What do you do when you feel unattractive?

JukeboxHeroine

Hi everyone. This is my first thread so go easy on me.

Do you ever have days you feel unattractive? I'm sure we all do, but how do you get out of that funk? Yesterday was one of those days for me. As I was getting ready for church I wasn't happy with how I looked. Not so much my figure ( it needs work) but just my appearance in general. I was a late bloomer and my mom was a tomboy. She was no help in the hair, makeup, clothes department. I had no teacher so I've slowly had to teach myself and to be honest at almost 33 I'm still not great at it ( my eyeliner technique is non existent). Usually I feel ok with my appearance but lately I just feel like the dowdy chick. In my twenties it seemed like I knew I wasn't that attractive so I made sure I had a dynamic personality ( I'm still the funny, witty one IRL). Im happy with my life but obviously my view of myself needs some work. I'm super busy, I work 2 jobs and have a family but it's like I can't shake it right now. So I'm asking, what do you do to help shake it off?

(I am not posting a picture as I don't want this to seem like I'm fishing for compliments.)

synchkat

Everyone feels unattractive from time to time. Sometimes we just have the blahs, it's that time of the month, who knows why really.

regarding make up technique go to a make up counter and as for some help. They will be more than happy to teach you what to do, yes they'll want to sell you products but they will be more than happy to help.

I get out of the blahs by shopping. But wearing something new or newer that you know you look fabulous in is a real confidence and mood booster

perkymommy

You could try styling your hair different. That works for me sometimes.

Cerealsensei

I go to the mirror, look at my beard,and remind myself im pretty damn awesome. Even if i dont feel that way i say it to myself, sometimes you gotta fake it til you make it.

RoxieDawn

I do and certainly others do as well. I have lower confidence days when my hormones are raging.. If you are in a different slump perhaps things going on in your life slowing you down and stressing you out more, this contributes to confidence as well.

So on these 'I do not care days', I just let these days be off days, and let other things in life matter most. I am loved no matter what I look like by my family, so I always remember that.

I have a go to way to throw the hair into some acceptable way that looks like I cared that day, and I just let my natural state take over and say screw the world. You will find a way to deal with certain emotions you are having at the moment. I have what I call "everything is in balance days".. these are the days when everything is aligned as perfect as they can be. Not every day or week will be like this.

Gimsteinn

Right now I feel very un attractive so I'm wearing my fatty clothes (the clothes that are way to big on me right now) and eating skyr out of the container with a big spoon...

(p.s. skyr is like super healthy with awesome stats... this is what I do instead of hiding in my PJ's eating ice cream out of the container with a huge spoon, fatty clothes reminds me of how far I've come and the skyr is a good replacement lol)

Gondowolf

I usually feel unattractive when im bloated from eating junk food.Even when i had abs, if i get bloated i felt like the ugliest person in the world remember the feeling after a ,,sugar high,, is bad so don't ever go crazy with the amount of sugar you eat.

NYCDutchess

You SHOULD post a picture... let people tell you what you REALLY look like. And if there is some advice someone can give, take it in stride. Sometimes we NEED to hear the good that we don't see.

Trust me, right now I feel chunky, like I look a little old and like I really should go put some make up on...

brookielaw

Yes. We all have days like that. A few years back one of my friends told me that sometimes, no matter how you feel, you just have to slap on an extra layer of lip gloss and hold your head high. Her philosophy has never done me wrong. If you can force yourself to fake it, you eventually feel it.

Tblackdogs

I have two answers for you....re the clothes, makeup, hair. Get some professional help. Ask a salesperson to recommend some cute outfits, keep trying things on until you find something you love. For me, anything hot pink (t-shirt, polo shirt, sweater) makes me feel better about myself. Seriously. Makeup is something that professionals can help you with FOR FREE. Or you can pay for a consultation. Hair, same thing. I have average hair, in a simple cut but I found some coconut oil that makes it shiny, a hair brush that doesn't make it staticky and sometimes just giving it a good brush makes it look awesome (And I'm 51, not so easy). I also recommend highlights because they make you look sunny and bright. I don't color my hair anymore but I keep thinking about those highlights!

Then the second answer....kind of related to the first. Find LITTLE things that help. i.e. the pink t-shirt for me. I realized that as I got older my skin looked and felt dry. I found a great (and cheap) lotion that can be a deal changer for me on a day I feel icky. I have a pair of boots I bought in the summer (crazy right?) and have worn almost every day this fall and winter. I love them so much and they make me feel awesome. Scarves or earrings? A great jacket or a lipstick? I think that the most confident people have a uniform or a style and that works for them.

If you have young kids you might put their needs before your own and that's just silly. You're important and special. We all are!

TheRoadDog

I shave my head.

synchkat

Gimsteinn wrote: »

Right now I feel very un attractive so I'm wearing my fatty clothes (the clothes that are way to big on me right now) and eating skyr out of the container with a big spoon...

(p.s. skyr is like super healthy with awesome stats... this is what I do instead of hiding in my PJ's eating ice cream out of the container with a huge spoon, fatty clothes reminds me of how far I've come and the skyr is a good replacement lol)

I only get skyr now at the store. a bit of that is like a meal

angelxsss

I do grooming things like pluck my eyebrows, put on a face mask, shave my legs, curl/straighten my hair, brush my teeth, put on a hair mask, paint nails, etc. It either makes me feel better or just wastes enough time until it's time for me to go to sleep and face a new day.

BootCampC

the best thing you can do is wear your smile.. deodorant also helps

CasperNaegle

That is a great question.. I usually grumble about it for a while, try to forget it and move on. Everyone has fat feeling days I think. Just can't let it hold you down for long.

Carbkiller1970

Exercise longer and harder

FeraFilia

I'm 33 and I never learned a thing about hair, makeup, or clothes. I feel unattractive almost every single day.

Some days, I feel bad enough I make zero effort because I feel like I'm not worth the effort. Other days a little makeup and an outfit I like helps. Sometimes cute lingerie gives me a confidence boost. There are rare days I even feel pretty.

I hope the suggestions others have offered help you out. Everyone deserves to feel good about their appearance.

Gallowmere1984

Hold a pec/trap/lat flex until veins pop up all over my shoulders. Shoulder veins should cheer anyone right the *kitten* up.

ronjsteele1

I'm pretty much like you in terms of what I was taught for hair and makeup. So I did the next best thing. I went to one of my friends that I admire and asked her to help me learn to do my makeup and pick out clothes that are flattering on me (if there is such a thing as flattering on my overweight body). For my girls, we made a day of it and I took each of them to her house and she taught them what colors would look good on their skin, etc. I found a beautician that is one of those people that can look at someone and tell them if a style will look good or bad on them and we talk it through. I found her the same way - I looked at my friends whose hair I really liked and asked them who they used.

As for my I feel bad about myself days - I get my nails done. For some reason, a manicure and nice gel polish that looks pretty can make everything else seem not so bad to me. So I guess just doing something nice for myself tends to make me feel a bit better.

Hang in there - we all go through it.

JLAJ81

I force people to tell me I'm pretty

Carbkiller1970

jjewell1981 wrote: »

I force people to tell me I'm pretty

Your very pretty