Ifeel like I'm in a perpetual pissy mood

kgirlhart

icemom011 wrote: »

So should i talk to my wife that my mood swings and irritability are possibly hormonal and i have very little control over it right now and I'm not just mean and b**tchy because she did something wrong. It's causing problems already, and I'm seriously worried. Or i should wait and try to do hormone levels check to confirm first that it's actually my hormones that gone whacky? Opinions?

I would definitely talk to her about it. Not making excuses for your behavior if you are treating her badly or saying it is ok to snap her, but just explaining what you think is going on and that you are having a hard time dealing with it. I don't know how old she is, but there is a good chance she will have similar issues herself some day. I would think as a woman she could be more empathetic than a man.

icemom011

@snowflake954 , i did try melatonin, and use it occasionally, it helps with falling asleep earlier. Thank you for your suggestion!

nowine4me

I'm 52 and still have regular periods, so I'm not sure where I stand with menopause. Also have lost 70# and have been a huge *kitten* while doing so. Sleep helps. Walking helps. Eating high nutrition food helps. But if I get really hungry, hide the guns.

Goober1142

I swear by St Johns Wort, Also B Complex and maybe some ginseng. It keeps my husband alive lol

try2again

This chart was shared on a perimenopause thread I follow. I think it pretty much says it all!

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You might be interested in the thread:
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10482404/is-it-over-yet-the-perimenopause-thread/p1

Edited: sorry- the link didn't work & can't find the original. It was a chart showing hormone levels before, during, & after menopause. The before was completely consistent & regular, after was flat-lined, but peri-menopause looks like a toddler just scribbled all over a paper!

lorrpb

How many calories per day do you eat?

Hoppymom

You are looking at a bunch of things. Perimenopause can definitely disrupt your sleep. If you aren't getting enough to start with that's another issue. Please start getting more sleep. I am personally a lot like a cranky two year old at bedtime. I have chores that aren't done sometimes, I have one more chapter to read or one more episode to watch. I have started going to bed and trying for 7-8 hours sleep a night a few weeks ago and it has made a tremendous difference in my attitude. Make this the first thing you try. It's free and you don't need medication. Good luck. having a negative attitude is very isolating. Even the people who love you don't want to be around you.

tabletop_joe

If you don't have abuse issues or Rx conflicts with alcohol, maybe have a small glass of very hoppy, low alcohol content beer with your dinner. Beer is relaxing to drink and some studies suggest the phytoestrogens (though very low) in the hops can effect hormone levels in humans. And if it doesn't work for you, you can simply stop having it instead of having to ween off like estrogen pills.

icemom011

Goober1142 wrote: »

I swear by St Johns Wort, Also B Complex and maybe some ginseng. It keeps my husband alive lol

I would keep that in mind,thank you.

try2again wrote: »

This chart was shared on a perimenopause thread I follow. I think it pretty much says it all!

hylm4clpzfhn.gif

You might be interested in the thread:
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10482404/is-it-over-yet-the-perimenopause-thread/p1

Edited: sorry- the link didn't work & can't find the original. It was a chart showing hormone levels before, during, & after menopause. The before was completely consistent & regular, after was flat-lined, but peri-menopause looks like a toddler just scribbled all over a paper!

Yes, something definitely is happening in this department, my periods just suddenly stopped in February, then had a random one in June, then nothing again. Had hormones checked, dr. said all looks ok, but still no periods? I don't take any meds for it, melatonin and caffeine free tea is what i do to help me fall asleep, and it's a work in progress. I've made some improvements, so i sleep 7 1/2 hours most nights, yeah! Also want to try gmo-free organic soy milk, isn't there some estrogen that can possibly help?

icemom011

tabletop_joe wrote: »

If you don't have abuse issues or Rx conflicts with alcohol, maybe have a small glass of very hoppy, low alcohol content beer with your dinner. Beer is relaxing to drink and some studies suggest the phytoestrogens (though very low) in the hops can effect hormone levels in humans. And if it doesn't work for you, you can simply stop having it instead of having to ween off like estrogen pills.

I'm not much of a drinker, on a rare occasion, but i do make kombucha, that i drink daily, and i guess because i don't drink much, i get very light buzz out of it, so there's that.
I started this thread back in January, so there are some positive changes for me, I'm happy to report that . Not all is great, of course, but definitely improvements.
I appreciate all the support and advice, it also helps to know that I'm not the only one dealing with this, so thanks to all of you who responded without blaming it on "being a woman", although there might be a sliver of truth to that