husband sabotaging my efforts!

Madux1818

AnAbsoluteDiva wrote: »

I ignore all the stupid stuff my husband does. It's why we're still married.

Lol, same here.

alyssa0061

He made the cookies for a potluck, not for your dinner

vmtama27

Sit and have a talk with him. Let him know how important this is for you and eventually he'll adjust. My husband grocery shops differently because of me and I'm very grateful for it

Nikki10129

Commander_Keen wrote: »

flatlndr wrote: »

Commander_Keen wrote: »

So he has no right to bake food, or have food that he likes, in the house just because his wife is on a diet? Sounds like a pretty crappy way to have a marriage.

And you would be the person, who would drink a keg, in front of the friend who trying to quite drinking.. Great friendship you would have.

I sat in a pub yesterday with two friends for two hours ... they had beer, I had water. My problem, not theirs. [/quote]

And your in AA? If not, then who cares[/quote]

If you're relying on your friends/family to change their habits in order to change your own you'll never succeed, it's as simple as that. My father was an alcoholic - and I mean serious, life ruining alcoholic, until he quit for himself and for his family and hasn't had a drink in 21 years. My mom still drinks, and drank around him while he was quitting, as well as my uncles and their friends. He is now the DD of family gatherings and everyone drinks around him all the time, but he doesn't. You can stop a bad habit while still being around triggers, it's up to you to decide if what your quitting for is worth it.

Like everyone has said OP, this is YOUR journey, not his. Talk with him and see if that helps, but it's ultimately up to you to be responsible for yourself.

aka62792

I agree, everyone I know Parties nonstop. I personally cannot stand drunks, so I leave parties pretty quickly. I have NO PROBLEM with any of my Family or Friends who do it.

Naina149

My husband does the same things but I wouldn't call it sabotage, he is going about his normal way of life. I'm the one who decided to make a change and I can't expect him to do so too, this is my journey, not his. During the week it's not that bad he eats whatever I cook for the most part but on the weekends I know to expect pizza, burgers etc in the house, if I want some I make sure it fits into my goals for the day log it in and go about my way or I will make sure my healthier meal is already cooked so when he eats whatever he brought home I won't be as tempted.

shetland

It's hard, but at the end of the day, YOU are the one in charge of YOU, and no one else. I have eliminated all sugar unless it is naturally in the food. I still have to cook for my husband and two kids who are not on a reduced sugar plan. It is hard, but I realize that I need to be able to be around it, cook for my family, and go out to restaurants, etc. While it would be really nice if he were 100% supportive and on-board, the reality is that he isn;t and most likely won;t be, so you will have to be strong and stick to your plan. If you 100% stick to it, at the end of the first week, you should be feeling SO much better and the cravings will all but disappear. The first week was the hardest when I cut out sugar.

courtneyfabulous

faramelee wrote: »

I wonder what @dufferoo makes of all of this?

Yeah I don't think I've seen any response from OP at all?

brebarlows

I would def. Want my husband to not flaunt cookies around me right at first! It is hard seeing those things! Fast food cookies sweets in general ....maybe just have a talk to him let him no hey I'm on a diet I need motivation! Maybe he will be more curtious try to snack when your not around at least until you get used to eating healthy! Just my opinion! Good luck

CatchMom11

xRezin wrote: »

My wife makes it very very difficult for me to watch my weight as well. And I got all the way up to 285 pounds, and then very very careful over the course of the next two years and got down on the 180ish.

She slowly introduced junk food and stuff back, and I climbed back up to about 235. Managed to stop and get down to 190 again.

But here we are same crap again. Nothing but junk food coming into the house and I'm back up to 203 already.

Many of you can have support, but take it from me... Weight loss journey is when you are truly alone on. Even if they TRY to be with you, you are still alone.

Is your wife force feeding you? Don't blame your wife for YOUR actions. YOU have to be accountable for YOU. You can control YOUR actions, not someone else's. You need to practice accountability and stop blaming your wife.