Does he want me to tell my father about us ?
girlonfire37
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They guy I'm seeing has only met my mom he hasn't met my dad because every time he comes around my dad is gone or at work. But today when I came back home my dad was actually outside our home doing yard work.. but I didn't introduce the guy I'm seeing to my dad I just got out of his car ... So later the guy that I'm seeing texted me and asked me "did you tell your dad about me ?" And I said "no I didn't " and he said "why not?" So I'm wondering should I mention something to my dad yet or not because we aren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend
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What does your dad look like?
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How old are you?0
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girlonfire37 wrote: »
You said you and this guy aren't "officially boyfriend and girlfriend", so what are you? Maybe you need to have that talk with the guy you've been seeing.3 -
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Ah to be 21 again....9
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If he's not your boyfriend maybe it's too soon to be bringing him around your parents house at all? How did you introduce him to your mum? And why? Maybe you're sending mixed signals? It's reasonable for him to question why you didn't introduce him to or mention him to your Dad when you had an opportunity.2
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girlonfire37 wrote: »
okay; thanks.... you're good to tell him that you have a new friend.
he's a guy, he'll understand.3 -
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Dads see EVERYTHING. If he wanted to know who your male friend was, he would have asked you directly. Unless he thinks an Uber driver dropped you off.3
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girlonfire37 wrote: »They guy I'm seeing has only met my mom he hasn't met my dad because every time he comes around my dad is gone or at work. But today when I came back home my dad was actually outside our home doing yard work.. but I didn't introduce the guy I'm seeing to my dad I just got out of his car ... So later the guy that I'm seeing texted me and asked me "did you tell your dad about me ?" And I said "no I didn't " and he said "why not?" So I'm wondering should I mention something to my dad yet or not because we aren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend
So why didn't you introduce them?0 -
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girlonfire37 wrote: »They guy I'm seeing has only met my mom he hasn't met my dad because every time he comes around my dad is gone or at work. But today when I came back home my dad was actually outside our home doing yard work.. but I didn't introduce the guy I'm seeing to my dad I just got out of his car ... So later the guy that I'm seeing texted me and asked me "did you tell your dad about me ?" And I said "no I didn't " and he said "why not?" So I'm wondering should I mention something to my dad yet or not because we aren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend
Do you have a reason not to tell your father you are dating?
Since the guy met your mom it seems odd you wouldn't even mention you were dating him to your dad unless your dad is going to go insane about it.
Maybe your guy friend just wants to know if there will be problems in future.
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girlonfire37 wrote: »Did you kiss this boy yet?TavistockToad wrote: »girlonfire37 wrote: »They guy I'm seeing has only met my mom he hasn't met my dad because every time he comes around my dad is gone or at work. But today when I came back home my dad was actually outside our home doing yard work.. but I didn't introduce the guy I'm seeing to my dad I just got out of his car ... So later the guy that I'm seeing texted me and asked me "did you tell your dad about me ?" And I said "no I didn't " and he said "why not?" So I'm wondering should I mention something to my dad yet or not because we aren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend
Do you have a reason not to tell your father you are dating?
Since the guy met your mom it seems odd you wouldn't even mention you were dating him to your dad unless your dad is going to go insane about it.
Maybe your guy friend just wants to know if there will be problems in future.
Yes we kissed but we are taking it slow we haven't had sex yet or anything like that I just didn't want him to meet anyone until we were official that's all
so tell him you aren't introducing him to your dad till you're official....1 -
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Every boy that ever dated my daughters had to come in and meet me.1
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girlonfire37 wrote: »Did you kiss this boy yet?TavistockToad wrote: »girlonfire37 wrote: »They guy I'm seeing has only met my mom he hasn't met my dad because every time he comes around my dad is gone or at work. But today when I came back home my dad was actually outside our home doing yard work.. but I didn't introduce the guy I'm seeing to my dad I just got out of his car ... So later the guy that I'm seeing texted me and asked me "did you tell your dad about me ?" And I said "no I didn't " and he said "why not?" So I'm wondering should I mention something to my dad yet or not because we aren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend
Do you have a reason not to tell your father you are dating?
Since the guy met your mom it seems odd you wouldn't even mention you were dating him to your dad unless your dad is going to go insane about it.
Maybe your guy friend just wants to know if there will be problems in future.
Yes we kissed but we are taking it slow we haven't had sex yet or anything like that I just didn't want him to meet anyone until we were official that's all
That's good. Official means engagement ring with a set wedding date. That would be the right point to introduce him to your father and who ever else is important. Unless official means something else to you?
surely official is when he asked the father for her hand in marriage....?0 -
I don't see why you have to tell your parents. Unless you need permission to date then I can understand. What's the rush? When the time arises to tell them then do so, until then decide if you gonna be his girlfriend officially or not.0
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How is this a massive discussion? Instead of asking people who could be thousands of miles away whether we think your "maybe/maybe not bf" wants you to tell your father about whatever "it" is that you guys are...
how about, and this is out the box thinking here, bear with me because this is going to get a bit crazy, I'll try and pin this down to just a few powerpoint presentations, tell me if I lose you on any of this btw, just a thought no need to take the advice...
how about ask the dude?4 -
How times have changed. Personally as "the guy", I would have just went over and introduced myself. That's what I did growing up with EVERY girl I was dating, unless it was just one parent.
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MrStabbems wrote: »How is this a massive discussion? Instead of asking people who could be thousands of miles away whether we think your "maybe/maybe not bf" wants you to tell your father about whatever "it" is that you guys are...
how about, and this is out the box thinking here, bear with me because this is going to get a bit crazy, I'll try and pin this down to just a few powerpoint presentations, tell me if I lose you on any of this btw, just a thought no need to take the advice...
how about ask the dude?
I also suggested this. Maybe we're both just a bit crazy to think people who are seeing each other should communicate?3 -
Always introduce people. Who knows what the future holds, but at that moment when you are in the company of two people who don't know each other, it is up to you to make introductions. It is awkward when you don't.
You just say,"Dad, this is my friend Channing. (...then give a second sentence that explains the basics of why you are with Channing, like Channing took me out to lunch - Channing had me try on underwear for him at the mall - Channing and I matched on Tinder - Channing is helping me scratch an itch, etc...)
Then Channing and your Dad can recognize each other the next time if they see each other without you around.
Just do it.3
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