"Have you lost weight?" and other terrifying questions

MelanieCN77

Sometimes it might be friendly interest but if they are getting passive aggressive, just remind yourself that that part is about themselves. Dismiss it, verbally if you must, and don't let them put it on you.

stephenearllucas

I just tell them that someone said they wanted to see less of me, so I'm obliging them by becoming....less.

OhMsDiva

workinonit1956 wrote: »

The question that makes me uncomfortable is-- "what are you doing?
Maybe it's just me, but I don't really like getting into all of it.

And what I have found is that most don't really want to know specifics, so I just say I no longer eat everything I want to eat

Evamutt

last nite i went to a potluck where a few ppl haven't seen me for a while (I lost 23lbs so far), they noticed & said i looked good. The only thing that really annoyed me was when my friend who came with me & knows what i'm doing was "monitoring" what i ate. She asked me "can you eat that"? when i got a small serving of beans. I said i can eat whatever I want. When she was going to say something else I told her i don't want to talk about it, I'm fine. I didn't want to be the center of conversation, It kind of upset me

777Gemma888

I usually reply with, " Lost weight? Oh God, I hope not. I'm trying to build muscle and not in any way want to resemble a drenched emaciated bird"

Starting out as huge as I was, I tended to shoot off the hip with, " Well, I don't rightly know if the scale has shifted from this morning, but shall we start stepping on the scale together to track our loses?" Nosey bullies are usually scared to be accountable to someone else.

LAWoman72

People don't seem to ask me if I've lost weight but rather, they will say something like "How on earth did you lose so much weight?" even though they don't yet actually know how much. I feel uncomfortable with this question as it makes me feel like I must have looked SO bad before, given tne shock and giant eyes and so on, but I answer honestly, "Diet and exercise." I feel like I'm being asked for some secret amazing no fail formula or something and I hate to see the person's disappointment that nope, it still comes down to restricting. I don't like to disappoint anyone but what else can I say? This is how I did it.

I have also gotten "I am jealous" and then I really don't know what to say. Last time I stupidly answered "Don't be, I'm starving!" just out of nervousness and literally not knowing what the heck else to say. I am certainly not used to anyone being jealous of my weight or my body. What do you say??? I mean obviously it is generally an overweight person saying s/he is jealous. I still, even in retrospect, don't know how I was supposed to answer that.

I WANT to be slender and have worked hard at it, I am not trying to complain or act put out, but I absolutely am uncomfortable with these questions.

Lynzdee18

Have I lost weight? Not recently, but I think YOU gained some, am I right?

LAWoman72

icemom011 wrote: »

My client once asked me if i was ok and not sick, seeing that I've lost so much weight. I know him for a very long time, and he himself was sick once and lost alot. So that's out of concern. So usually people coment how great i look now, some ask how I'm doing it,some say don't lose any more, which i still do, and still have extra weight that i don't need around. Now i tell people that I've been working on it for quite a few months, no, I'm not sick and it's intentional weight loss. I do look and feel so much better, i appreciate the compliments, i work hard and it's nice to be this way. If someone is interested, i would briefly tell the basic principles, depends who I'm talking to. I'm very introverted too, and usually do not want any attention from people, but at the same time I'm really proud of my progress, over 71lbs lost. So i do take credit, and say thank you for the compliments and for noticing.

I've had "Don't lose any more" too. Seriously? I'm five foot one and 160 pounds.

jolive7

Have you lost weight - no I have lost fat I actually weigh the same.. gainz baby