ever feel like u can't?

ardysedwardsmcgrath

ever feel like u can't do this? like everything u do &that scale wont budge? u think y bother?but then the other part of u says jus keep going .. u can do this.. ? im feeling blahhhh

TreyTnt9

Thanks a lot. I'm giving up now.

TnZMom

^

Yes, I feel like that sometimes. It helps to think about long term progress. Even if you don't get results right away, if you keep working at it, you will at least get a little better. Hang in there.

canadianlbs

TreyTnt9 wrote: »

Thanks a lot. I'm giving up now.

psssht.

the thing is: i know my weight was on the way up before i got serious. it snuck up on me but it had a pretty steady momentum going.

so sometimes i have periods where i just have to shift gears and remind myself if i've got nowhere to go but up if i'm NOT doing this - and not in a good kind of 'up'. so even being in statis is kind of . . . it's not as good as where i'd like to be, but it's still better than where i won't like to be if i let myself go there.

i don't like it sometimes, but those are the real-world choices i have. so i pick the one i prefer, usually.

JeromeBarry1

Yes you can. Yes you can. Yes you can. Yes you can. The time is going to pass anyway. Pass the time in a calorie deficit and you will win.

usmcmp

I have thought that every day since I started in 2010. Thankfully it didn't matter whether I believed I could or not because I stuck to it enough to make a difference. I have been far from perfect and there were months where the scale didn't move, but I just kept trying. In the end it is worth it.

ardysedwardsmcgrath

thanks all! i agree keep withit even though dangold scale hates moving.. sorry trey tht .. plz keep hanging in there.. i didnt mean to throw u off! we can do this right? plug alittle ea.day if we can.. like u said jeromebarry1 yes u can yes u can.. yes i can yes i can! :)purchasing soon a elliptical to hop on to when i m bored or dont wanna do snowy weather.. :)excerise im hoping itll help me those long winter mos still slim down or keep body doing good is the goal..

kschwab0203

When I feel like giving up, I tell myself to just log the stupid food (in my angry voice to myself) because tomorrow will come and so will the next day. 30 days will come no matter what and I ask myself "would you rather be closer to your goal in 30 days or farther away?" Time will pass no matter what.

ardysedwardsmcgrath

sweet!! i think we all most go thru this.. ya i dont wanna keep going up like im.. ughs.. ive been in the 240s since middle of summer.. i got once in july to 229&then went right back up.. seems impossible at times i need more excerise&eating better..

QueenAnne94101

We ALL go thru this with one glaring exception: the people to lose their weight don't let these slip-ups and slow-downs derail them. I have a friend who lost 74 lbs in two years, and she had so many stories just like yours, but at the end of the day/week/month of set backs, she just forgave herself and got back on track. Honestly, we both started at the same time and she is done and maintaining; I derailed and didn't get back on after my screw ups, and here I am two years later only 16 lbs down instead of 68 (my goal). So I am getting back on the rails after 6 months of pouting. I hope for you that this is only a short blip before you get back on the rails and doesn't turn into a 6 month weight-gaining pout, like mine. Sadly, I speak from (frustrating) experience. LOL! Good Luck!!

thekatspjs

I feel like that all the time. I have never been successful losing weight. I really have never been able to diet and consistently exercise. I know I need to create a calorie deficit but how... there are so many approaches. My head spins with all the different approaches...

ardysedwardsmcgrath

thanks... yai hope its just doesn't hang on me too long cuz i m already feeling like im gaining.. Im also bumming having some emotional times dating so almost makes me feel no1wants me even though at one time i had lost alot.. but bumps im not doing that great.. Im like u queen Anne.. gaining.. ive been doing this for a 3-4 yrs now.. maybe lost now 20 lbs b4 was close to 40 at one time.. ugh.. i need to get back with it. I wish i could afford to work out too.. maybe that wood help me.. i need more excerise .. i jus havne't been with it.. now the holidays.. ughs..
seems like me too not being successful losing it all.. i go up & down..

usmcmp

Afford to workout? Do you not have spare time to go for a walk or do free exercises found online? There are tons of things you can do for exercise that cost nothing and plenty of things you can do with minimal time.

usmcmp

This is going to sound mean and I don't intend on putting you down, but I think you need to hear it. You are absolutely capable of taking charge of your life. Your posts make you sound like a victim and that's BULL. You know what it takes, you need to put all that information together into baby steps you know you can take.

You say on your profile that you want to be a good example for your daughters, start showing them right here that women are capable of incredible things. Show them that they can accomplish anything they set their minds to. If you sit back and let life run you over that's what they will see. Do you want life to run them over too? Show them how to be strong women.

Therealobi1

ardysedwardsmcgrath wrote: »

thanks... yai hope its just doesn't hang on me too long cuz i m already feeling like im gaining.. Im also bumming having some emotional times dating so almost makes me feel no1wants me even though at one time i had lost alot.. but bumps im not doing that great.. Im like u queen Anne.. gaining.. ive been doing this for a 3-4 yrs now.. maybe lost now 20 lbs b4 was close to 40 at one time.. ugh.. i need to get back with it. I wish i could afford to work out too.. maybe that wood help me.. i need more excerise .. i jus havne't been with it.. now the holidays.. ughs..
seems like me too not being successful losing it all.. i go up & down..

Exercise on you tube, fitnessblender is free. Can just start with 20 mins a day and build on it

Morgaen73

ardysedwardsmcgrath wrote: »

ever feel like u can't do this? like everything u do &that scale wont budge? u think y bother?but then the other part of u says jus keep going .. u can do this.. ? im feeling blahhhh

All the time ... but then you get up and you do it because ... goals.

ardysedwardsmcgrath

ok ok usmcmp!;ya ive been a indeptent woman for some time.. yes i can do this.. jus puttin effort into it.. my duaghter say to me yesterday mom ur never gonna get there if u keep not taking care of yourself.. ugh.. ya ive been putting on weight again i can feel it.. my legs r not been good... either has the back.. goal is tomorrow eat right look up these free sites for excerise&also get out in walk/bike.. ive got a elliptical on order... my next drs appt is march i dont wanna look like a failure & gained.. i go back to idaho for granddaughters 2nd bday i was wanting to lose 50 by then.. thats a push for me.. postivie thoughts i can do this.. ive been also wanting a man back in my life.. seems like i dont have one ... i like some1and i think he likes me but im fat. whos gonna want a fatty? lol

ardysedwardsmcgrath

i thoght if i worked out i could lose it faster..

PeachesNcreamgal

Yes it's demoralizing sometimes when the scale doesn't budge but I like what eating healthy does for my state of mind and overall well being

Grey_1

ardysedwardsmcgrath wrote: »

ok ok usmcmp!;ya ive been a indeptent woman for some time.. yes i can do this.. jus puttin effort into it.. my duaghter say to me yesterday mom ur never gonna get there if u keep not taking care of yourself.. ugh.. ya ive been putting on weight again i can feel it.. my legs r not been good... either has the back.. goal is tomorrow eat right look up these free sites for excerise&also get out in walk/bike.. ive got a elliptical on order... my next drs appt is march i dont wanna look like a failure & gained.. i go back to idaho for granddaughters 2nd bday i was wanting to lose 50 by then.. thats a push for me.. postivie thoughts i can do this.. ive been also wanting a man back in my life.. seems like i dont have one ... i like some1and i think he likes me but im fat. whos gonna want a fatty? lol

Hey...you do not want someone who's only going to want you because of the way you look. And being overweight does not make you "a failure". It just means you're a person who isn't happy with where they're at. Be a little kinder to yourself.

I would suggest taking the advice on the forum here - these folks know how to do it, and also visit the "Success stories" thread for inspiration. What some of these folks have accomplished is just amazing. You can do it too.

Arizona_C

I can relate, I never thought I could.

For years I put myself down, felt victim to everything from bad genes to poor destany. Litteraly years, like twenty of them, no kidding.

I thought I was doomed to live overweight and misrable forever. I gave up before even making the first step. Or repeating the same one step forward one step backwards thing.

With time and lots of failures I am finally at a moment where I feel really good, I have lost weight and found strenght and confidence, I enjoy doing sports and living healthy.

Don't give up! But do look for the solutions elsewhere. It probably be out of your comfort zone.

What holds you back?