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  • dec056
    dec056 Posts: 87 Member
    kbmnurse wrote: »
    Graduate start your job and get out. They are toxic.

    I know it! It's just scary. I just have to get out.
  • dec056
    dec056 Posts: 87 Member
    I'm not in a financial position to leave at this very moment. In a few months I will be but idk if I can last that long. I may have to stay with a friend for awhile.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    I've you've already secured employment, count your pennies and decide if you can afford to move out now to a cheap apartment near your future employment. If you can, do so. Frankly, it's better to leave with the clothes on your back than to pack a bag of sad mementos.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    edited March 2017
    dec056 wrote: »
    I'm not in a financial position to leave at this very moment. In a few months I will be but idk if I can last that long. I may have to stay with a friend for awhile.

    Don't you pay some of their bills with your money? Take that money and go stay with friends asap. It more scary and dangerous to stay in the home than it is to find you a safe place to stay.
  • dec056
    dec056 Posts: 87 Member
    RoxieDawn wrote: »
    dec056 wrote: »
    I'm not in a financial position to leave at this very moment. In a few months I will be but idk if I can last that long. I may have to stay with a friend for awhile.

    Don't you pay some of their bills with your money? take that money and go stay with friends asap. It more scary and dangerous to stay in the home than it is to find you a safe place to stay.

    My income isn't high enough to pay bills consistently, but I do contribute. I can't work a lot due to school, so I have student loans. I have $1600 to my name right now. That's maybe enough for 4 months rent in a cheaper apartment. I also have to eat, pay my car insurance, and put gas in my car. My dad owes me $1300, which would really really help me right now.
  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    dec056 wrote: »
    RoxieDawn wrote: »
    dec056 wrote: »
    I'm not in a financial position to leave at this very moment. In a few months I will be but idk if I can last that long. I may have to stay with a friend for awhile.

    Don't you pay some of their bills with your money? take that money and go stay with friends asap. It more scary and dangerous to stay in the home than it is to find you a safe place to stay.

    My income isn't high enough to pay bills consistently, but I do contribute. I can't work a lot due to school, so I have student loans. I have $1600 to my name right now. That's maybe enough for 4 months rent in a cheaper apartment. I also have to eat, pay my car insurance, and put gas in my car. My dad owes me $1300, which would really really help me right now.

    You said 'stay with a friend' for a little while in a earlier post.. DO THIS! offer to pay them some money for rent of a room or their couch. Be looking for an apartment.. Forget the money your dad owes you its not worth any more conflict..

    Start working on this today.. don't wait, put up the MFP and call your friend. seriously start working on it.

    Good luck with all this.
  • Xvapor
    Xvapor Posts: 1,643 Member
    That's cheap!
  • neoke33
    neoke33 Posts: 15 Member
    Definitely see a therapist. Codependency can creep into every relationship you have for the rest of your life.
  • positivepowers
    positivepowers Posts: 902 Member
    As a nurse myself, a parent of three grown children, and an animal lover, I have to say . . . get out. Now. Take the dog, he didn't sign up for this crap either. Your parents did. If you can't take the dog with you, leave him with a no-kill animal shelter. It sounds like he'd be better off.
  • 777Gemma888
    777Gemma888 Posts: 9,578 Member
    edited March 2017
    As a Pacific Islander, having overbearing, selfish parents can come with the territory for a good majority.

    A few of our younger community members on our community website complained of issues very much like what you're highlighting, only that for them, it's abuse from parents, grandparents and uncles/aunts, as many live together in a generational family home. We (my sister and I) advised them to go to a military recruiting office closest to them, or save their money, fly to the UK and join the British Army. 5 of them have since completed their training (2 USNavy, 1 US Army, 2 US Airforce). Of the 5, the 23 year old female used her nursing degree and opted into attempting to qualify for the Officer Candidate School. She just announced her new rank to the community, is engaged and she and her military beau are being posted to Louisiana ( they must already be married, only have not revealed it to the family -posted together).

    #CallMeAProudAunt.

    ETA: She was 23 at the time of her complaint. US born, Nursing degree (Islands/Aussie) then a conversion Nursing Diploma certification of sorts here in the USA.

  • RoxieDawn
    RoxieDawn Posts: 15,488 Member
    As a nurse myself, a parent of three grown children, and an animal lover, I have to say . . . get out. Now. Take the dog, he didn't sign up for this crap either. Your parents did. If you can't take the dog with you, leave him with a no-kill animal shelter. It sounds like he'd be better off.

    Seconded.. and if this dog has potential to bite as you said earlier, its not safe to leave him in the home.

    Again good luck!
  • dc8066
    dc8066 Posts: 1,439 Member
    That's not life. If you are still in college, you should have access to a free counseling. You should check what kind of student services they have.
  • dec056
    dec056 Posts: 87 Member
    dc8066 wrote: »
    That's not life. If you are still in college, you should have access to a free counseling. You should check what kind of student services they have.

    We do have free counseling services at school.
  • dec056
    dec056 Posts: 87 Member
    neoke33 wrote: »
    Definitely see a therapist. Codependency can creep into every relationship you have for the rest of your life.

    I'm planning on it! Thank you!
  • dec056
    dec056 Posts: 87 Member
    Alas, there was another argument. I mentioned something about my dad's drinking to him and he told me to stfu and that he doesn't care if I leave. So there's that.
  • dec056
    dec056 Posts: 87 Member
    I've you've already secured employment, count your pennies and decide if you can afford to move out now to a cheap apartment near your future employment. If you can, do so. Frankly, it's better to leave with the clothes on your back than to pack a bag of sad mementos.

    I don't have enough to afford rent and living expenses. Looks like I have to either stay with a friend or tough it out a few more months.
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