I got called fat today at the gym...

futuresize8

I was power walking once and some guy yelled something about my "fat *kitten*" as they drove by in their sh*tty beat up truck. I walked faster. It totally did hurt my feelings...until I considered the source. You're doing what you need to do to be your best. Don't give two kittens about someone so ignorant that they'd actually roll up and say stupid stuff to you. Who does that? (A *kitten*, that's who!) You're awesome.

cqbkaju

Move on. Get over it.
Don't let it get to you or you will probably start feeling sorry for yourself.
Just do what you need to do.

People are poopy heads.

You can lose fat if you need to and be thinner.
He will likely remain a poopy head.

PennWalker

NiveaSoG wrote: »

PennWalker wrote: »

focusunique wrote: »

Thank you all for being so kind! It definitely was an eye opener for sure.. this guy pulled up behind my car and rolled down his window just to yell that at me.. i just didn't think people like this still existed.. i seer it in the movies all the time.. or just hear about it.. it was very puzzling and i kind of froze at that moment.. thank you all again.. im going to use everyone's advice and use this as motivation not a break down.. i didnt eat my feeling this time .. Thank you again ❤

Don't be puzzled. The guy might have a crush on you. Maybe he think's you're pretty and was trying to tease you and stepped in it. That's the only reason that makes sense to me.

PennWalker wrote: »

focusunique wrote: »

Thank you all for being so kind! It definitely was an eye opener for sure.. this guy pulled up behind my car and rolled down his window just to yell that at me.. i just didn't think people like this still existed.. i seer it in the movies all the time.. or just hear about it.. it was very puzzling and i kind of froze at that moment.. thank you all again.. im going to use everyone's advice and use this as motivation not a break down.. i didnt eat my feeling this time .. Thank you again ❤

Don't be puzzled. The guy might have a crush on you. Maybe he think's you're pretty and was trying to tease you and stepped in it. That's the only reason that makes sense to me.

This is very far fetched from reality.

A grown man does not try to appeal to a girl by hurting her feeling.

Unless - he has severe mental issues.

I agree, I was thinking he was a clod with mental issues.

Either that, or she was in his way in the parking lot and he was mad at the world and took it out on her.

To the OP, whatever his motives, he's a nut and what he did has nothing to do with your worth. Now you know who he is so you can steer clear of him.

cqbkaju

davidcliff wrote: »

Of course you could always take a couple kick boxing classes and show him what you've learned?

This needs to be a real kickboxing class then, not a cardio class.
Get the ring time in.

MsAmandaNJ

In junior high, I played field hockey. We were at an away game warming up as the buses were leaving. From a distance, I heard, "Hey #32! Lose some weight!". It hurt a bit, the worst part was not seeing the chicken who yelled that from the departing bus, being unable to stick up for myself. I was certainly the biggest on the team, wearing a size 12, could always do with losing some weight, so the moron was stating the obvious. I don't know who he is, but he must think quite highly of himself or (hopefully) grew the F up. As you experienced, some people never do.

MoveitlikeManda

a few weeks ago while i was walking to the gym a car went past me and the lad in passenger seat shouted fatty.
i was like erm ok then and the bloke who was walking behind me shouted what a dick head!
which made me laugh.

I look at it like this.....Im 30 years old and have had people comment on my weight since I was probably 9years old. Iv heard it all and ya know what? in those years not one person has thought of anything new to say.

I brush it off with the knowledge that from my highest weight im down over 25kg and "only " have 20kg to go till i reach goal weight and when Im at goal weight and happy and proud of how far Iv come those twats who feel the need to comment will still be complete twats with no hope of being a better person

nadler64

PennWalker, are you that clueless? People do this to young women all the time, no matter what their body type.

OP, just remember when people - male or female - pull this kind of juvenile stunt, it says a helluva lot more about them than it does about you. In fact, it tells you everything you need to know about them.

Too many people need to stand on someone else's shoulders to make themselves feel bigger. SMH.

akilia112010

The same person that's calling you fat will be the same person calling you beautiful once you reach your goal. Ignore the negativity sweetie.

johnnylakis

focusunique wrote: »

So today i had a great workout.. as i was leaving I HEARD (YOUR FAT)..Almost broke down.. i used to eat my feelings persay and i feel close to that again! Please help!

Did you say f*** you? I would have.

Ninjatio

Get angry.
*kitten* like that is fuel for the fire. Adversity is good, it means you have something to fight.

Get stronger. If you aren't on a lifting program yet send me a message.

Raptor2763

The only opinion that matters is yours. If you're looking to please everyone all the time, you're going to become disappointed.

federicafezza4271

PennWalker wrote: »

Don't be puzzled. The guy might have a crush on you. Maybe he think's you're pretty and was trying to tease you and stepped in it. That's the only reason that makes sense to me.

uhm, how about we stop implying that a girl should accept a stranger's insult because "he has a crush on you"?

and for OP: don't let this affect you, continue your journey and keep rocking!

UnicornAmandaPanda

Holy crap! Im so sorry that happened to you. similar things have happened to me and it is so embarrassing. but they should be the embarrassed one because how immature is that to yell something at a stranger like that, unbelievable! And hello way to insult somebody who is at the gym to work on their health and fitness lol. So ridiculous. Cheer up, and hit that gym again tomorrow!

msf74

So what?

Opinions are like...errr, well, you know the saying. You don't have to take any notice of them.

ninerbuff

It isn't just this that you'll be dealing with in life. You'll confront many situations that will have to do with how you're viewed from many people. Best thing you can do IMO is schluff it off. It does you no good to worry about how people view you. It's how you view you that's the most important.

A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

Grey_1

focusunique wrote: »

Thank you all for all the support and awesome comments. So much positivity is beautiful! Please know that each and everyone of you has helped me in your very own way. Im very thankful! Im going to go back to the gym today and be motivated more then ever!

Shake it off, put the idiot on ignore and press on.

I do have to admit the insensitivity of some people just boggles the mind, but you don't have to let it slow you down. As others here have already said, be strong and keep on truckin - you can do this.

b3achy

"It's not what happens to you, but how you react to it that matters." - Epictetus

"You either get bitter or you get better. It’s that simple. You either take what has been dealt to you and allow it to make you a better person, or you allow it to tear you down. The choice does not belong to fate, it belongs to you." ~ Josh Shipp

Stuff will always happen to you. People will often say dumb things to you (no matter if you are overweight or thin, out of shape or fit, plain or a beauty queen)...somehow there is always someone who will have something stupid to say.

The situation itself doesn't define you. It's what you do with it that will determine the true outcome from the situation. You can't control others or when things happen to you...but your reaction to the situation is in your control. React with greatness, and you will be great. React with determination, and you will reach your goals.

cathipa

focusunique wrote: »

Thank you all for being so kind! It definitely was an eye opener for sure.. this guy pulled up behind my car and rolled down his window just to yell that at me.. i just didn't think people like this still existed.. i seer it in the movies all the time.. or just hear about it.. it was very puzzling and i kind of froze at that moment.. thank you all again.. im going to use everyone's advice and use this as motivation not a break down.. i didnt eat my feeling this time .. Thank you again ❤

Maybe he has Tourette's or a traumatic brain injury. Maybe he meant it with a PH and not a F. Not making excuses for him, but shrug it off and keep going. Too many jerks in this world to rationalize all of them. Make progress to prove the naysayers wrong.

rsclause

I can only hope that you overheard two friends giving each other a hard time and joking. If it was directed at anyone else then those individuals need a reality check and need to graduate out of the first grade. That is wrong on so many levels, you are better than they are so don't let them hold you back.

fitoverfortymom

PennWalker wrote: »

focusunique wrote: »

Thank you all for being so kind! It definitely was an eye opener for sure.. this guy pulled up behind my car and rolled down his window just to yell that at me.. i just didn't think people like this still existed.. i seer it in the movies all the time.. or just hear about it.. it was very puzzling and i kind of froze at that moment.. thank you all again.. im going to use everyone's advice and use this as motivation not a break down.. i didnt eat my feeling this time .. Thank you again ❤

Don't be puzzled. The guy might have a crush on you. Maybe he think's you're pretty and was trying to tease you and stepped in it. That's the only reason that makes sense to me.

I would tend to agree with this. He had no other way or words to tell you what he thought so all he knew to do was to pull your pigtails call you fat. That doesn't make what he said feel any better, just know that it's totally on him and not on you. It's his shortfalls, not yours, that caused him to act that way.

Also, someday in the future, you'll totally be able to kick his *kitten*. So there's that.

Heartisalonelyhunter

akilia112010 wrote: »

The same person that's calling you fat will be the same person calling you beautiful once you reach your goal. Ignore the negativity sweetie.

Wtf? So revenge for being insulted by a sexist asshat is being considered attractive by the same asshat when you lose weight? No.

billglitch

I know that men and women are different. My son is fat and trying to lose. He always hears comments...some are blatant some are more subtle. He does not tolerate it and usually throws it back on them and because of his huge vocabulary they dont even know what he said. I will tell you what I tell him, do it for you and *kitten* them.

Wiggymommy

Those who are saying this is unusual have seriously been living in a bubble. No you probably didn't hear wrong but this guys is NOBODY to you. His opinion of you does not matter and will never matter! You could be perfect and someone somewhere will have an issue with you. Shake it off! I would have stuck my bum out at him and told him to kiss my fat as*

JDixon852019

Report that Asshat to management. You are paying to use that gym and have the right not to be harassed. He is most likely doing that to others too. Take a stand.