Does your significant other hold you back on diet needs?

KosmosKitten

Hmm.. I suppose I'm fortunate in the fact that I have a partner (almost ten years now) that does support my efforts and will both eat my cooking and actually measure out ingredients when I have him cook. The only downside is that he relies more heavily on exercise to maintain or lose his weight and continues to bring all sorts of things into the house (for himself and me) when I don't ask for them or want them there.

Good news is that for the most part, I've learned enough restraint to not eat those foods, or eat them sparingly. His biggest weakness is ice cream. He'll buy a gallon and it'll be gone in less than three days. He buys me a tiny quart and it will be in there for months before I eat through it.

Sad thing is, there's no way we can exercise together due to his job and having a child. Bit of a bummer, but this is my journey, not his.

melaniedscott

brybatman wrote: »

lilawolf wrote: »

My ex started going to the gym but quit... I kept going and started running and starting doing martial arts. I did all of the cooking, so I did the choosing. He did eat pretty much anything which was nice. He was always free to make something else but was usually too lazy and did eat his veg... Probably helped that my diet included pizza once a week

But... It was also one more thing that we stopped having in common. Yet one more reason that we grew apart and it didn't work out.

Thats pretty much along with other factors would lead to having distance in my case. I'd wake up Sunday morning, nice day, I'd want to go out for a run, or Hell see she'd want to join with a casual walk, she'd say shes not a morning person & wouldnt get up, or say "Your day off, & you dont even want to stay in bed & cuddle", so then im torn, I'd eventually leave though cause Im not big on sleeping in.

My hubs is a sleep-in-on-the-weekend kind of guy and I'm usually away by 6 or 6:30...I might stay for snuggles for an hour or so (read a book)...but eventually, gotta get up. And he gets that. Trying to make you feel guilty is not a mature choice.

I have to say, that double chocolate porter sounds amazing...

Lounmoun wrote: »

Incompatible people (different lifestyle, different interests, different beliefs, etc) seem to fizzle as a couple if one is always caving to the other's wishes while getting resentful. People who have some differences but compromise more seem to be able to keep going as a couple.

The key is not being resentful and compromise. I love all things veggie. I love fish. I love quinoa. I like Korean food. Hubs, not so much. The list of veg he dislikes is pretty long...but if I wanted to cook them, he'd be cool. He might not eat it, but he wouldn't hate that it was there or act like a kitten about it (except for cooked peppers...he claims the smell makes him queasy). I choose not to cook things he doesn't like unless I'm only cooking for myself. And if he really isn't into something I've cooked, he can eat a peanut butter sandwich (and does, happily). I go out for Korean with a friend, 'cuz I know he doesn't like it. It's about balance. I like what I like and he likes what he likes. There's overlap and that's where we tend of work from. I don't love sandwiches...I swear that when we met, he had a neon sign that would appear on his forehead twice a week that said, "Yellow Sub"...so occasionally, we'd go there. But if I wasn't into it, we would skip it for something we could agree on. Communicate!

OP, it doesn't sound like your SO was into honest communication and wanted to play manipulative pouting games to get what she wanted. Yikes! You're probably better off without her.

massjenacide

My husband and I are separated right now, but yeah, I experience him setting me back on so much, diet and exercise included. I would often tell him not to bring soda or treats home for me and he would do it anyway. I know he was doing it as a sign of "affection", but to me, it started to feel like complete disregard to my desires.
If I tried to work out in the house (I have to get up early to get any exercise in) Iwould have to be super quiet and keep the lights super low so he wouldn't get up and be grumpy.
I would often be so tired after a day of dealing with him and work and our children that I just stopped trying to get fit or eat right. Now I just feel horrible about myself with everything that's gone on, and I want and need to get back on the train.

DapperDassie

Fortunately, no. I'm really lucky that my boyfriend is actually my personal trainer. He's helped my weight loss immensely and motivates me with how fit he is

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irxproductions

If your partner cooks dinner and it's not the healthiest, don't forget that you're in control of how much you eat. You can eat anything if you watch your portions. Use MFP to find a close substitute and use that including portion controls.

Let's say your significant other makes homemade tacos. Well, you can probably bet their tacos are healthier than, say, Taco Bell's. So, why not use Taco Bell's calorie counts to record your dinner?

This technique works for pretty much anything. Do a search in MFP for what you're eating and pick a result that sounds like it'd be close in calories (or, if you want to really work yourself, pick a MFP choice that sounds even unhealthier than what you're eating), and then use that. Restaurants like TGIFriday's or Denny's and other chains are notoriously unhealthy, so use their calorie counts for homecooked meals (or food you're eating which doesn't have an exact match).

That's what worked for me when someone made me a dinner that might not be totally healthy.

Ironandwine69

My husband lifts and is into a healthy lifestyle. However he doesn't count and laughs when I say "macro". I don't change the way I cook when Im trying to lose weight. I just eat less. Anything over the board gets annoying.