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If you can't do it, you can't do it. I personally wouldn't expect my friends to fork out that much money, especially for a rehearsal dinner.
My rehearsal dinner was a cookout at the apartment complex I lived at. We provided the burgers, dogs, chips, salads, dessert and bottled water. If they wanted extras, they were welcomed to bring it, especially the alcohol. Total cost for that: $100 for all the food for 25 people.
Did she come to your wedding? And if she did what was the present?0 -
And by the way "princess moment" WTF people are we 12? Grow up it's just a friggin wedding people do it everyday. I hate how people spend so much on this stupid one day event and dont even really think about what it means...marriage for life. What's the average wedding now like $10K? $10K do you know what I could do with that money...I'd put a down payment on a house, get the BF teeth fixed, save it for my future surgery, put it into a college fund for my child, go on a long vacation, but to spend it on some stupid overly priced princess dress NO THANK YOU!
Sorry my little rant over weddings...waste o' money and time.
My wedding cost $9.99...that's right, folks there is a decimal point in there...less than $10. Gotta love Reno weddings, LOL
You might have the record...Reno is great0 -
If you can't do it, you can't do it. I personally wouldn't expect my friends to fork out that much money, especially for a rehearsal dinner.
My rehearsal dinner was a cookout at the apartment complex I lived at. We provided the burgers, dogs, chips, salads, dessert and bottled water. If they wanted extras, they were welcomed to bring it, especially the alcohol. Total cost for that: $100 for all the food for 25 people.
Did she come to your wedding? And if she did what was the present?
No, she didn't. We knew each other back then, but we weren't more than just acquaintances back then. lol
OH! Would now be the time to mention that I just baked a double layer cake with fondant covering for her daughter's boyfriend last weekend?
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And by the way "princess moment" WTF people are we 12? Grow up it's just a friggin wedding people do it everyday. I hate how people spend so much on this stupid one day event and dont even really think about what it means...marriage for life. What's the average wedding now like $10K? $10K do you know what I could do with that money...I'd put a down payment on a house, get the BF teeth fixed, save it for my future surgery, put it into a college fund for my child, go on a long vacation, but to spend it on some stupid overly priced princess dress NO THANK YOU!
Sorry my little rant over weddings...waste o' money and time.
My wedding cost $9.99...that's right, folks there is a decimal point in there...less than $10. Gotta love Reno weddings, LOL
You might have the record...Reno is great
I think she does!!! WINNER!!0 -
If you can't do it, you can't do it. I personally wouldn't expect my friends to fork out that much money, especially for a rehearsal dinner.
My rehearsal dinner was a cookout at the apartment complex I lived at. We provided the burgers, dogs, chips, salads, dessert and bottled water. If they wanted extras, they were welcomed to bring it, especially the alcohol. Total cost for that: $100 for all the food for 25 people.
Did she come to your wedding? And if she did what was the present?
No, she didn't. We knew each other back then, but we weren't more than just acquaintances back then. lol
OH! Would now be the time to mention that I just baked a double layer cake with fondant covering for her daughter's boyfriend last weekend?
You bake and do photography...how much did that puppy set you back? LOL ok now I say it should be room and dinner costs. Your friend does that for you because she's a friend and loves you better believe you help her out. Especially if hubby is recovering from surgery. 0 -
Screw that. Wouldn't be happening on my end.0
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If you can't do it, you can't do it. I personally wouldn't expect my friends to fork out that much money, especially for a rehearsal dinner.
My rehearsal dinner was a cookout at the apartment complex I lived at. We provided the burgers, dogs, chips, salads, dessert and bottled water. If they wanted extras, they were welcomed to bring it, especially the alcohol. Total cost for that: $100 for all the food for 25 people.
If I ever get married, my rehearsal dinner will be a beer, porn, snuggie party. Bring your own snuggie.
What kind of porn it matters?
What kind do you like? I was planning on everybody writing down their preferences then we can draw them out of a hat and enjoy. Hopefully the more sick stuff comes after a few beers so we can all have a good laugh.0 -
Wanna know what I would say if I couldn't afford it... Your husband just had surgery for frickin sake!
No. I would say, I am sorry but I can't take the photos for free. Is there anything we can work out as compensation because of my DHs surgery and the costs that I did not expect when I initially said yes.
I never got comments like "princess moment" though for weddings. That alone would of turned on my b!tch switch :flowerforyou:0 -
And by the way "princess moment" WTF people are we 12? Grow up it's just a friggin wedding people do it everyday. I hate how people spend so much on this stupid one day event and dont even really think about what it means...marriage for life. What's the average wedding now like $10K? $10K do you know what I could do with that money...I'd put a down payment on a house, get the BF teeth fixed, save it for my future surgery, put it into a college fund for my child, go on a long vacation, but to spend it on some stupid overly priced princess dress NO THANK YOU!
Sorry my little rant over weddings...waste o' money and time.
My wedding cost $9.99...that's right, folks there is a decimal point in there...less than $10. Gotta love Reno weddings, LOL
You might have the record...Reno is great
I think she does!!! WINNER!!
You know, come to think of it...they never gave us the pictures that were supposed to come with our $9.99 deal (yeah, it came with like 5 photos or something, LOL)0 -
If you can't do it, you can't do it. I personally wouldn't expect my friends to fork out that much money, especially for a rehearsal dinner.
My rehearsal dinner was a cookout at the apartment complex I lived at. We provided the burgers, dogs, chips, salads, dessert and bottled water. If they wanted extras, they were welcomed to bring it, especially the alcohol. Total cost for that: $100 for all the food for 25 people.
Did she come to your wedding? And if she did what was the present?
No, she didn't. We knew each other back then, but we weren't more than just acquaintances back then. lol
OH! Would now be the time to mention that I just baked a double layer cake with fondant covering for her daughter's boyfriend last weekend?
Honestly, sounds to me like your friend is taking the piss. I would just tell her outright that the expense is too high given your current situation (and IMO i dont see why guests should be expected to shell out a load of cash for others peoples weddings, and WTH is this fasination with rehersal dinners, you all know how to eat, right???)0 -
I thought the wedding couple was supposed to cover rehearsal costs. I agree with everyone else, if she wants you to take photos then ask her to pay your food bill. Your covering your room, just say you can't afford to go to eat at those places but if she wants pics she can cover for you. I had my moms friend do our wedding photos, she offered. My mom told her we couldn't afford to fly her out, she said she would buy her own ticket and do the photos as our gift. But we paid for her food and room for her! There is always a happy medium, it's better to tell her now if you have an issue than after the wedding when nobody can change what happened.0
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In my little world, the couple or the bride's family pays for the wedding and the reception. The couple or the groom's family pays for a rehearsal dinner - not the guests. I know a lot of couples are doing these destination weddings, but they can't really expect their friends to pay for all of that. And, it sounds like she's had a couple of "princess moments" already.0
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I'm not sure how to phrase this politely so I will just say it. She sounds pretty toxic. I mean, she's aware your husband isn't well, she's aware of how much a photographer costs and yet expects you to do it for free, rich as her future husband may be she's aware the value of a dollar and yet expects her guests to fork out so much.... And now you say you've baked cake for her? I have a feeling that I've had friends similar to her before. Always close when they need a favour and then far away when I'm in trouble. If it were me, I wouldn't even go to the wedding at this point.0
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Another thought who does she expect to pay for the printing of the pictures?0
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If you can't do it, you can't do it. I personally wouldn't expect my friends to fork out that much money, especially for a rehearsal dinner.
My rehearsal dinner was a cookout at the apartment complex I lived at. We provided the burgers, dogs, chips, salads, dessert and bottled water. If they wanted extras, they were welcomed to bring it, especially the alcohol. Total cost for that: $100 for all the food for 25 people.
If I ever get married, my rehearsal dinner will be a beer, porn, snuggie party. Bring your own snuggie.
What kind of porn it matters?
What kind do you like? I was planning on everybody writing down their preferences then we can draw them out of a hat and enjoy. Hopefully the more sick stuff comes after a few beers so we can all have a good laugh.
LOL @ sick stuff0 -
Another thought who does she expect to pay for the printing of the pictures?
No printing. She gets a cd after editing.
Oh! So there's more of my time.0 -
If you can't do it, you can't do it. I personally wouldn't expect my friends to fork out that much money, especially for a rehearsal dinner.
My rehearsal dinner was a cookout at the apartment complex I lived at. We provided the burgers, dogs, chips, salads, dessert and bottled water. If they wanted extras, they were welcomed to bring it, especially the alcohol. Total cost for that: $100 for all the food for 25 people.
If I ever get married, my rehearsal dinner will be a beer, porn, snuggie party. Bring your own snuggie.
What kind of porn it matters?
What kind do you like? I was planning on everybody writing down their preferences then we can draw them out of a hat and enjoy. Hopefully the more sick stuff comes after a few beers so we can all have a good laugh.
LOL @ sick stuff
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that nobody wants Two Girls, One Cup.0 -
In my little world, the couple or the bride's family pays for the wedding and the reception. The couple or the groom's family pays for a rehearsal dinner - not the guests. I know a lot of couples are doing these destination weddings, but they can't really expect their friends to pay for all of that. And, it sounds like she's had a couple of "princess moments" already.
This!0 -
I'm keeping my fingers crossed that nobody wants Two Girls, One Cup.0
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If you've done favors for her before, you're doing the photography for free, and you're taking the time to edit the photos for her instead of just giving her the raw photos, I think she should compensate you some.
I guess the question is, what events would you have gone to if you weren't her photographer? Those would be the events that I think she should at least help you and your husband out with. Maybe pay half?0
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