the way you would treat a friend-with kindness and compassion. You're worth it
2 -
Getawayfromthecake wrote: »ronjsteele1 wrote: »Getawayfromthecake wrote: »
I'm also really depressed and at rock bottom so comments like that just make m,e think what's the point in reaching out
Is it possible you are going through some postpartum depression? It kind of sounds like it to me. You might benefit from talking with your doctor about it, making sure you get as much rest as you can (sleep when baby sleeps!), and feeding your body the best you can nutritionally right now. I had PPD really bad with my first baby and it can really take a toll on you. If you think this might be the case for you, reach out to your husband, family, and doctors for support. Hang in there!
i am yes. i visited the doctor today. he just didnt seem to understand i was trying to explain, i said she is just so much hard work. his reply was ' thats babies im afraid and it only gets worse'
he did give me anti depressants but after researching the side effects i have decided not to take them. i was hoping for non medicated support maybe counselling support groups, that type of thing x my mums great though so ill just have to keep leaning on her.
Did you ask him for a referral for some talking therapy?1 -
I dont really know what resources exist so i assumed as he only suggested tablets that was the only optionTavistockToad wrote: »Getawayfromthecake wrote: »ronjsteele1 wrote: »Getawayfromthecake wrote: »
I'm also really depressed and at rock bottom so comments like that just make m,e think what's the point in reaching out
Is it possible you are going through some postpartum depression? It kind of sounds like it to me. You might benefit from talking with your doctor about it, making sure you get as much rest as you can (sleep when baby sleeps!), and feeding your body the best you can nutritionally right now. I had PPD really bad with my first baby and it can really take a toll on you. If you think this might be the case for you, reach out to your husband, family, and doctors for support. Hang in there!
i am yes. i visited the doctor today. he just didnt seem to understand i was trying to explain, i said she is just so much hard work. his reply was ' thats babies im afraid and it only gets worse'
he did give me anti depressants but after researching the side effects i have decided not to take them. i was hoping for non medicated support maybe counselling support groups, that type of thing x my mums great though so ill just have to keep leaning on her.
Did you ask him for a referral for some talking therapy?
0
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 393.2K Introduce Yourself
- 43.8K Getting Started
- 260.2K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.9K Food and Nutrition
- 47.4K Recipes
- 232.5K Fitness and Exercise
- 421 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.5K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.5K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 153K Motivation and Support
- 8K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.7K MyFitnessPal Information
- 23 News and Announcements
- 1.1K Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.6K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions