Is it possible to be positive all of the time?

ClubSilencio

Ever meet someone who is positive all of the time and think to yourself, "I wanna be like that, too."

Whenever I try to do it though I usually crap out after 2.5 days. I love talking *kitten* too much. :laugh:

Do you guys think being super positive 24/7 is something that can be conditioned or is it only reserved for those whom are genetically predisposed? I work with a guy who is like this and I swear he must be from another planet. Makes me wonder if I should just accept myself for who I am and work with that.

thisonetimeatthegym

ClubSilencio wrote: »

Ever meet someone who is positive all of the time and think to yourself, "I wanna be like that, too."

Whenever I try to do it though I usually crap out after 2.5 days. I love talking *kitten* too much. :laugh:

Do you guys think being super positive 24/7 is something that can be conditioned or is it only reserved for those whom are genetically predisposed? I work with a guy who is like this and I swear he must be from another planet. Makes me wonder if I should just accept myself for who I am and work with that.

No. That guy has his problems too. We all do.

People think I haven't been through anything, which is why I'm cheerful. I have been through things and God got me through all of them.

I know my faith helps me to be positive.

Plus, I choose not to ruminate on my problems when I'm in a bad mood. And when I'm in a bad mood, I recognize it as a temporary thing that will pass, which helps make the bad mood a lot less upsetting and leave quicker.

Personality does have a predisposed quality, but you can train yourself to rein back your pessimism.

I suggest daily gratitude and the LONG version of the Serenity Prayer:


Serenity Prayer
- Reinhold Niebuhr (1892-1971)

God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.
Amen.

Hungry_Angler

Thinking positive 100% of the time, IMO would eventually lead to disillusion. For the most part I am a positive guy, but that's been forged through trial by fire and has led me to a point that I believe that all will work out eventually.

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Hungry_Angler

Those that are too vocal can be too much. Overly positive people prior to my coffee time can be hazardous to their health and bad for my ears. Those that are too "Eeyore'ish" can drain the life out of a person.

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Just_J_Now

I try to be. Evidently I suck at it.

Behxo

No, you'd be considered a robot at that point.

Grey_1

I do the best I can, and the people that matter to me never ask for more than that.

RoxieDawn

I don't know anyone that is positive like you describe 24/7. I know of people that are so outgoing (or so its seems that way) that it would make you want to throw up.. Sometimes people are hiding behind a mask per se.. It might also be that at work or the environment you are seeing them in is the happiest place for them and you have no idea what they go home to... etc..

Its just too much to figure out.. Be yourself.

cwolfman13

ClubSilencio wrote: »

Ever meet someone who is positive all of the time and think to yourself, "I wanna be like that, too."

Whenever I try to do it though I usually crap out after 2.5 days. I love talking *kitten* too much. :laugh:

Do you guys think being super positive 24/7 is something that can be conditioned or is it only reserved for those whom are genetically predisposed? I work with a guy who is like this and I swear he must be from another planet. Makes me wonder if I should just accept myself for who I am and work with that.

You're not with that person 24/7...I don't think anyone is positive 100% of the time. There are certainly people who are more positive than others more of the time, but not all of the time.

I used to think that about my trainer's wife...we're pretty good friends with them and she's always so happy and bubbly and positive...we all took a trip together this past May and shared a condo...she had her moments just like we all do, though she is a pretty happy and positive person most of the time.

Grey_1

RoxieDawn wrote: »

I don't know anyone that is positive like you describe 24/7. I know of people that are so outgoing (or so its seems that way) that it would make you want to throw up.. Sometimes people are hiding behind a mask per se.. It might also be that at work or the environment you are seeing them in is the happiest place for them and you have no idea what they go home to... etc..

Its just too much to figure out.. Be yourself.

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VeryKatie

I know someone who is cheerful all the time. Two someones. But even they can get bummed out. It just takes a bit more to get them to that point. Like their roof blowing off in a storm or a miscarriage

I go through phases. Never super de duper cheerful though. Complaining can be too good of entertainment.

kschwab0203

I can see how being around someone that was super cheery all the time might get annoying, but to be honest, I'd rather that than be around someone who a dick all the time. It is soooo draining.

yayamom3

cwolfman13 wrote: »

ClubSilencio wrote: »

Ever meet someone who is positive all of the time and think to yourself, "I wanna be like that, too."

Whenever I try to do it though I usually crap out after 2.5 days. I love talking *kitten* too much. :laugh:

Do you guys think being super positive 24/7 is something that can be conditioned or is it only reserved for those whom are genetically predisposed? I work with a guy who is like this and I swear he must be from another planet. Makes me wonder if I should just accept myself for who I am and work with that.

You're not with that person 24/7...I don't think anyone is positive 100% of the time. There are certainly people who are more positive than others more of the time, but not all of the time.

I used to think that about my trainer's wife...we're pretty good friends with them and she's always so happy and bubbly and positive...we all took a trip together this past May and shared a condo...she had her moments just like we all do, though she is a pretty happy and positive person most of the time.

Similar situation for me. My SIL always seems calm and happy and always appears to have her stuff together. Our families vacationed together a few years ago, and I finally saw her true colors. Not a criticism. Actually, it was kind of a relief to know she's not as perfect as she usually appears to be. Human just like the rest of us. If you want to really know someone, go on vacation with them.

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kschwab0203

PlaydohPants wrote: »

I'm not bubbly or anything but I like to think I'm positive a lot. I try not to vocalize the negative stuff

This is me too. I'm the "everything will be ok" person even if I'm not quite sure it will.

JaydedMiss

I just killed your entire family. Are you happy?

But no seriously i hate those people its okay to be upset sometimes, healthy even. Bottling things up is bad.

cee134

Yes.

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MsAmandaNJ

Are you topless at work? That'd keep me in a pretty good mood. Kidding...but not really ;-)

Being super positive could be that guy's way of getting through the workday. Sometimes the overly positive people are just trying to avoid dealing with reality as it's just too painful. They could be in full panic mode in their head, but keep a happy face to not attract attention.

I'm an optimist, but could never answer the "glass" question given the two options. To me, the glass has water...not too much, not too little, it just does.

llaurenmarie

People tend to say if you're not positive, you're negative. And they seem to get negative and realistic mixed up pretty easily.

4theking

My life is not perfect and I sometimes do struggle, but I would consider myself always positive, always happy. God is the giver of all that is good. The closer you are to Him, the more joy you have.

thisonetimeatthegym

4theking wrote: »

My life is not perfect and I sometimes do struggle, but I would consider myself always positive, always happy. God is the giver of all that is good. The closer you are to Him, the more joy you have.

Hugs and this, so much this, if people only knew.

I have been told my calm is intimidating or doesn't make sense.

They don't know it's not me. I was given a gift:

John 14:27
Peace I leave with you; My peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your heart be troubled, nor let it fear.

And

John 15:11

"These things I have spoken to you so that My joy may be in you, and that your joy may be made full."

Grey_1

llaurenmarie wrote: »

People tend to say if you're not positive, you're negative. And they seem to get negative and realistic mixed up pretty easily.

I've met both who,where ever they're at, they're going to make you get there too. Even if it kills you.

beagletracks

To have a meaningful positive impact, one must think critically. I think many people who seem positive all the time behave that way with intention based on a desire to change the world for the better grounded in the knowledge that only light can drive out darkness.

HookedOnMySweetFish

Yep- but there will be breaks in positivity of course. There will always be hard times. Being positive doesn't mean that those times aren't hard. It takes a different spin on them.
I grew up in a positive absent environment. I met some positive people and it was like a whole new world. People, it's a choice, chose to be at least nice.

Timshel_

People confuse being positive with being blind to the struggle and issues in one's own life, or that is my experience at least. I am positive most of the time and I have had people tell me that I am "just kidding myself" or "lying to myself" that everything is ok, or will be better, or whatever. Seriously?

Positivity is merely a mindset to accept the negative things happening and try to still make progress. That is possible to do 100% of the time. Even if you get down on yourself and complain, at heart you can still have that positive hope.

Or at least I can.

I am real about myself.
I continue to work for positive changes.
I continue to try to effect others with that attitude.

thisonetimeatthegym

Timshel_ wrote: »

People confuse being positive with being blind to the struggle and issues in one's own life, or that is my experience at least. I am positive most of the time and I have had people tell me that I am "just kidding myself" or "lying to myself" that everything is ok, or will be better, or whatever. Seriously?

Positivity is merely a mindset to accept the negative things happening and try to still make progress. That is possible to do 100% of the time. Even if you get down on yourself and complain, at heart you can still have that positive hope.

Or at least I can.

I am real about myself.
I continue to work for positive changes.
I continue to try to effect others with that attitude.

Awesome.