A few questions for all of you

PersianKitty94

Lets say you are married. Lets say you also have a sister/brother. How would you react to finding out that your significant other cheated on you with your sibling? And ended up getting married? If you were the sibling who broke up this marriage, would you ever trust the guy/girl you stole from your sister ? This isn't about my life. Just something that happened to a very distant family member.

AdamAthletic

They wouldn't be my significant other for too much longer and my sister/brother would have a lot of explaining to do too.

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synchkat

So your husband cheated on you with your sister and then they got Married?
Isn't thst illegal since you and he were already married?

PersianKitty94

synchkat wrote: »

So your husband cheated on you with your sister and then they got Married?
Isn't thst illegal since you and he were already married?

You find out about it so you divorce him/her and then they get married.

GreenGoddess22

This kind of sounds like a Lifetime movie.

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Just_J_Now

This literally happened in my family. Not pretty.

RoxieDawn

Really really hard feelings..unforgivable. I feel for the person this happened to.

jennybearlv

I have a brother and were both straight, so can't totally put myself in their shoes, but that just seems incestuous and gross. Unless you are Robert Plant, because rock stars do things differently. If I wasn't directly involved I would just mind my own business and not take sides. Never take sides in family squabbles, ever. If this is an "asking for a friend" situation I'd say if you can deal forgive and forget. You only get one family. If it's too much to handle emotionally say goodbye to both, because they come as a pair.

PersianKitty94

jennybearlv wrote: »

I have a brother and were both straight, so can't totally put myself in their shoes, but that just seems incestuous and gross. Unless you are Robert Plant, because rock stars do things differently. If I wasn't directly involved I would just mind my own business and not take sides. Never take sides in family squabbles, ever. If this is an "asking for a friend" situation I'd say if you can deal forgive and forget. You only get one family. If it's too much to handle emotionally say goodbye to both, because they come as a pair.

I'm not trying to take sides. When I heard about it, I was just surprised that something like that actually happens.

JohnnyPenso

The cheating spouse and sibling I could never trust again. My sibling I could forgive because family, the ex-spouse no way. I'd never attend a family gathering either if the two of them were there, except for maybe a wedding or funeral.

Bucknutz247

How much will the proctologist cost.? Because one of them is gonna be removing my boot from there *kitten*.

Miz_T

I'd say family reunions just got interesting.

Lounmoun

PersianKitty94 wrote: »

Lets say you are married. Lets say you also have a sister/brother. How would you react to finding out that your significant other cheated on you with your sibling? And ended up getting married? If you were the sibling who broke up this marriage, would you ever trust the guy/girl you stole from your sister ? This isn't about my life. Just something that happened to a very distant family member.

I would no longer have a spouse or sibling. The only situation that might be forgiveable to me is if I was in a coma for 5+ years and they got together and fell in love during that time.
I would not have a affair with nor would I marry my sibling's spouse. That is against my code of behavior as a sibling and a spouse.
If the sibling or myself divorced and we got together after their relationship was well over then that would be different.
I don't like my siblings' spouses or dh's sibling much as friends much less a potential romantic partner.

kschwab0203

No freaking way would I ever have anything to do with either of them. Family or not I just could not ever reconcile that relationship.

I had a best friend do that to me years ago...I couldn't imagine the pain of having a family member doing it.

FairhavenDS

Their sudden death was a shock to the entire family.

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LiftingRiot

I would say none of this sounds good. That is some serious betrayal.

TheRoadDog

happilymegan wrote: »

I would wish them best and remove them from my life.

Good advice.

glassyo

I don't get how people can forgive the sibling. It takes two to tango and both betrayed the person's trust...not just the husband. *kitten* that *kitten*.

LittleLionHeart1

The TV Show Snapped. I would be on it.

MsAmandaNJ

I only have a brother, neither he nor my husband are interested in men, so I guess I'm safe.

I had an acquaintance "steal" my boyfriend in college. He broke up with me and ended up with her less than a week later (they were "best friends"). It hurt, I was pissed, but I came to understand that we obviously weren't meant to be together and wished them happy times. When they broke up, I was there for both of them.

Married or dating, doesn't matter to me...when I'm with someone, I'm committed. That said, I'm always a bit cautious because I know feelings can change.

As for the follow up, I dated a guy I knew cheated on his girlfriend before. Eventually, I discovered he had been cheating on me with her...glad I didn't put out. I give people the benefit of the doubt, trust until I'm given a reason not to. People can change, but not everyone will. If they were remorseful for how they went about things and communication continued, I'd trust them. Once communication broke down and they showed signs of being unhappy, that's when concern of them straying would set in.

frannieshack

It is very egotistical to think that a cheating man would be faithful to me, but not my sister. Takes the sibling rivalry thing to a whole nother level. I would totally cut ties with both of them, they probably deserve each other.

jnichel

My wife may like the ladies but my sister doesn't, so I'm safe.

evilokc

My brother is my best friend. I cant even imagine him betraying me.

KyleGrace8

This is honestly my worst nightmare. I would kill both of them at the time of learning they had slept together during the marriage. There would be no time for them to get married point blank. I would never date/marry/sleep with a sibling's spouse or ex spouse or someone they had been seriously involved with.
( I have two stories though)
But something like this has come up with me and my sister. It's only assumptions and probably just my paranoia but I was sick with the thought that my sister had hooked up with a guy I was infatuated with and was involved with first. If I ever found out that they had hooked up even though he wasn't with me at the time and even now years later...I would disown her. I wouldn't care if she hooked up with the same guy I did IF it wasn't someone I was serious about. I just had real feelings for him and she was well aware of that. I don't run around a claim every guy in sight but he's literally the only one I would be deeply hurt about.
But get this, and this sounds hypocritical but bear with me. I ended up with involved with a girl my brother had previously dated or maybe made out with I'm not even sure to what extent. This chick and I are at a bar with our friends and I'm letting her use my phone and such. Time passes and someone walks into the bar and I go to look but she grabs my face and starts making out with me and I'm fine with that obviously. Come to find out she had texted my brother to show up there and this was a ploy to start drama bc she's that kind of a person. He was like F U Kyle! and I had to run after him and explain that she was trifling and he got over it right away bc he knows that chick is trifling.
The difference in these situations was that my brother was never in love with that girl and whatever thing they had was maybe like....a week. Additionally I forgot they had ever had a thing to begin with. Also me and the girl never technically hooked up just 2nd base. I'm not even sure if she hooked up with my brother that's how not serious they were. ( I didn't ask be I don't want to throw up) ALSO... I never witnessed them together in the same room so I didn't associate her with him at allllllll bc it's disturbing when I think of that connection now.

Point: Don't screw your family member's wife/husband? It just seems like the polite thing to do.

amandaeve

I think these sorts of things happen more than we want to admit. I would go through all the painful stages of grief. Then I would try to get to know both people as who they are now and not who I thought they used to be. I would hate to think that my own hurt could cause a divide between people I loved and hope that I could get over it and grow emotionally as an adult.

Momtafo

Snipping a few limbs off the family tree. Buh-bye!!!!

PhillyBlazen76

Omg! That's crazy! Hellllll No! That trust is gone and the relationship with the Fam is over. True indeed their still Fam but that's still no excuse!!!