I got called fat today at the gym...

focusunique

So today i had a great workout.. as i was leaving I HEARD (YOUR FAT)..Almost broke down.. i used to eat my feelings persay and i feel close to that again! Please help!

mmdolly56

Please shake it off. Everyone Everywhere has an opinion and None of it matters.

goldthistime

My first instinct is to say you misheard, it's just too strange that someone would say something like that out loud, at a gym. Given that you didn't see the person who said it, perhaps it wasn't directed towards you. Maybe it was something innocuous, like a tease between too friends.

If it WAS directed at you, I might be thinking about how sad a life that person must have. Who would want to be in a relationship with a jerk like that? What are their chances of having a decent career if they have no filter? You are in the gym becoming a better version of yourself. Whoever uttered that, if it was meant with malice, for you or someone else, has problems that are a lot bigger than a calorie deficit could solve.

Therealobi1

Don't let this stop your progress. Keep at it and be back at that gym tommorrow.
Good luck

MissusMoon

People will always be jerks, to various people, for various reasons.

People like that don't matter.

gwenster89

*kitten* THAT *kitten*. you're a babe and you're a *kitten* badass for being there in the first place. don't do anything you'll regret tomorrow, but even if you do, the sun will still rise tomorrow.

shanimay23

Don't stress, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, if you let it. If someone is negative towards you at the gym, they obviously have a lot of other issues going on. Poor person really. Let's focus on you though, you're going to have set backs, self doubt, but channel the negative energy you have from that into something positive! Try out a boxing class to take out your frustration, or pound your feet harder on that treadmill to prove to yourself and to whoever brings you down that you got this!! It's about perspective, through challenges from others and from yourself you become mentally emotionally and in this case physically stronger. Hope this helps!

jenilla1

Was this a middle school gym? Because that's some juvenile behavior!

focusunique

Thank you all for being so kind! It definitely was an eye opener for sure.. this guy pulled up behind my car and rolled down his window just to yell that at me.. i just didn't think people like this still existed.. i seer it in the movies all the time.. or just hear about it.. it was very puzzling and i kind of froze at that moment.. thank you all again.. im going to use everyone's advice and use this as motivation not a break down.. i didnt eat my feeling this time .. Thank you again ❤

Alatariel75

People can be dicks. You can't change that they've been dicks in that moment, but you can change whether you let them continue to be dicks in your head long after they've forgotten about you.

idocdlw

Reframe this for yourself. You were at the gym. You were working out. You are pursuing your weight/fitness goals. You are awesome and what you should have heard is that you are "phat!" Own it! Keep up your good work and establish your self-worth from the inside...you know yourself...the idiot that used the term "fat" has no idea who or what you are...that is something only you know.

traskin5918

You are working hard at getting healthy. Perhaps you're overweight. You're at the gym. You will someday soon be in better shape.

The guy in the car will never be anything other than a worthless prick. He can work out all he likes, but no matter how hard you try, you just can't polish a turd.

Laurie6578

Our reality is determined by what we tell ourselves about any given situation. You are in control of that. Maybe he really did mean you are phat! You are beautiful and awesome and in control of your life!!

crackpotbaby

focusunique wrote: »

Thank you all for being so kind! It definitely was an eye opener for sure.. this guy pulled up behind my car and rolled down his window just to yell that at me.. i just didn't think people like this still existed.. i seer it in the movies all the time.. or just hear about it.. it was very puzzling and i kind of froze at that moment.. thank you all again.. im going to use everyone's advice and use this as motivation not a break down.. i didnt eat my feeling this time .. Thank you again ❤

peter2100

focusunique wrote: »

So today i had a great workout.. as i was leaving I HEARD (YOUR FAT)..Almost broke down.. i used to eat my feelings persay and i feel close to that again! Please help!

That person is just trying to make you feel bad about yourself because they are insecure themselves. Once you realize people who try to put you down must themselves be very sad, you can't take it seriously anymore. Just think about the dark soul you must need to put people down for no reason. That person's opinion has no worth. You are doing the very thing you need to do to fix your problem, so feel proud.

The ultimate revenge is to not let it get to you, and to get the body you want.

nutmegoreo

Wow! Throat punch Thursday would have been early round here. It's easier for you to change your weight, than it is for him to change whatever his human decency malfunction is.

Psychgrrl

He's the one with the problem, not you. He's driving around yelling insults at random people who are at the gym improving their health.

How sad his life must be that he gets his jollies doing pathetic things like that.

Someone who treats people like that, his opinion means nothing. You keep doing you and being awesome at it!

canadianlbs

that's just bullying. it sucks and it shakes everyone up when it happens to them.

but it's not about you. hang in. it's some random dick in a car who's already not part of your life anymore.

Hearts_2015

Laurie6578 wrote: »

Our reality is determined by what we tell ourselves about any given situation.

This line/quote applies to any & everything we do in our lives ... it's a great quote by @Laurie6578

focusunique wrote: »

So today i had a great workout.. as i was leaving I HEARD (YOUR FAT)..Almost broke down.. i used to eat my feelings persay and i feel close to that again! Please help!

I'm so sorry that happened to you, especially since the whole reason you were there was working to improve your life to work to get healthier, mind, body & spirit. @focusunique


I love the quote below. I feel empowered & a sense of freedom when I read it, looking forward to making it my reality.
Perhaps it'll give you some hope as well.

DisruptedMatrix

I binged for three days. Gained at least 6lbs.

zyxst

Those types of people help me with my middle finger deadlifts.

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Lounmoun

focusunique wrote: »

So today i had a great workout.. as i was leaving I HEARD (YOUR FAT)..Almost broke down.. i used to eat my feelings persay and i feel close to that again! Please help!

How did you feel before? You weigh the same before and after the comment. You are the same person.
Why does the opinion of someone who shouts things out of car windows at strangers in an attempt to hurt them matter to you? You realize there is something very wrong with that type of person right? Eating doesn't make the world a better safer place where no one is mean or stupid.

Chef_Barbell

Hmm.

Derpy_Hooves

Ah he was just being an eejit by the sounds of it. You were just unlucky to be in front of him, but if it was someone else he would have said that to the other person.

TavistockToad

focusunique wrote: »

So today i had a great workout.. as i was leaving I HEARD (YOUR FAT)..Almost broke down.. i used to eat my feelings persay and i feel close to that again! Please help!

your fat what?

Heartisalonelyhunter

OK the trouble with having low self-esteem is it makes you narcissistic. So EVERYONE is looking at you/talking about you/laughing at you whereas in fact everyone is trapped inside their own heads and doesn't even notice you.
My guess is you misheard or heard someone's conversation and decided it applied to you. Even if some *kitten* did say that to you it's kind of laughable they would be so so sad that they spend their days shouting random insults at strangers at the gym. How pathetic.

PennWalker

focusunique wrote: »

Thank you all for being so kind! It definitely was an eye opener for sure.. this guy pulled up behind my car and rolled down his window just to yell that at me.. i just didn't think people like this still existed.. i seer it in the movies all the time.. or just hear about it.. it was very puzzling and i kind of froze at that moment.. thank you all again.. im going to use everyone's advice and use this as motivation not a break down.. i didnt eat my feeling this time .. Thank you again ❤

Don't be puzzled. The guy might have a crush on you. Maybe he think's you're pretty and was trying to tease you and stepped in it. That's the only reason that makes sense to me.

shara85

What?! He pulled up behind you in his car just to say that to you?! What a piece of *kitten*. Sorry, that behavior just boggles my mind.

Girl, I hope you are able to shake that off. That is more a reflection of him and his struggles if anything; no reflection on you.

If it's any consolation, you are a beautiful woman. Keep killing it!!

davidcliff

You sure he didn't mean PHAT?
If that's not what he meant
Of course you could always take a couple kick boxing classes and show him what you've learned?

focusunique

Thank you all for all the support and awesome comments. So much positivity is beautiful! Please know that each and everyone of you has helped me in your very own way. Im very thankful! Im going to go back to the gym today and be motivated more then ever!