When life plays, how do you handle it.

navdeeprana

Since this is literally the ONLY social forum I come on, looking forward to hearing from folks out here.

I used to think that life is a bed or roses lol, and there are only good times, until recently I was reminded everything here is temporary, there will be good and for sure there would be not so good and worst times.

Looking forward for knowing how folks out here handle tough situations of life , when you are hammered by one bad thing after another one and so on.....as if it seems never ending cycle of bad times.

NO JUDGEMENTS

Stay Strong !!

Eash84

Unfortunately I nap....a lot.. Gotta get a better handle on lifes stresses.

thisonetimeatthegym

I take some advice I was given:

1. There is a season for everything. Winter doesn't last forever. This too shall pass.

2. Focus on today.

3. Don't make permanent decisions based on temporary problems (works well with advice #1).

Also, some stuff I found that helps:

1. Prayer

2. Long form of the Serenity prayer (the second paragraph is key)

3. A book called How to Be Happy No Matter What: Five Principles Your Therapist Never Told You by Richard Carlson, PhD

Motorsheen

To be serious for a moment ( a brief moment )....

It's taken me a while to fully understand that I can only control my reaction to any given situation.

The situation is given, my reaction is not.

Also, the outcome as a result of my actions (or inaction) is also beyond my control.

not stressing over what one cannot control is key.

thisonetimeatthegym

Motorsheen wrote: »

To be serious for a moment ( a brief moment )....

It's taken me a while to fully understand that I can only control my reaction to any given situation.

The situation is given, my reaction is not.

Also, the outcome as a result of my actions (or inaction) is also beyond my control.

not stressing over what one cannot control is key.

Good advice.

P.S. I don't think I've ever seen you serious.

thisonetimeatthegym

Eash84 wrote: »

Unfortunately I nap....a lot.. Gotta get a better handle on lifes stresses.

Stress sleeping - I read about that. At least you're not up and over eating....

KyleGrace8

I sleep and hide away in my house. Sometimes I do elaborate makeup and pretend I'm pretty. tbh I don't handle any issues, I just avoid them. Hmmmmm hug your pet way longer than they want.

Now stuff that would probably actually help: excersise, keep yourself busy, write a list of the good in your life, listen to happy upbeat music.

Motorsheen

thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

Motorsheen wrote: »

To be serious for a moment ( a brief moment )....

It's taken me a while to fully understand that I can only control my reaction to any given situation.

The situation is given, my reaction is not.

Also, the outcome as a result of my actions (or inaction) is also beyond my control.

not stressing over what one cannot control is key.

P.S. I don't think I've ever seen you serious.

yeah... I'm not going there again anytime soon; it's scary.

pudgy1977

Besides drink.....

I remind myself that I am still breathing...and to put one foot in front of the other until I come out on the other side. This is something I have had to practice for the last 6 months

thisonetimeatthegym

KyleGrace8 wrote: »

I sleep and hide away in my house. Sometimes I do elaborate makeup and pretend I'm pretty. tbh I don't handle any issues, I just avoid them. Hmmmmm hug you pet way longer than they want.

Now stuff that would probably actually help: excersise, keep yourself busy, write a list of the good in your life, listen to happy upbeat music.

All of this.

Writing out gratitude lists are really helpful,

Staying busy keeps your mind off stuff

Excercise gets endorphins going

Uplifting music uplifts your soul

thisonetimeatthegym

Cutaway_Collar wrote: »

I call my wife.

I call my mom.

I call my brother.

I go to church.

I go get myself panneer tikka, chicken kabobs and goat briyani.

I buy a new suit.

I lift weights.

I go teach in Harlem or Queens.

I come home and my wife and I spend time together.

Short: I rely on my family, the divine and take care of myself.

Great advice.

cwolfman13

In the past I have suffered from terrible bouts of anxiety trying to control things that I can in no way shape or form control. Through the years and some counseling, etc I've learned to let go and basically roll with the punches. When bad stuff happens, I know that it will ultimately pass even though it may feel like it won't.

RoxieDawn

I used to worry something to death. I do not any more. In short, I cannot control anything that happens to me other than my body mind and soul.

Everything else needs a formulated direct plan of action that takes a rational mind..

I have lost a child, so nothing can compare to anything than other than dealing with that, everything else is secondary to disease and death..

I use exercise, quiet time, me time, and fun time to destress when needed. I have found that living life a little simpler is much easier on the mind. And having an open mind at all times opens windows of opportunity.

ninerbuff

There are things you are in control of and some you aren't. It's the one's that people aren't that they worry about.
You handle the problem when it comes up or find ways to not let it become a problem in the first place.

A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition

thisonetimeatthegym

RoxieDawn wrote: »

I used to worry something to death. I do not any more. In short, I cannot control anything that happens to me other than my body mind and soul.

Everything else needs a formulated direct plan of action that takes a rational mind..

I have lost a child, so nothing can compare to anything than other than dealing with that, everything else is secondary to disease and death..

I use exercise, quiet time, me time, and fun time to destress when needed. I have found that living life a little simpler is much easier on the mind. And having an open mind at all times opens windows of opportunity.

Roxie!

Hugs. Wishing you abundant levels of peace and love.

RoxieDawn

thisonetimeatthegym wrote: »

RoxieDawn wrote: »

I used to worry something to death. I do not any more. In short, I cannot control anything that happens to me other than my body mind and soul.

Everything else needs a formulated direct plan of action that takes a rational mind..

I have lost a child, so nothing can compare to anything than other than dealing with that, everything else is secondary to disease and death..

I use exercise, quiet time, me time, and fun time to destress when needed. I have found that living life a little simpler is much easier on the mind. And having an open mind at all times opens windows of opportunity.

Roxie!

Hugs. Wishing you abundant levels of peace and love.

Thank you so much!!!! and the same to you!!!!

synchkat

I just keep plodding along because I believe that even in the darkest of times it's just temporary and there will be sunshine and unicorns again.

Lots of people think I suppress things and ignore them but I jus decide to see the good side I guess. Ya life sucks sometimes but we can't let it defeat us.

alyssa0061

I read this:

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.
As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.
If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain and bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.
Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.
Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.
Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.
Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.
Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.
Max Ehrmann, Desiderata, Copyright 1952.

Or I listen to Baz Luhrmann's 'Everybody's Free...' and dance around my kitchen

BoosDimples

I just keep going. Not a fan of the alternative .

rugratz2015

Don't sweat the small stuff, there are enough real problems without nit picking. I pick my battles, the rest I just gloss over and carry on. I have my children and hubby, they are the only really important people in my life and I know everything will work out the way it's meant to.
Reading 'The Secret' and various positive thinking quotes have helped me.