I hate my body

Orphia

But do you like yourself?

How to deal with your first statement depends on how you answer that question.

HappyGrape

I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear.
- Martin Luther King, Jr.

you posted in maintenance. Did you hit your goal weight and you find still need to work on self acceptance? It's pretty common, and you need to work on it. As we all do. There is a lot of looking for improvement areas and looking with critical eye during weight loss. Once you hit the goal, there must be some element of ... letting this critical eye go and learning to live more. Love your life more. Fill your life with things you love, do something for others, stop looking to find things that are wrong.

@Orphia nailed it with her question

trigden1991

Strong first post.

frannieshack

Unfortunately, society teaches us that we are never good enough. We all come in different shapes and sizes, that is what makes this world a wonderful place! Learn to accept yourself as you are now. Focus on your improving health, and your successes.

kenyonhaff

Society--specifically Western modernized society--teaches us to hate our bodies.

We hate them because they don't measure up to an ideal that is Photoshopped, airbrushed, or even animated. Or often subjected to surgery, heavy cosmetics, and camera tricks. Very often it is very specific, (age 21, white, blond, blue eyed, D cup).

It's the idea that we are only good enough if we measure up to something that actually doesn't exist.

And if we don't measure up to that, we're supposed to subject our bodies to modification as if they were machines that just need upgrading.

AnnPT77

trigden1991 wrote: »

Strong first post.

Empathetic 3,241st one.

daintyflower526

I hate it and how I've treated it. I'm 47 years old. At 34 I had to have open heart to fix a hole I had in my heart. I was so upset after that surgery and became addicted to narcotics. I allowed myself to gain upwards of 30 pounds and began having lots of knee problems. During the past 14 months I've had to have both of my knees replaced. Now that I'm a grandmother , I want to be able to be there for my kids and those babies. I've started eating better and exercising more. I still don't like my body but I'm hoping that in time we can enjoy each other again. Good luck to you.

Rocknut53

I hated my body. Then I gained a lot of weight and really hated it. Now, I've lost all that weight and discovered that, damn, that old body wasn't so bad after all. I wasn't out of proportion, my boobs weren't too small (I'm sure there would be some dissent over that opinion), my thighs weren't too big, my butt wasn't too big either. It's all perspective. Don't hate your body, do what you can to make yourself feel better whether it's losing some weight, getting in shape or just taking a good hard look at yourself and realizing it's not so bad.

nycalling6192

I also hate my body: it's why I'm busting my butt working out and eating healthy as opposed to gorging myself on Pad Thai and Pizza.

It's OK to hate your body to an extent, as long as you use that positively to work on yourself.

clh72569

I hated my obese body. I even hated my body when I achieved goal weight. But now 1.5 years into maintenance my body has stabilized. The wiggly flabby parts are getting firm and I now love my body!

TimothyFish

I hate your body too. I'm so glad I have my own.

emnarogsi

I didnt start disliking my weight until so someone in my family started pointing out that i was gaining weight and then i learned im 181lbs.

Jthanmyfitnesspal

andreabrookelafferty1209 wrote: »

I hate my body

Maybe you need couple's therapy (meaning between you and your body.) You can't exactly get a divorce.

jessicarobinson00

I'm not sure where to take this post... but when I hit maintenance, I was very disappointed that my ideal body weight didn't leave me looking the way I thought I should. I noticed more changes in maintenance + lifting than I ever did in a deficit, so maybe it's time to re-evaulate your goals. The body you want is in there, you just have to keep molding it.

JeromeBarry1

It's ok to hate what you did to your body, ok to change what you do to your body, and ok to love your body without it being POTUS's nice piece of kitten.