I just can't seem to start or stick with it!

jasmineruth

I would say that you need to set progressive goals, and not just scale goals. Success is extremely motivating. Losing 10 lb, buying jeans that fit, cooking dinner for yourself 5 days in a row, getting a 30 day logging streak, completing some kind of fitness activity, hitting a certain step count. Whatever you set as your goals, achieving things is so motivating. It feels so freaking good. On the other side of the coin, don't let days that you don't achieve your goals get you down. Don't focus on that. Log it. Move on. Wake up the next day and try again. If you go over your goal for an entire week, just log in again on day eight and try again. Eventually you will get it if you stick to it. It isn't about being perfect. I can't tell you how many days I have gone over my calorie goal, not exercised, not hit my step goal, gained a pound. But I'm still here and I've lost weight and kept it off. I've been either losing or maintaining for three years now with the exception of the odd pound that I quickly corrected and a healthy pregnancy that I gained an appropriate amount during. And that's how I've done it.

horrorfan

Thank you everyone for your kind and encouraging words of advice!

When it comes down to it, I realized that I have to be the one to decide. And so I did. I'm down 2.8 lbs in a week! I realize that's a lot, but for someone my size I know weight loss can be a bit rapid the first few weeks and then slow to normal.

It's strange, I found my motivation in the weirdest way. My cousin got me tickets to take myself and his son to WWE's Tables, Ladders, and Chairs pay per view last Sunday. I saw an amazing match between my favorite female wrestler and another girl and it just got me really pumped up for some reason! I've been logging consistently, replacing some of the bad foods with good ones, and finding constructive ways to battle cravings for the last week. I'm trying not to change too much too soon so that I can sustain.

Anyways, advice and tips are always appreciated!! Thank you, everyone.

irandra23

The video is great. Thanks for sharing.

Sued0nim

I did it by accepting the following truism

If I don't start and stick to it, I will stay fat.

Francl27

Make sustainable changes and don't go overboard with a huge deficit, intense exercise that you hate, and crazy food restrictions. It's really the best I can tell you. And when you have a bad day, you don't give up and you start again the next day. I wanted to lose 80 pounds and picked '1 lb a week'. It wasn't too crazy, I was still able to eat what I liked... just in reasonable quantities. And I walked a lot because it's what I like to do.

Unfortunately... motivation has to come from inside. But whatever you do... make yourself log it.

not_my_first_rodeo

For me, it's come down to making lifestyle changes rather than going on a diet. That's part of it, and it sounds like you were/are working on that.

The other piece for me is figuring out my relationship with food. That's involved keeping a journal and noting what's going on with me emotionally, at work, etc. when I go off plan.

JeromeBarry1

Demanding "constructive criticism" retains for yourself the editorial privilege of deciding what you shall regard as "constructive". Grow a hide, snowflake.

150poundsofme

AnarchistKitchen, super video, thanks for sharing
All I can say is I have been trying to lose weight for over 45 years and every day of the 45 years, I have thought about losing weight and wanting to be a different weight. Now I am old. Yes, I can still do this but I still struggle to lose. But I believe my life would have been filled with joy and self esteem if I was able to maintain a healthy weight in my 20's. You can do this! Best of luck!

caitlinbrianne0817

I don't have any tips but I'm in almost the exact same boat. I'm a couple years older at almost 25 but same height and weight. I know I need to get my act together but I just can't make myself do it. Sometimes I'll do really good for breakfast and lunch then just lose it at dinner. As far as exercise goes I haven't done any. I'm at meat cutter at a grocery store and it makes my hips hurt so bad. Once I get home that's pretty much it for the day. I've considered hypnosis but I know for most it's a mindset thing. If you go in believing it will work, then it probably will but if you to in skeptical then it will probably be a waste of money. Feel free to add me!

wally2wiki

horrorfan wrote: »

Hi everyone!

My name is Evelyn and I've been on MFP for about three years now. Before we begin, here are my stats:

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Height: 5'4"
CW: 261.8lbs
GW: 135lbs
Lifestyle: Sedentary

I've experienced a lot of ups and downs. I have had moments when I log and exercise consistently and lose weight (last one of those was around a year and a half ago) as well as moments when I gain it all back and don't open the app for a year, but it's starting to really get to me.

When I started MFP as a Senior in high school, I weighed 210 pounds. It was the most I had ever been and with the help of my Dad, we transformed our diet in to a whole foods, plant based lifestyle and we both lost weight. He lost nearly 100 pounds while I lost around 30.

Now, I weigh 261.8lbs. 30 of those 261.8lbs I gained in the last year. I can't seem to get it off for the life of me. It's never been this bad where I just can't stick to anything. I don't even know where to start. I can't afford a personal trainer so I've told myself to start with small goals: drinking more water or taking a walk every other day, but it's like all motivation in me is dead.

Any tips on how to get myself started? Am I doing something wrong? Is there something I can do to make a transition in to a healthier lifestyle easier? I might as well be new at this as I have no idea what to do. Everyone says to just suck it up and do it, but I've tried and tried again.

Any and all advice, tips, encouragement, or constructive criticism is appreciated.

horrorfan wrote: »

Hi everyone!

My name is Evelyn and I've been on MFP for about three years now. Before we begin, here are my stats:

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Height: 5'4"
CW: 261.8lbs
GW: 135lbs
Lifestyle: Sedentary

I've experienced a lot of ups and downs. I have had moments when I log and exercise consistently and lose weight (last one of those was around a year and a half ago) as well as moments when I gain it all back and don't open the app for a year, but it's starting to really get to me.

When I started MFP as a Senior in high school, I weighed 210 pounds. It was the most I had ever been and with the help of my Dad, we transformed our diet in to a whole foods, plant based lifestyle and we both lost weight. He lost nearly 100 pounds while I lost around 30.

Now, I weigh 261.8lbs. 30 of those 261.8lbs I gained in the last year. I can't seem to get it off for the life of me. It's never been this bad where I just can't stick to anything. I don't even know where to start. I can't afford a personal trainer so I've told myself to start with small goals: drinking more water or taking a walk every other day, but it's like all motivation in me is dead.

Any tips on how to get myself started? Am I doing something wrong? Is there something I can do to make a transition in to a healthier lifestyle easier? I might as well be new at this as I have no idea what to do. Everyone says to just suck it up and do it, but I've tried and tried again.

Any and all advice, tips, encouragement, or constructive criticism is appreciated.

Start really small and slowly. Set short term realistic diet goals every week. Every week change something about your diet.

Week 1: no sugar
Week 2: no fast food
Week 3: no snacks/ crackers
Week 4: start strength training
Week 5 add cardio.

At your current weight any change to your diet that is consistent will result in weight loss

Good luck

vespiquenn

wally2wiki wrote: »

horrorfan wrote: »

Hi everyone!

My name is Evelyn and I've been on MFP for about three years now. Before we begin, here are my stats:

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Height: 5'4"
CW: 261.8lbs
GW: 135lbs
Lifestyle: Sedentary

I've experienced a lot of ups and downs. I have had moments when I log and exercise consistently and lose weight (last one of those was around a year and a half ago) as well as moments when I gain it all back and don't open the app for a year, but it's starting to really get to me.

When I started MFP as a Senior in high school, I weighed 210 pounds. It was the most I had ever been and with the help of my Dad, we transformed our diet in to a whole foods, plant based lifestyle and we both lost weight. He lost nearly 100 pounds while I lost around 30.

Now, I weigh 261.8lbs. 30 of those 261.8lbs I gained in the last year. I can't seem to get it off for the life of me. It's never been this bad where I just can't stick to anything. I don't even know where to start. I can't afford a personal trainer so I've told myself to start with small goals: drinking more water or taking a walk every other day, but it's like all motivation in me is dead.

Any tips on how to get myself started? Am I doing something wrong? Is there something I can do to make a transition in to a healthier lifestyle easier? I might as well be new at this as I have no idea what to do. Everyone says to just suck it up and do it, but I've tried and tried again.

Any and all advice, tips, encouragement, or constructive criticism is appreciated.

horrorfan wrote: »

Hi everyone!

My name is Evelyn and I've been on MFP for about three years now. Before we begin, here are my stats:

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Height: 5'4"
CW: 261.8lbs
GW: 135lbs
Lifestyle: Sedentary

I've experienced a lot of ups and downs. I have had moments when I log and exercise consistently and lose weight (last one of those was around a year and a half ago) as well as moments when I gain it all back and don't open the app for a year, but it's starting to really get to me.

When I started MFP as a Senior in high school, I weighed 210 pounds. It was the most I had ever been and with the help of my Dad, we transformed our diet in to a whole foods, plant based lifestyle and we both lost weight. He lost nearly 100 pounds while I lost around 30.

Now, I weigh 261.8lbs. 30 of those 261.8lbs I gained in the last year. I can't seem to get it off for the life of me. It's never been this bad where I just can't stick to anything. I don't even know where to start. I can't afford a personal trainer so I've told myself to start with small goals: drinking more water or taking a walk every other day, but it's like all motivation in me is dead.

Any tips on how to get myself started? Am I doing something wrong? Is there something I can do to make a transition in to a healthier lifestyle easier? I might as well be new at this as I have no idea what to do. Everyone says to just suck it up and do it, but I've tried and tried again.

Any and all advice, tips, encouragement, or constructive criticism is appreciated.

Start really small and slowly. Set short term realistic diet goals every week. Every week change something about your diet.

Week 1: no sugar
Week 2: no fast food
Week 3: no snacks/ crackers
Week 4: start strength training
Week 5 add cardio.

At your current weight any change to your diet that is consistent will result in weight loss

Good luck

This is exactly why OP can't stick to anything - extreme changes like no snacks or sugar. Why? Unless she's diabetic, why is that necessary? I would hate my life if I needed to live out the rest of my days like this. Most people would.

Nothing needs to be changed about the diet. She just needs to eat less and move more. Sustainability is key.

cerise_noir

wally2wiki wrote: »

horrorfan wrote: »

Hi everyone!

My name is Evelyn and I've been on MFP for about three years now. Before we begin, here are my stats:

Gender: Female
Age: 20
Height: 5'4"
CW: 261.8lbs
GW: 135lbs
Lifestyle: Sedentary

I've experienced a lot of ups and downs. I have had moments when I log and exercise consistently and lose weight (last one of those was around a year and a half ago) as well as moments when I gain it all back and don't open the app for a year, but it's starting to really get to me.

When I started MFP as a Senior in high school, I weighed 210 pounds. It was the most I had ever been and with the help of my Dad, we transformed our diet in to a whole foods, plant based lifestyle and we both lost weight. He lost nearly 100 pounds while I lost around 30.

Now, I weigh 261.8lbs. 30 of those 261.8lbs I gained in the last year. I can't seem to get it off for the life of me. It's never been this bad where I just can't stick to anything. I don't even know where to start. I can't afford a personal trainer so I've told myself to start with small goals: drinking more water or taking a walk every other day, but it's like all motivation in me is dead.

Any tips on how to get myself started? Am I doing something wrong? Is there something I can do to make a transition in to a healthier lifestyle easier? I might as well be new at this as I have no idea what to do. Everyone says to just suck it up and do it, but I've tried and tried again.

Any and all advice, tips, encouragement, or constructive criticism is appreciated.

Start really small and slowly. Set short term realistic diet goals every week. Every week change something about your diet.

Week 1: no sugar
Week 2: no fast food
Week 3: no snacks/ crackers
Week 4: start strength training
Week 5 add cardio.

At your current weight any change to your diet that is consistent will result in weight loss

Good luck

Week 1: Not necessary for weight loss. A calorie deficit is.
Week 2: Not necessary for weight loss. A calorie deficit is.
Week 3: Not necessary for weight loss. A calorie deficit is.
Week 4: Good, but not necessary to start after 4 weeks. Exercise isn't for weight loss, it's for aesthetics.
Week 5: Not necessary for weight loss. A calorie deficit is. Good for cardiovascular health, though.