Does he want me to tell my father about us ?

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  • Badger_Girl99
    Badger_Girl99 Posts: 2,220 Member
    Isn't it just normal to say "hey dad, this is so-and-so"? Not that hard.
  • SoulRadiation
    SoulRadiation Posts: 1,060 Member
    edited April 2017
    Your dad probably already pulled your boyfriend's credit report and followed him around all day. Your boyfriend spotted him and your dad knows it...so your dad is being shifty and always having a convenient excuse not to be around because he doesn't want to get recognized.

    ...at least, that is what I would do.
  • joseccastaneda
    joseccastaneda Posts: 267 Member
    Not just respect, but if something happens to my kid, i want to know where i'm going to go find this person.
  • kschwab0203
    kschwab0203 Posts: 610 Member
    My fiance and I were dating for close to six months before he met my dad and that was actually by coincidence. He was at my house when my dad came by to drop something off. It was no big deal. I said "Hey Dad, this Joe" - they shook hands and went about their business. No need to make it so complicated.
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  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    girlonfire37 wrote: »
    kschwab0203 wrote: »
    My fiance and I were dating for close to six months before he met my dad and that was actually by coincidence. He was at my house when my dad came by to drop something off. It was no big deal. I said "Hey Dad, this Joe" - they shook hands and went about their business. No need to make it so complicated.


    Well I wasn't making a big deal about it I just wanted to know if the guy I'm seeing wants me to introduce him lol
    Badger_Girl99 wrote: »
    Isn't it just normal to say "hey dad, this is so-and-so"? Not that hard.
    MrStabbems wrote: »
    How is this a massive discussion? Instead of asking people who could be thousands of miles away whether we think your "maybe/maybe not bf" wants you to tell your father about whatever "it" is that you guys are...

    how about, and this is out the box thinking here, bear with me because this is going to get a bit crazy, I'll try and pin this down to just a few powerpoint presentations, tell me if I lose you on any of this btw, just a thought no need to take the advice...

    how about ask the dude?

    How would we know better than him the answer to that question?!
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    girlonfire37 wrote: »
    newmeadow wrote: »
    Did you kiss this boy yet?
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    usmcmp wrote: »
    girlonfire37 wrote: »
    usmcmp wrote: »
    How old are you?

    21

    You said you and this guy aren't "officially boyfriend and girlfriend", so what are you? Maybe you need to have that talk with the guy you've been seeing.

    Friends with benefits, obvs!
    Lounmoun wrote: »
    girlonfire37 wrote: »
    They guy I'm seeing has only met my mom he hasn't met my dad because every time he comes around my dad is gone or at work. But today when I came back home my dad was actually outside our home doing yard work.. but I didn't introduce the guy I'm seeing to my dad I just got out of his car ... So later the guy that I'm seeing texted me and asked me "did you tell your dad about me ?" And I said "no I didn't " and he said "why not?" So I'm wondering should I mention something to my dad yet or not because we aren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend

    Do you have a reason not to tell your father you are dating?
    Since the guy met your mom it seems odd you wouldn't even mention you were dating him to your dad unless your dad is going to go insane about it.
    Maybe your guy friend just wants to know if there will be problems in future.

    Yes we kissed but we are taking it slow we haven't had sex yet or anything like that I just didn't want him to meet anyone until we were official that's all

    Except he did meet someone- your mom- and he didn't ask to be introduced just if you told your dad about him.

    Just talk to your non-boyfriend about what he wants and what you think about these levels where you feel the relationship will progress enough to do various milestone things. Like some weird video game.
    Start going places together sometimes but no intimate contact equals "friend" maybe?
    Kissing equals meeting mom apparently but not boyfriend status... special friend?
    Picking you up or dropping you off at home equals dating but not exclusive?
    Sex equals official boyfriend and meeting dad time?
  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
    @girlonfire37 wrote: »
    They guy I'm seeing has only met my mom he hasn't met my dad because every time he comes around my dad is gone or at work. But today when I came back home my dad was actually outside our home doing yard work.. but I didn't introduce the guy I'm seeing to my dad I just got out of his car ... So later the guy that I'm seeing texted me and asked me "did you tell your dad about me ?" And I said "no I didn't " and he said "why not?" So I'm wondering should I mention something to my dad yet or not because we aren't officially boyfriend and girlfriend

    It would be funny if you kept it a secret, got married, had kids and then one day brought the whole family over to see dad.

    I think everyone would have a good laugh.

    Ah, good times.


    Good times.

  • docbluey
    docbluey Posts: 3 Member
    I had all of my daughters' "friends" dig a hole on my property...just in case! :D You never know when you'll need a pre-dug hole...especially in the winter months... I guess what I'm saying is he'll need a heads up at some point soon.
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