Won't listen to someone that is thin

Docbanana2002

cwolfman13 wrote: »

Are people seeking your counsel or are you offering unsolicited advice? I don't talk to anyone about anything unless they specifically inquire and seek my counsel. I've never had anyone not listen to me when they are specifically seeking my advice...that doesn't mean they're necessarily ready to follow said advice though.

I agree! Just because someone asks you how you did it doesn't mean they want a lot of advice on what THEY need to do. I try to discern when someone is just curious about me and asking to make conversation (which requires a brief "I did Nutrisystem" or "I tracked my calories and started running" type of answer) and when someone is asking for advice about the direction they need to go (in which case I'm going to have a longer convo where I give the detailed answer for myself and then learn what their goals are, what they struggle with, etc., and help them strategize a path that fits their situation). I've only had people show gratitude and seek me out further for conversation in the latter situation. In the former situation, we make chit chat and move on because they aren't asking for my help and would be annoyed if I tried to give it.